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I’m glad Lion is horny again. I really am. What I didn’t look forward to was the return of the toddler in him.

Lion was tired yesterday. He fell asleep before 8. As soon as I changed the channel on the tv he stirred. I asked if he had a nice snooze and he said he wasn’t snoozing. Now I had just turned to a detective show, but I didn’t need to be a detective to know that closed eyes and faint snoring meant snoozing. He was a little snippy when he said he was tired. I let that go since he was settling back in to not snoozing again.

A short time later he woke up and we watched some more tv. We held hands off and on, and chatted. When it was time for bed, however, Lion became grumbly. “I’m horny and we didn’t play tonight.” He said he was frustrated. I asked him whose fault that was. He didn’t have an answer for that.

Of course, from my point of view, A) if he hadn’t fallen asleep we might have played; B) he was the one who asked to be caged; C) it wasn’t a regular play day; and D) if he didn’t want a specific wait time he could have come Friday night. But this morning when I woke up and I was thinking about his attitude, I wondered if he shouldn’t have to wait another day for his orgasm. Should I have to deal with his insolence? What punishment fits this crime? If he’s whining about being horny, does it make more sense to deny him for another day? Hit him where he lives, so to speak. Would ten hard swats with the nasty paddle be enough to prove my point?

Naturally I’m undecided. It would be the first time I’ve ever extended his time. Is one day enough? I think it would make an impression given it’s the first time. Unless he grumbles about it. Then I can extend it more.

So, I’ve made my decision. Lion’s wait has been extended to November 3 for his grumbly toddler behavior last night. I’m sure he will not be happy, but he should step carefully if he doesn’t want that date to move further away.

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In: Lion's Journal, Male Chastity, Sex

Living in forced chastity has taught me many new things. One of the most startling to me is that I now behave like other mammals when it comes to sex. Other critters like dogs, cats, even lions in the wild don’t spend time wandering around with erections just trying to figure out how to get off. They need some stimulus before they get frisky. Men, on the other hand, spend a great deal of time thinking about and actively looking for sex. Most will masturbate if no sex partner is handy.

Being locked up seems to have restored my wild lion instincts. Unless there is a real opportunity to get off, I tend to not think about sex too much. Now, this doesn’t just happen. I have to go a while without stimulation. If Mrs. Lion doesn’t tease me, after about 24 hours I start to lose interest in sex. Only when opportunity returns; Mrs. Lion gives me some sexual attention, do I once more return to my permanently horny self. My interest in sex fades starting about 24 hours after the last tease. Since Mrs. Lion teases me every other day, by the night after my last tease, my interest falls off sharply.

I’m still actively thinking about sex, but none of the desperation is there. This is true no matter how long its been since my last orgasm. However, my interest in sex, if available, grows each day I wait. The longer its been since my last orgasm, the stronger my reaction to any stimulation by Mrs. Lion. It’s truly odd. If Mrs. Lion makes me come every day, I quickly weary of it. It’s just too much for my old body. But teasing is clearly different. There’s no such thing as too much.

Maybe it’s an age thing.  Perhaps the length of time active physical interest remains after activity decreases as we get older. I don’t know. I do know that in my case, it seems to drop off within 24 hours of cock teasing. It also take more physical stimulation to get me going than it did when I was younger. It may be that one reason why enforced chastity seems to be more popular with older men is that there is less sexual urgency. That makes accepting long waits between orgasms easier to take.

In my case it is clear that my age has made it easier for me to accept waiting unless I get frequent cock teasing. Each time Mrs. Lion teases me (and she is very good at that!) it reminds my body of what it is missing and my interest in release returns in spades.

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In: Male Chastity

I had no idea that Lion likes to be teased almost as much as he likes to have an orgasm. I thought an orgasm was the prize. It’s true that it ends the fun, but what fun it is to get there.

Perhaps I don’t understand his love of teasing because I hate to be teased. Taking me to the edge and stopping might be grounds for divorce. Maybe not that bad, but I do hate it. I guess it’s a good thing our roles are not reversed. Since I haven’t been horny in a while, denying me wouldn’t be a big deal at all. Edging me would be a huge problem. Don’t get my engines revving if you’re going to run out of gas before we get to our destination.

I don’t know if women in general dislike being edged. I can’t speak for every woman. Since many women can have multiple orgasms, the fun continues after the first one. To me there’s no reason to edge a woman. Unless, of course, she likes it.

Knowing that Lion wants to be edged more times and more often puts a little more pressure on me. Each time I do it I am in danger of ruining an orgasm for him. If I’m going to go too far I’d much rather go all the way and just give him a real orgasm. I’m sure he would prefer that too. Plus, at some point I risk breaking him. By which I mean edging him so many times that he can’t get hard again. Of course he’s not really broken. He just can’t play anymore.

Last night I edged him about four times. I wasn’t really counting. I know he was bucking at one point and when I stopped he said he really, really wanted to come. I told him it was too bad he had another 48 hours or so to wait. Then I sucked on him just because I can and left him alone. Poor boy. I really wanted to make him come. He really wanted to come. We are both working on our self-restraint. Well, I am. He has no choice in the matter.

The reason I give him bonus orgasms is because I love making him come. I am trying to make him wait the full time. So far I haven’t ever extended his time, but if I can make it to the scheduled date then it might be easier for me to make it beyond the scheduled date. At this point it is more willpower, or lack thereof, on my part that causes an early release. In a sense I am training myself while I train him.

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In: Femdom, Lion's Journal, Male Chastity, Sex
fireworks display
Orgasms are like fireworks. The skyrocket and burn brightly, then disappear into memory. Edging gets closer and closer, stops, and the starts again.

I keep reading that some keyholders and caged males consider an orgasm as anti-climatic and less enjoyable than the teasing leading up to it. This reasoning suggests that orgasms are not only unnecessary, but undesirable for a male. It’s true that the male equivalent to female multi-orgasm is edging. I am capable of being brought to the edge over and over until finally, I lose the ability to reach that point at all. That’s the time it is impossible for me to come.

Mrs. Lion got me to that point only once. It was really amazing. I loved it. I also love when she edges me even if not to exhaustion. It feels great. So, am I agreeing that edging is better than coming? No, I’m not. It’s different, not better. I can’t argue with the fact that edging takes longer and gives me more sustained arousal. Mrs. Lion can keep me going a long time if she wants. If she makes me come, it’s all over. So, from that perspective I really love the edging. The edging gets better each time she does it in a session, and better each session as my last orgasm fades further into the past.

By that reasoning, shouldn’t I want to avoid that orgasm since edging improves the more desperate I get? In that sense I should. At some point though, I do want to have that orgasm. Some keyholders don’t like the relative calm and lack of docility that comes after a male orgasm. Once he comes, they say, he no longer “needs” his keyholder’s attention until he gets horny again. So, keeping him horny, keeps him controlled.

So, two reasons not to orgasm are: excitement keeps growing with teasing the longer the male waits, and he is far more willing to do what the keyholder wants when he really needs sex. Is that true of me? Yes, it is. I dream of the way it feels when Mrs. Lion edges me. I wish she would edge me more each session and have more sessions. I also love when she makes me come. That orgasm after many days of teasing and waiting blows my mind. If she feeds me the result, even better!

Orgasms have their purpose. They can be great rewards. Even though a movie is full of suspense and you don’t want it to end, you do need the plot to resolve. For me, the same is true of my orgasms. I may not get too many nowadays, but they mean a lot to me. The key for my lioness is to find the right balance between waiting and release.