Rethinking our FLM

I had the bright idea some time ago that the next logical step for us was to have a Female Led Marriage (FLM) with domestic discipline. Mrs. Lion gamely agreed to try it. That was back last spring. We’ve had limited success with this experiment. From my perspective, we just don’t seem to be able to make the kind of changes that FLM demands.

Mrs. Lion and I have always shared work, play, and decisions. No matter how hard she tried, Mrs. Lion hasn’t found a way to change things. There’s a good reason. What we have works very well for us. She isn’t inclined to become a strict mistress dominating me at every turn. That’s a good thng. I don’t want that at all. I like the comfortable, patterns we have evolved all these years.

That doesn’t mean the concept has no value for us. From my perspective it means that there are many fun ways Mrs. Lion can show her authority without major lifestyle changes. I think she has worked so hard to figure all this out because she believes I will be happier in a FLM. I won’t. If she still wants to pursue it, I will follow her lead. But I don’t want her to believe she has to work at this because I want it.

I admit I do like domestic discipline. The rules, rewards, and punishments hold my interest and attention. I think it is worthwhile for us to continue with our growth there. But I don’t want it to be a distraction from our life together. I think that’s what’s been bothering me most. Mrs. Lion doesn’t feel good about being in charge. She does it at personal expense for me. That was never my plan. She seems to handle the domestic discipline and BDSM play much more easily. I know that she wouldn’t do it if I weren’t around, but I don’t see it causing the kind of stress the lifestyle change creates.

So, my proposal is that we suspend FLM, continue the BDSM and domestic discipline, and of course enforced chastity. There is a lot we can do to perfect those things without unbalancing our relationship dynamics. What do you think, Mrs. Lion?

What do you think?