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In: Advice for a new keyholder, Lion's Journal, Male Chastity

We males frequently forget that our penises are mostly for urination, not sex. If you consider the number of hours a day you are not hard or having sex, you will immediately see that while sex may be the most fun, peeing is the main job. Wearing a chastity device makes peeing more difficult for most of us. I have to visually check to be sure my urethra is unobstructed by any bars. If I forget, I create a urine shower bath. Yuck! At home to avoid this risk, I usually pee sitting down. At work I use the urinal. However, even then I have to check and be sure the guy standing next to me can’t see my cage.

I’ve noticed that I have been adapting to these difficulties in ways that aren’t particularly good for me.  For example, to avoid dealing with frequent urination, I limited the the amount of liquids that I drank. After recent blood tests, I saw that my kidney functions were not as good as they should be. This was the direct result of dehydration. Now, I make a point of drinking and just deal with the inconvenience of peeing with the cage.

My point is that we often adapt to new situations without being consciously aware that we are doing it. Part of full time enforced chastity is learning new ways to do things. The key is to find those new ways without doing things that endanger your health.

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In: Keyholder, Male Chastity, Mrs Lion Comments

Last night I was thinking about Lion’s scheduled date for his next orgasm. It occurred to me that since I pick the date out of thin air for the most part, there’s no reason I couldn’t assign them far ahead of time. There’s no reason I couldn’t change them if I decided he should wait more or less time. I’m undecided if I should share those dates with him in advance though.

Lion is a scheduler. His work depends on having things marked out on a calendar. I know he likes having a set orgasm date. Would he like knowing the entire schedule for months ahead of time? I could see how it might be comforting to him to know when he will have release. Or he may not like the fact that there’s a gap of only four days followed by a gap of seventeen days. Then again, he may be able to plot out when he will use his valuable coupons if he has knowledge of a longer wait time.

Ultimately it is my decision. I shouldn’t be concerned with whether he wants to know or not. If I decide to tell him, he can always ignore the dates. It’s not like I’m having a huge poster of a calendar made so I can circle the dates in bright red. But wouldn’t that be a fun idea?

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In: Advice for a new keyholder, Chastity device fitting, Chastity hardware, Chastity Hardware Security, Lion's Journal

First of all, things are back to normal in the lions’ den. My libido is returning. Sunday’s play session and amazing oral orgasm seem to have done the trick. Mrs. Lion certainly knows how to push and pull my buttons and other parts. I was allowed to be wild for the balance of the afternoon and evening and then locked securely before bed.

One reader sent a question about chastity devices. He wants to get a steel cage, but doesn’t want the noise or bulk of a padlock. He didn’t know about security screws. My Mature Metal Jail Bird has a security screw instead of a padlock. This screw can only be (easily) removed with a special tool that came with the cage. Is it perfectly secure? Well, no. Is a padlock? Oh, no! Most small padlocks are easily picked, or can be cut off with a small pair of bolt cutters. Virtually any cage held in place by a cock and ball ring can be escaped by pulling the penis out and then taking the base ring off of the balls.

Pretty much everyone thinking of being locked up knows this. Based on my mail and reading, most all look for maximum security. They want a device that they can’t escape. As a result, many buy base rings that are too small and the poor guys spend time looking for lubes to ease the discomfort. The theory being that a smaller base ring is harder to pry their penis out. That’s probably true, But enough cold water, lube and pain tolerance will overcome the tightest base ring.  They know that too. So, some buy anti-pullout devices. These contraptions usually consist of pins, some are even sharpened into points, that are then fixed inside the base of the cage. Pulling out then becomes even more painful, maybe impossible for some. Well, there you go. Or do you? What happens if you get that midnight wood? You will wake up in pain when those little points stab your attempted hardon.

Every single method to “improve” security involves making the device harder to wear full time. The chastity forums are full of posts begging for help with chafing scrotums, etc. I think this is the product of wrong-headed thinking. Let’s take a moment to consider:

Q: Who wanted you to lock up your penis?
A: Me.

Q: Who would you hurt if you sneaked out of your cage and jerked off?
A: Me.

Q: What would your keyholder do if you escaped and played with yourself? (Be honest now)
A: Give you your key back. She expects you to play by your rules.

The point is that you wear the cage because you want to surrender control. If you wear it to see if you can escape, then you aren’t into enforced chastity, you are into being an escape artist. My cage is on me for some important (to me, and to a lesser extent, Mrs.Lion) reasons:

  1. It is a symbol, just like my wedding ring, that I am not alone and that in the case of my cage, I have surrendered control of my penis. It is on a visceral level for me and a visual one for Mrs. Lion.
  2. It is a continuing reminder of my surrender to both of us. I could be chaste and only get arousal and orgasm from Mrs. Lion without the cage. The cage reminds me of my surrender, and in a weak moment I can’t have an “accident.”
  3. It prevents me from having an “accident”. It is difficult enough to escape that it deters any passing need to disobey. More importantly, I doubt I could get back in if I did pull out. So Mrs. Lion will find out I cheated.
  4. I love wearing it knowing that it is important to both of us. It’s a symbol of a gift we are giving each other.

So, I don’t need a device that I can’t escape. I only need one that won’t fall off and that I can’t just slip on and off at will. What counts more in terms of hardware is that I can wear it continuously, with comfort for as long as Mrs. Lion wants me to have it on. It could be the rest of my life.

My advice to anyone in the market for a chastity device is to ignore all the security mania in the blogs and forums and instead go for the best, most comfortable fit. My wedding ring doesn’t hurt to wear why should my cage?

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In: Keyholder, Male Chastity, Mrs Lion Comments

As I said yesterday, I wasn’t sure if I was going to give Lion an orgasm or not. In my mind I had selected November 2 as his next date, but it seemed mean to make him wait another seven days on top of the eight he’d already waited. Of course, he hadn’t really been horny for most of those days. We also hadn’t played much.

I really had him squirming between the spanking, the anal play, and the clothes pins. Not to mention the oral attention to his cock. I was just happy he was horny again. Since he was primed I decided he should have his orgasm.

Originally I was going to put him in the sling on Saturday. If I had done that I was pretty sure I wasn’t going to let him come. I wanted to make him think he’d have a long wait. And then I’d give him one Sunday anyway. So really it was no harm no foul. He got his orgasm the day I thought he would and he got his sling time too. That doesn’t mean I wasn’t open to teasing him about waiting longer. And I could have changed my mind. Each time I edged him I could have taken the restraints off and told him we were done. I just love making him come.

When I told him his new wait time he said it was just a few days away. Well, seven, yes. And your point is? I think sometimes he forgets who makes the rules. Silly boy.