My poor unhorny Lion is still apologizing for not being horny. The only reason it bothers me is because I know he’s stressed and there’s not much I can do about it. I mean, I’m here for him. We can talk about it. We can snuggle. But I can’t fix the financial situation. I was thinking about actively looking for another job myself, but I think that would just add another element of stress to the mix. We don’t need any more stress right now.
What I’ve been trying to do is maintain a sense of normalcy. I ask him every night if he is interested in playing. If he says no I don’t push. There’s no stipulation that we have to play every night. The only rule I had was that I had to play with him at least every other night. That was my rule. Not his. Eventually we started playing every night, but there was never a rule put in place that we had to. There should never be any pressure on him to play. I’m not a fantasy mistress who insists that her toy be ready, willing and able when she says so. I know if I was horny and I asked him to give me orgasms, he would do it whether he was horny or not. I wouldn’t dream of forcing him to be ready to play when he’s not interested, anymore than he would do it to me. First of all, physically it wouldn’t work. And we’re not in the habit of forcing each other to do anything. (Although he does guilt me into things like going to the doctor, etc.)
I need to sit down and write out some Good Lion coupons for my pet. He’s been doing so much around the house since he’s been home. I need to do a better job of recognizing his efforts. I think giving him coupons is the best bet. I don’t want to just decide tonight he gets reward X. What if he’s not up for it tonight? He can use the coupon whenever he wants to use it. And he can have the fun of anticipating that specific reward. I know he loves handing the coupons to me. He does it with such flourish.
Most of all, I want a happy Lion. I’ll do whatever I can to make that happen.