Month: December 2015

Lion didn’t get spanked last night. I wasn’t feeling well. He’ll definitely have some fun tonight though. It’s his last orgasm of 2015. We’ll make our own fireworks even if we do them far earlier than midnight.

Lion has a long list of New Year’s resolutions. Several years ago I resolved not to make any more resolutions. So far it’s the only resolution I’ve ever kept. Instead, I just plod along considering myself a work in progress. I’m always open to trying things and trying to do things better. It doesn’t always work. I usually fall flat on my face, but once I get back up, I give it another shot. [Lion — That’s absolutely untrue! I’ve never met a more open person than Mrs. Lion. She usually succeeds at whatever she tries. She is too hard on herself]

For 2016, we’ll continue on with chastity and domestic discipline. I’m willing to work toward FLR although I realize we need to take baby steps. I won’t suddenly want to be in charge of everything. However, I may gradually do a better job of being in charge of Lion. He’s a handful.

Most of all, I need to be consistent. Lion needs to know that he’ll be punished if he misbehaves. Every time. Not just the other day because I remembered but not the next time because I forget. And if I say I’m going to do something, I need to follow through. Lion gets his hopes up when I tell him he’ll get sling time and then I forget. That’s not fair. At the very least, I need to let him know the plans have changed. Then he won’t feel forgotten. [Lion — She’s right. I need consistency]

It sounds like we both have a lot of work to do in the new year.

Here we are. Another year has gone by. Most of it was very difficult for us due to me being out of work for seven months. However, we progressed nicely with enforced chastity and a little foray into wife-led marriage. We haven’t given up on that idea, but we will have to evolve into Mrs. Lion taking a larger role.

We decided to be more serious about domestic discipline in 2015. Mrs. Lion chooses spanking as her primary method of punishing me. Her spankings have gotten much more severe. However, I can still stop one early by objecting strongly and turning over. This reflects badly on me. We have a goal that I should take any level of spanking without squirming or trying to stop it. I need a lot of work in this area. One of my resolutions for next year is to learn to take any spanking without trying to get away. I’m not sure I will be able to hold completely still, but it is a goal. To do this, I will need frequent, painful spankings to train me to suck it up. I trust my lioness will do this for me.

In terms of enforced chastity, nearly-daily-edging is the rule now. Mrs.Lion pushes me very close to orgasm over and over. We’ve had far fewer ruined orgasms lately as her skill is further refined. We’ve also discovered that I respond strongly to the Magic Wand vibrator. Mrs. Lion has become very skilled at edging me with that as well. I’ve grown not to expect orgasms when I get very horny. This is a change. Earlier, Mrs. Lion would let me come if I was desperate enough. Now, she has no such interest. She wants me as horny as possible.

My wait between orgasms averages out to about once ever week to ten days. I think we might extend that a bit next year. Of course, I don’t know Mrs. Lion’s plans, but I expect that the average will be a bit longer as she enjoys my horniness more. For no apparent reason other than her much more efficient and frequent teasing, I find myself trying to get hard inside my cage at odd moments. That rarely occurred in 2014. Also, the second anniversary of my not masturbating is coming up in a week or so. That’s the longest I’ve kept my hands off myself in my life.

As a couple we remain completely and happily in love. I am hers with or without a cage or domestic discipline. Speaking of which, over 2015 the discipline was administered for infractions of the few rules we have. I had no trouble agreeing that I deserved her punishments. As we grow into FLR and domestic discipline, I expect that in 2016 this will change. Punishments will probably be more frequent and closer to the offense. I will not need to understand and agree to the justice of the administration of unpleasant and painful punishments. This is a change that will reinforce my acceptance of Mrs. Lion’s authority.

I think this is necessary. We both are just skirting around the edge of true FLR. I don’t think that Mrs. Lion has to take over the finances or other areas I handle, but it is probably time that she begins erring on the side of unfair when it comes to punishment. We both have to accept that is our plan and act accordingly. That means, at least to me, even maintenance spankings are as painful as punishments. I want to learn how to control myself so I stop trying to escape. I don’t like that about myself.

In my opinion, our biggest accomplishment of 2015 is our agreement that we will continue with enforced chastity and domestic discipline permanently. We has originally agreed to a review in March 2016, but we decided to move that date forward and we agreed that our course is permanent. I have agreed to be caged for life with breaks as Mrs. Lion sees fit. She  will continue evolving into her own version of FLR and will use domestic discipline as she wishes.

