Sex Without Orgasm

From my recent reading, there are a number of guys wearing chastity devices who are disappointed if their keyholders give them orgasms. Depending of which person’s blog you read, they prefer the arousal they get when giving orgasms to their keyholders or getting non-orgasmic teasing. A decent majority of them dislike being unlocked from their devices. This feels to me like a chicken-egg situation. Did they learn to avoid orgasm after being locked up, or did they not like coming and found enforced chastity a way to institutionalize this dislike?

Judging purely from my own experiences with Mrs. Lion, I’m leaning toward believing that enforced chastity can condition guys to prefer non-orgasmic sexual activity. As Mrs. Lion has been reporting, she has been edging me several times each night for the last six nights. I’m really enjoying this activity. I love the attention and after the first time she gets me to the very brink of ejaculation, I lose track of everything and just focus on the amazing arousal. These sensations are addictive. I love every bit of it.

Mrs. Lion has been experimenting with different techniques. She gets me to the edge the first time masturbating me just the way I like. After that, she has been doing very light touches to that super sensitive spot just under the head, continuing until I am ready to ejaculate. Another technique is very slow strokes, maddening exciting, and then when I feel close but sure she won’t let me come, she speeds up like she is determined to get me off. My hopes rise. I am ready to squirt. She stops. No! I  did a rough back-of-the-envelope calculation. Before this daily edging, I was brought to the edge 15-20 times for each actual orgasm. Daily edging will more than double this. This is exponentially more sex than I have had in decades.

Not all enforced chastity involves sex, at least not much of it. Some guys are locked up for weeks or months without the device being removed. Sexual stimulation is extremely rare. All of the sexual energy is focused on the keyholder. This is less chastity and more abstinence. That’s not my situation at all. My lioness has expressed an interest in continuing the daily edging and delaying release longer than usual. My typical wait is between five days and eleven days. Occasionally, it is as few as three or as much as twenty.

I wonder how I will feel after I finally get release. Will I feel disappointed because the super horny state will be gone for a while? Will I feel sad that a lot of time will pass before my next release? Prior to this much more intense teasing, I haven’t been depressed after orgasm. I feel relaxed and happy. But I wasn’t this horny before, not even close.

What if while she edges me, Mrs. Lion tells me that it will be at least another week before release and that I will be teased every night? Will that feel good or bad? I suspect that it will make my need even more intense. Is that good for me? This is very new territory. What if teasing frequency increases further; more edging, more announcements of my fate. I don’t know. I do know that I don’t want to reach the point that I dread an orgasm. I think that my health, mental and sexual, depends of a reasonable number of ejaculations. But I could be wrong.

 

3 comments on “Sex Without Orgasm
  1. Rambigent says:

    My experience has been that just one orgasm every week or two doesn’t really reduce my horniness at all. It’s a nice feeling of release, but after a few minutes of afterglow I’m ready to go again. As long as my Queen has me wait a few days to come again, She can keep my arousal high for as long as She likes. On the other hand, I have found on those rare occasions when She lets me have two orgasms in a row, or even within a day or two if each other, I do have a dip in my horniness and can feel a little down for a short period. I don’t know the actual science behind it, but I imagine that I’m on a constant high of endorphins and hormones when my orgasms are locked down. If I get too many releases in a short period of time, I lose a bit of that high. That’s how my brain likes to interpret the experience, at least. 🙂

  2. Paul says:

    Great post as usual!
    I have been thinking lately about why I prefer not to be released! I celebrated my birthday last weekend and I had been locked for about three months with no release.
    My wife unlocked me and I had a shower. We then had sex where as usual I satisfied her first and then was allowed to have intercourse with her. Being so long since my last orgasm it was over almost instantly I entered her!
    We both fell into a blissful sleep which was lovely but the next day I felt deflated!
    She knows this and so it will probably be sometime before I receive another release but I now feel I prefer not being released!

  3. Good questions.

    Charmer, my KH, loves to edge. In fact, I think it’s becoming one of her more favorite things. She gets the control, gets to boost my horniness levels and still gets to assert control and put me back in the cage to further tease.

    For me, the edging is the closest I’ll come, short of sequential ruined orgasms (another post, another day), to coming more than once. The feelings are very nearly as intense as coming and I don’t crash. This isn’t to say I don’t like to come – but edging by her both satisfies and jacks up my horny levels unbelievably.

    One of Charmer’s favorite “punishments” is to say that I won’t even have the opportunity to come until I’ve hit a certain number of edges by her. For example, in one case, it was 50. But, she pushes very, very hard to get right up to the edge on these. If I come early, before she says, the clock resets and some may even be added to the tally. It’s good training, but it’s also crazy-inducing.

    To your question about does it make the eventual orgasm more apt to include let-down or have other effects on it, I haven’t seen that. I think it makes it more intense. When life happens and there isn’t much edging between when I’m allowed to come, it’s definitely less intense (generally). It doesn’t matter (to me) if the edging is over time or in the same scene, but without it, things are definitely different and less intense.

    I’ve also not seen a bigger let-down. If anything, it seems like the let down is less if there is ongoing edging. In fact, to me, it seems like the smallest thing will get me right back up there. I love “marks” – a hot-button – if she wants to restore my levels of desire quickly, a few of those at random times during the day will do it nearly instantly. She’s very good at sensing that and making sure I’m not at all long between high-levels.

    She really likes to maintain high-levels of horny – I think that’s many/most KH’s objective – because it reinforces their control and the power-exchange.

    Long-answer, apologies, but wanted to say that no, edging doesn’t hurt any part of it for me personally. It just makes things more intense… all the time.

    ~Steeled Snake

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