Male sexuality doesn’t seem very mysterious, but in fact it is pretty complex. Many males complain that after being caged for a while, sex stops feeling as good. Some want to be freed because they mourn the loss of that great feeling. There are two facts about male sexuality that may help explain what is going on and how to remain caged and still have amazing orgasms.
- Being locked up “trains” the penis to avoid arousal. Most males report that after a while (days to weeks) in a cage without frequent stimulation, that when freed and given sexual release that the sex doesn’t feel as good. This is most likely due to a physical and mental lowering of sexual expectations. Prior to being caged, most of us knew that if we were teased or if we initiated sex (alone or with a partner), the eventual outcome would be ejaculation. Now, in our new lifestyle, while caged we learn that an erection doesn’t point to release, and if we are freed for a while, we just might end up teased and locked up again without ejaculating.
Of course we knew going in that this is how forced chastity works. But there is a big difference between knowing and internalizing the harsh reality of sexual frustration. We learn to deal with this in two ways: We teach ourselves to internalize the frustration and use it to feed our submissive / chastity fantasies. Our bodies don’t allow serious arousal until they are sure that the result will probably be ejaculation. As a result, if we are uncaged and our partner stimulates us directly to orgasm, we will probably ejaculate without a problem, but not enjoy the orgasm as much as we did before chastity.
- The male arousal curve flattens more than before caging. Females get aroused in a smooth buildup over time. They slowly get more and more excited until they orgasm. Males, on the other hand, get aroused enough to get hard, then very slowly get more aroused until just before ejaculation when over a few seconds arousal hits its peak and ejaculation occurs. Pre-lockup, since we had an expectation of ejaculating when stimulated, while not very steep, our arousal curve did grow as we were stimulated. By the time we hit the point of no return, we were ready.
Now we have learned that arousal probably doesn’t mean orgasm, so our bodies don’t allow our arousal to grow much until we are close to the point of no return. Basically, we get hard, wait, and when ejaculation is inevitable, over two or three seconds peak, squirt, and are done. We do have a real orgasm but it just doesn’t feel as good.
Coupled with having to wait and wait for a chance to squirt, it’s a big letdown to discover when we can let it go it just doesn’t feel as good. Contrary to common sense, the longer we have to wait, the higher the probability that it won’t be that much fun. Is there anything we can do? There is, but it has its price. One thing is to ask our keyholders to take extra time arousing us when we are uncaged. Maybe play with us for a while and then stop and do something else. Then a bit later start again. That will give our bodies a chance to get used to being aroused.
Of course, all that arousal may just end with us on the very edge of orgasm and being locked back up. That’s the risk. I, for one, like that idea. Psychologically, we are forced to believe we will ejaculate whenever we are aroused by our partner. If we don’t, then when we do get to come, it won’t feel as good. In short, if we want to be sure the occasional orgasm feels as good as the kind we used to have, we need to convince ourselves that every time we are sexually stimulated it will result in a nice orgasm. If we don’t convince ourselves of that, we risk the let down of an unsatisfying orgasm.
For most of us, caged males and keyholders alike, this is unexpected. It makes the delicious torture of orgasm denial that much more poignant. If we want the rare chance we get to come to feel really good, we have to help our keyholder maximize our frustration when she doesn’t let us come. In a way I like this idea. The more I think about it, the more I am enjoying the irony. Being a caged lion turns out to require me to learn new things about old pleasures.