It occurred to me this morning that our male chastity, domestic discipline, and whatever we’re now calling our FLM is like cooking. We start out with a recipe and then decide to add a little more of this and less of that. Eventually we’ll come up with something we both like. Or, at least, something we can both live with. Lion’s chili and mushroom barley soup are two wonderful examples of “if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.” Not that the first runs were failures, but with some improvements, they are now go-to dishes.
So we started out with male chastity and followed the “rules” and found it didn’t necessarily work that way for us. A little nip her and a tuck there, and we were off. The same thing with domestic discipline. I still don’t think I’m doing things the way Lion wants them done, but I’m making it work for me and he’s going along for the ride. We’ve decided to back off from FLM and see what happens. I can still do as much or as little as I’m willing to do. We’re just playing it by ear.
I’m less of a jump-right-into-the-thick-of-it kind of person than Lion is. He loves to learn all he can about a topic and charges full speed ahead. I like to dip my foot in the pool a bit before diving in. And maybe I’ll never actually dive in. There’s nothing wrong with wading. You have to do whatever is comfortable. If you like your chili spicy, then by all means, add more hot sauce. If you’re not an adventurous eater, then use less. Sometimes you have to make the rules up as you go along. And those rules may only apply to you. That couple on the other side of town or on the other side of the country may have different rules. That’s okay. They are not you. You don’t have to conform to their rules and they shouldn’t have to conform to yours. We can all tweak our own recipes.
Happy Thanksgiving no matter what recipe you follow!