Orgasm Control Introduces Female Domination

The other day on social media I had a chat with a dominant woman whose partner was unwilling to wear a chastity device. I have been thinking about the role of the device in enforced chastity and female domination in general. Clearly the device is a fetish unto itself, however, it facilitates the key dominant sexual activity: orgasm control. I offered her some suggestions on how to gently introduce it into her relationship.

I enjoy reading blogs about enforced chastity. A surprisingly large majority of these blogs discuss chastity device wear as, at best, a part time thing. I’m not saying that a guy has to remain in his device 24/7/365, but I thought that most of us do. Apparently in most cases the device is worn when the keyholder wants physical assurance of her orgasm control, or just decides he should wear it as a demonstration of her dominance. Is this confirmation of the fetish value of the chastity device or is it a tool only to be used as needed?

My chastity device remains locked on 24/7. It only comes off when Mrs. Lion wants to give me sexual attention or when wearing it causes a problem, like when we travel in the RV or I go to the doctor and he will want my pants down. For us, the device has taken a special place in our marriage. It is now like our wedding rings, a constant reminder of our commitment, in this case to orgasm control. Not wearing a device full time does not imply less of a commitment. It just means that orgasm control is practiced without the physical kink. In fact, one partner or both may find the idea of a chastity device undesirable. Diff’rent strokes.

The more I read and the more I live it, I realize that enforced chastity is a very good way to practice female domination. Many men have wanted female control, but the only model they knew was dungeon-based dominatrix stories and videos. I think it’s fair to say that most women who would enjoy taking the reins, probably don’t want to wear black tights and carry a bullwhip.  Orgasm control has appeal to both men and women. Many men have fantasies about their partners taking control of orgasms, and many women enjoy the feeling of control and power it brings.

Even if your guy hasn’t expressed any interest in sexual control, you can test the waters. Try masturbating him to the edge of orgasm and stopping. You know, edge him. See how he reacts. Does he get a little angry? Is he surprised and happy? Is he puzzled? Regardless of his response, fondle his balls or thighs. Wait until he has settled down and start again. This time when he is getting close, ask if he wants to come. He will say, yes of course. Keep going but stop at the edge. Smile and say, “No, not this time.” Chances are very good he will get into the game. Edge him at least one more time. Finally ask him again and if he says, “Yes,” either finish him off or tell him, “Next time.”

Very few men will soon forget this experience. Resist the urge to discuss it with him. If he mentions it, just smile. The next step is a bit more difficult. Next time he is interested in sex, you need to repeat the edging experience. He may initiate foreplay, but you should gently take control and get him on his back. Repeat the earlier experience. By this time you may be pretty aroused yourself. After you are done edging, tell him how hot it made him and tell him that you would like to feel his tongue. He may need a bit of convincing, but you can persuade him.

What you are doing is introducing male orgasm control. Unless he is a neanderthal, he will enjoy this new game. Every so often, you can let him take the lead and have intercourse. Ask him to let you know if he is close. Tell him you may want him to stop and wait. After the multiple edging sessions that won’t seem an odd request. When he gets close and tells you. Stop and tell him to withdraw. Congratulate him for doing this. After a minute or two, ask him if he wants more. Tell him you will want him to stop before he comes. If he asks why, tell him you love giving him the orgasm when you are ready. Smile sweetly.

There will be times that this won’t work. He may rebel. He may come when you don’t want him to. It doesn’t matter. Just keep going. After you have been doing this a week or two, ask him to stop masturbating. Tell him you want to give him all his orgasms. I think you will be surprised how happy most men will be to agree and obey. After a while, you can open the conversation about a chastity device. He may find the idea hot. If  not, don’t be concerned. You still own his orgasms. And, once you own a male’s orgasms you own him.

 

What do you think?