Those decisions make 2015 a watershed year for us. While you may not be able to make a lion submissive, you can train him to be a well-behaved pet.

Lion is having eye problems again. When I mentioned it to a coworker she jokingly asked if I hit him last night. I said, “No, not last night.” She has no idea that I just spanked him on Friday. And no idea that I’m planning on spanking him tonight. No one at work has any idea what goes on at our house. Sure, there are jokes about training husbands and keeping them in line, but no one is really serious. Or are they? If they don’t know how serious I am, how could I know how serious any of them is about this?

That’s the good and bad thing about our lifestyle. It makes for a good joke, but it largely lives in the shadows. A dominant woman is portrayed, by society, as a bitchy woman. She’s overbearing and rarely has her partner’s best interests in mind. While that may be true of some dominant women in real life, it’s certainly not true of the few women I know of who are involved in FLR. From my reading, we’re all doing it to make our partners happy. Some of us are natural born leaders who run the entire household because that’s what works best for them as a couple/family. It isn’t much of a stretch to continue on to domestic discipline.

It’s entirely possible that my coworkers do exactly what we do when they get home. No one ever talks about it. Then again, we don’t talk about sex in general. It’s not polite conversation. And if “regular” sex isn’t polite, then “weird” sex definitely isn’t. So it lives in the shadows and pops up from time to time in joking conversations. Lion wonders if my coworker was only half joking. There’s no way to know without venturing into that impolite area. I’m not brave enough to do that.

We’ve settled back into our “normal” routine. Monday night I was unlocked and teased and then about half an hour later, relocked. Later, we snuggled for a long time. I was sorry that my cage was on. Her hand was so close. I don’t know what made me think that if the cage wasn’t thee that she would play with my penis, but that thought was front-of-mind. Of course it would be. Less than an hour earlier I had been edged over and over by the Magic Wand and Mrs. Lion’s hand. Sex was really on my mind! I know, I know. Sex is always on my mind.

Other bloggers talk extensively about their chastity devices. They have shiny tubes from Germany and Canada. I can’t help but wonder how it would be to wear one of those. I’ve been comfortably locked in a Mature Metal Jail Bird since March of 2014. I’m not complaining. It’s completely comfortable and very easy to keep clean. It’s probably the most popular of the custom chastity devices. I can attest to the fact that it works and there is no doubt it controls my ability to get hard or get off. That’s what it’s for and it is a total success.

All of the others are more difficult to keep clean and, in the case of the tubes, harder to put on. They are also very expensive and would require the normal adjustments to get the fit right. We can’t afford the cost at this point. I am not sure that even if cost was no problem, if I want to deal with the additional trouble a different device would create. But I still wonder what it would be like to have one.

In years gone by, I sampled a lot of custom and off-the-shelf devices when I was reviewing them. It was fun. Of course, the truth is that I rarely see the device anyway. Mrs. Lion sees it a lot more than I do. The one I have is a perfect fit; my penis touches the sides and end at all times.  Talking yourself out of a change, Lion? Yup, that’s what I’m doing.

The solid tube fans like the idea that the penis is completely hidden. Some keyholders want their males to “forget” what their penises look like. I suppose that you could call that visual chastity as well as functional chastity. It’s a concept that Mrs. Lion and I never considered. I suppose that to incorporate loss of penis visibility in our lives, I would have to be blindfolded when wild. If she likes that idea, we don’t really have to change devices, just blindfold me when not caged. I get a very uninteresting view through the bars.

I’ve wondered if keyholders who prefer solid tubes also aren’t very fond of the way a penis looks. It’s no secret that some keyholders like enforced chastity because it hides the penis and limits the need for contact. I know that’s not true of Mrs. Lion, but it is for others.

There aren’t really that many different designs for male chastity devices. That is partly due to the fact that demand is pretty low and also because effectively keeping the penis locked and unavailable dictates one of two basic designs: a container to hold it or a belt that completely encases the genitals. I’ve tried both and the belt is impractical for me. The container, in my case a cage, has proven to be practical and comfortable.

I am curious and a little envious of those shiny tubes. I think it is more a case of the cage is shinier on the other guy, than any strong desire on my part. I admit that the idea of being blindfolded and never allowed to see my uncaged penis is appealing. I don’t know how that will make me feel. It will also mean, if Mrs. Lion chooses to try, that I will have to be caged all the time I am not blindfolded. I can see her rolling her eyes now. Just a thought, Mrs. Lion. Just a thought. [Mrs. Lion – Yup, rolled my eyes]