July 2014

(Wednesday, July 30 2014) Last night Mrs. Lion continued my anal training. This time she used a very heavy chrome-plated butt plug. She said it was no wider (diameter) than the Njoy plug I have been wearing. We had some problem getting it in. It was because I was lying down flat on my stomach. The wide base of the plug was blocked by my cheeks. Next time I will be on my knees with my head on the bed. That should clear the way.

Anal training is one activity that requires consistency. Many people think that inserting larger and larger objects stretches the sphincters. Actually it doesn’t. Our assholes are remarkable. They have the ability to open much wider than we can imagine. The reason training is necessary is that in order for objects to get in (or out, for that matter), the muscles must relax. These muscles are normally contracted, sealing things in. Accepting anal penetration requires these muscles to “learn” to relax. Over time, as larger and larger objects are inserted, the muscles are trained to accept them.

This is not an entirely comfortable process. When an object is inserted it shouldn’t cause a sharp pain. If you feel a sharp pain, the object should be partially or completely withdrawn. Very often this pain is caused by lack of lubrication. Any time something is inserted anally, there must be a lot of lube. The one we like best is Boy Butter. It’s reasonably priced, washes off easily, and stays slippery for a long time. This is particularly important if an object remains up your ass for a long time. If the lube drys out, the object will “stick” painfully and make removal very difficult. If this happens, don’t force it out. Instead lube a finger and insert it next to the object and work your lubed finger around until you re-lubricate. Then the object should come out easily.

There is a mistaken impression that all males like anal stimulation. We all don’t. Many, however, find it very interesting and even pleasurable. Liking anal stimulation does not mean a male is gay or that he may be bisexual. All of us — men and women alike — have a lot of nerve endings in and around the anus. These nerve endings can provide intense sexual stimulation.

I like Mrs. Lion playing with my ass. I don’t get hard right now when she does. But once I get used to the sensations, I am sure that I will be visibly stimulated when she gives me attention there. Of course, last night I was caged so no erections could happen. In fact, I am just getting used to the sensations again so I wasn’t hard. I could feel a chubby in my cage later when I thought about our session.

Mrs. Lion wrote about being bored sometimes with the repetition of our activities. I can understand that. In my topping days I also would feel some boredom with spanking, anal play, sexual stimulation, etc. of my partner. My cure was to note progress. For example, I liked comparing how long it took to seat a plug each time. It was fun to see how I could get it in faster and faster without hurting my bottom. The same was true about spanking. I paid attention to how many hard swats I could administer before too much discomfort set it. Instead of focusing on the repetitive activity, I focused on the progress of my training. Anything I did could be measured. For example, in my case, Mrs. Lion could see how long or how many strokes it takes to get me to the edge. Or, she could see how long I can hold out.

I don’t know if this would work for her. It certainly worked for me. I enjoyed watching the progress and I particularly liked discussing this progress in great detail with my bottom. She would become my partner in her training. I think if this appeals to Mrs. Lion, she and I could do the same thing. We are doing that with the anal training. Maybe if we extend this sort of thing into other areas, it will restore the novelty and interest.