Maturing

Mrs. Lion and I are growing up; at least in terms of enforced chastity. Thursday night was a very good example of this. After she finished her tease and deny, she confided in me that she was very tempted several times to give me a bonus orgasm. She said that she resisted the temptation. I refrained from asking her to reconsider. In the recent past, she wouldn’t have resisted and if she did, I would have begged. We both did exactly the right thing.

That’s not to say Mrs. Lion doesn’t have the right to give me an extra orgasm, or for that matter, delay one that is scheduled. But, exercising the right to give me extras too often, does, at least in my mind, dilute my impression of her resolve. We have been slow in building chastity habits. While we both have adapted to my being caged, we haven’t truly established our roles. Both of us have been experimenting to see what works best for us. I don’t see that ending any time soon. For me, letting go of the fantasies and establishing an enforced chastity reality is a slow process. Mrs. Lion has had to struggle with taking on a sexually dominant role. We’ve both had to make compromises.

Our first compromise was around teasing. Mrs. Lion was concerned about inertia: locking me up and forgetting about it (Like I would let her!). So, she made a rule for herself: She would tease me sexually every other day; not necessarily edging, but some sexual activity. She has been faithful to her decision.

The latest one had to do with a very difficult subject for both of us: Mrs. Lion’s orgasms. Over the years, Mrs. Lion has lost her interest in sex. Part of it was my failure to initiate the way she needs. We never managed to solve our differences. A few weeks ago, Mrs. Lion got the idea that she should schedule her orgasms, the same way she schedules mine. On her scheduled orgasm day, I provide her with orgasms.

Thursday was her third orgasm date. I brought flowers home, made her dinner (take out), and proceeded to provide a romantic evening. I wrote about that in my post yesterday. We both had a really good time. While it may seem silly to some, the scheduled night has two important benefits for us: It “forces” Mrs. Lion to be sexually active even though her libido isn’t running very well right now, and it gives me “permission” to be sexual with her. I don’t feel the insecurities that initiating caused me in the past, and Mrs. Lion feels that I am initiating. It’s a real win-win.

I realize that this may seem artificial to you, but it has turned out to give us a way to get past a problem we both badly wanted to solve. In fact, our enforced chastity activities have provided us with a real solution to our sexual stagnation. We’ve both had to make changes. It isn’t an easy process, but at least as far as I’m concerned, this is a big success. I think Mrs. Lion agrees. So, it is highly unlikely I will ever have unfettered access to my penis again.

Caged male half of a happy couple practicing enforced male chastity and domestic discipline. Locked since 1/2014. Domestic discipline 3/2015. Lion's first mouth soaping was 7/17.

Posted in edging, Lion's Journal, Living with chastity, Sex
One comment on “Maturing
  1. locked120 says:

    Wonderful!?

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