Over the last few months, Mrs. Lion and I have been writing about improving our enforced chastity / FLR practices. We seem to be circling C2(C squared: C * C): Control and Consistency. I think that C2 applies to any long term power exchange. This was brought home to me the other night.
Wednesday night was a scheduled orgasm night for me. I was not feeling a bit horny. Mrs. Lion graciously allowed me to remain caged. She informed me that unlike her past policy, I would not get another chance for an orgasm until my next scheduled date. Before closing the door on myself, I asked when that would be. I turned out to be only six days away. I accepted the deal. In the past I had always been allowed to wait until I felt horny and then I would get the delayed orgasm.
This new policy demonstrates C2. First, it maintains Mrs. Lion’s control. Even though under the old policy, she did have the right to refuse my later request, to me at least, it felt that I was ultimately deciding when I could orgasm. Second, this is consistent enforcement of her schedule for me. I like consistency.
C2 is both a major strength of power exchange and one of the largest challenges the dominant partner faces. Consistent application of control requires work to assure that the caged male is following all of his rules and requirements. It also means that infractions must be punished.
In my case, we have been fairly relaxed about enforcement and orgasm scheduling. We’ve had frequent discussions about this but still need to do some work. Interestingly, scheduled events like play and teasing have been very consistent. We both enjoy our nearly-daily sessions. In fact, I asked that we play less often. I never thought I would ever do that. I think that bonus orgasms, at least for now, should be suspended. I like the chance to get really frustrated and horny. I also like knowing just how far we will go. Of course, Mrs. Lion can change things at any time. Just my thought.
It all comes down to the people involved. I live well in a consistent environment. I know where my boundaries are and I can get comfortable within them. Consistent discipline tells me that my lioness is watchful and cares about my behavior. This sort of regime won’t work for everyone. In fact, as we get better at it, I may find it doesn’t work all that well for me.
The only way to figure this out is to try it. Just as I learned that too much play isn’t really fun for me, we may learn that strict control and discipline doesn’t work for one or both of us. The only way to find out is to try. We’ve taken the “crawl, walk, run” approach to enforced chastity and FLR. In terms of C2 I think we have crawled enough. I don’t know how Mrs. Lion feels about starting to “walk” now, but I think it might be time.
Our changes have been directional; we decide on a path and then take a couple of steps. I tend to want to go bounding off. Mrs. