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Lion’s cage is on its way to Mature Metal. I dropped it off at the post office this morning. That means I have a cageless Lion on the loose. I think he’ll enjoy the freedom, especially when it comes to peeing standing up without fear of spraying everywhere. Sometimes it’s the little things that mean the most. I was thinking this morning that his freedom and subsequent better fitting cage is sort of a chastity anniversary present. A year ago he was a wild Lion and then I locked him in the Jail Bird. Now he is a wild Lion until his Jail Bird comes back when I will lock him up again. I think the timing is sort of perfect.

I wish I could say I feel like playing with his wildness, but my headache and related foggy feeling are hanging on longer than usual. I thought I would be fine by last night. I just had a headache which, as I said yesterday, never kept me from giving or receiving sex. As the day wore on, however, things started going south again. My Lion was very understanding. He just wants me to get better. He takes such good care of me and I am grateful to him. I am determined to feel better tonight. Even if I don’t feel well enough for my own orgasm, I owe Lion some play time.

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You’re probably tired of hearing us go on and on about our upcoming anniversary. I never imagined it would go this long when we first started. I thought it was just another one of Lion’s phases like wearing diapers. I figured he would get tired of it after a while. Now the cage is part of him. Other than some sore spots here and there the longest he’s been out of the cage is when he sends it back to have it resized. I know I’m not wearing it, but it has made a tremendous difference in my life too. Poor Mr. Weenie is helpless in his cage unless I rescue him and play with him. Lion has gotten more attention in the past year than he got in the previous three years. I still feel bad about that, but I am trying to make up for neglecting him.

I’m glad Lion felt brave enough to introduce enforced male chastity into our lives. It’s definitely brought us closer together. I’m happy that after all these years we still love each other more and more each day. Caging Lion was similar to a renewal of our wedding vows. It is absolutely something to celebrate!

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In: Chastity device fitting, Chastity hardware, Chastity Hardware Security, Lion's Journal

Sadly, Mrs. Lion is still under the weather. She said she is feeling a bit better, but still not feeling very well. That’s no problem. We can wait for her orgasm and my teasing when she feels better. She removed my cage tonight. I am a wild lion. It’s now packed up to go into the mail tomorrow morning for resizing the base ring. Mature Metal has superb service. They usually turn around resizing work in a few days and always at a reasonable price. They are unbeatable for quality and service.

I have a little concern about this change. With the current 1 3/4-inch ring, it is so comfortable I completely forget I am wearing a chastity device. However, I do know the base ring is large. I can get my thumb between it and my soft penis. I think I can probably wear  a 1 1/2-inch ring comfortably, but I am not confident. So, I decided to hedge my bet with a 1 5/8-inch ring. I got cold paws about changing the existing ring since it feels so good to wear. So, I asked MM to make me a new 1 5/8-inch ring as well as a 1 1/2-inch ring. That way I will have the old ring and two new, smaller ones.

Of all measurements for a chastity device fitting,  the base ring diameter is the most difficult to get right. That’s why I recommend that before ordering the first device, you should test different sizes. You can get a set of measuring rings from Mature Metal for only $20. They will let you see what it feels like to live with a given size. I had ordered several inexpensive devices with an assortment of base rings. The 1 3/4-inch ring fit best. That’s why when I ordered the Jail Bird, I selected the 1 3/4-inch base ring. I waited a year before making the decision to change sizes.

How do you know you have the right size, or more importantly how do you know if you have the wrong size? The obvious answer you often read is that if your balls change color, particularly turn blue, you have a ring that is too small. Well, that’s a little like saying that you will know if your necktie is too tight if you suffocate. It’s way more subtle than that. You know a ring is too large if a ball escapes on its own. Most experienced chastity folks say that a ring is correctly sized if you can get your pinky between the ring and your body and nothing else. That may be a good indication.

The simple truth is that you just can’t tell for sure. Also, as I have discovered, my body has made a small change in the way my scrotum fits. It seems to have narrowed where the ring sits. Others have observed this too. It’s not a big change, but enough to make the original ring a bit loose.

If you, like me, wear your device 24/7, good fit isn’t enough. It has to be a perfect fit so it is comfortable and reasonably secure. Remember, no captive ball device is totally secure. No matter how tight the base ring, it can be escaped with enough work and a high tolerance for pain. It’s like my wedding ring. I can take it off, but I don’t want it so loose it can fall off. Security to me is knowing that it would be a lot of work to get out and probably impossible to get back in.

So how far should you go in terms of a tight base ring? This is the subject of endless online forum posts. I like the only-your-pinky-should-fit-between-the-ring-and-your-body rule. But the absolutely most important rule is that you can wear the ring and the device comfortably without doing anything, like using lube, to make it wearable. You should be able to forget it is there. Attempting to get hard should not hurt at all. You should never be awakened by an erection.

If you have decided that you want to be caged full time, then you have to treat the purchase of a chastity device as a very serious endeavor. Expect to spend the money for a custom device and expect to spend a little more on adjustments and alternate rings. Remember, that device is always attached to you. It only comes off when your keyholder wants to play with you or you have a life situation that requires it off. Over the last year it has been on me more than 99% of the time, or  361 days in the last 365. Isn’t it work the time, effort, and cost to make things comfortable?

 

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In: CBT

As you’ve read in Lion’s post this morning, our plans last night were sabotaged by a headache. Unlike the cliche I don’t normally let a headache get in the way of sex for either of us. This, however, was a migraine. I’ll spare you specifics, but my migraines don’t start out with pain. It’s the flashes of light and other assorted weirdness that stop me in my tracks. Once the fireworks are done, then the pain starts and I can deal with that. Unfortunately by the time the pain set in it was time for bed. But, as Lion said, tomorrow is another day. Assuming I don’t have a rebound migraine today we should be on tonight.

Lion will be sending his cage in for adjustment on Friday. At this point I’ve decided to allow him to be wild until it comes back. Maybe it was the migraine talking last night; maybe it was the fact that I hate wrestling with the Chinese cage. He pretended to be very excited about being wild and I reminded him that I could make him wear the panties while we wait for the cage to be returned. I know he’s not really excited and he knows I wouldn’t really make him wear the panties for any length of time. At this point there’s no real reason for him to be caged. I trust him not to masturbate. I trust him not to cheat. The cage is a symbol. Its absence for a week will not change anything.

That said, I may play with him more while he’s wild. Maybe it will tie up his cock and balls so they don’t forget what the cage feels like. I may fashion a cage of velcro. There are quite a few possibilities. He may wish he never sent the cage back to be resized. But we know Lion. He’ll be happy for the bondage and attention, even if it does involve velcro.

Lion mentioned the other day that I found wedding bands that have a lock for him and a key for me. He’s concerned about wearing it at work. I do agree with a reader’s comment that he could explain away any questions by saying that I hold the key to his heart. It’s not untrue. Another possibility might be just a simple turn of the ring so that the lock is hidden from view and doesn’t bring attention to it. It hasn’t been vetoed but we’re still trying to figure out the best way to mark our one year chastity anniversary. I’m sure Lion thinks an orgasm for him would be a great idea. And a spanking. And bondage. And I’m sure he’ll get at least some of that. But I think we should have some way of celebrating the milestone that isn’t “just” sex. We’ll figure it out.

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In: Lion's Journal, Male Chastity, Sex

Despite Mrs. Lion’s wonderful plans for last night, we were unable to carry them out. She came home with a terrible headache and had a hard time just showering and getting into bed. Never fear. Tomorrow is another day. The sun will come out tomorrow along with any more cliches I can think of. No real problem. I’m sure Mrs. Lion will say more tomorrow. Besides, this gives me a chance to tell you about some other stuff.

For the last few months I’ve felt that the base ring on my cage is too large. It was never tight, but it keeps my balls in place and my penis out of trouble. However, I think it is time for an adjustment. Right now it is 1 3/4-inches in diameter (oval). When I was trying devices, I could wear a 1 5/8-inch ring but it felt snug and a little irritating. I’ve heard that the skin on the scrotum thins a little over time. I’m not sure I believe that. But there is no doubt that the ring is a bit too loose.

Many guys find that a smaller base ring is needed after a while. Of course, there are always those who try to get the very tightest they can in the beginning. They generally spend a lot of time putting lube around the ring to avoid chafing, and end up out of the cage in a short time. In my opinion, it is way better to have a larger ring and then at a later date, in my case a year later, get it made smaller.

My plan is to get my 1 3/4-inch ring sized down to 1 5/8-inches. That 1/8-inch reduction may sound small, but if you do the math (circumference = ? * diameter; or the change in diameter. So, if we make the ring 1/8-inch shorter in diameter, the circumference is reduced 3.1416 * .125 = .39 inches ) it makes the circumference close to a half inch shorter. At the same time I’ll order a 1 1/2-inch ring as well. Mature Metal will reduce or enlarge a ring for only $10. A new ring, I think, is $55. So, for $65 I can get a better fit.

In order to get a new ring, I will have to send the device back. We have a Chinese cage I wore in the beginning and while the Jail Bird was adjusted to shorten the cage. Mrs. Lion hates taking that cage off and putting it on. I suggested that I could be wild instead. She seemed agreeable to that idea. So, if she will agree to the resizing, she can decide if she wants me wild or in the old cage. She’ll have to let me know.

I hope she feels better soon. Headaches are just horrid. Feel better my sweet lioness.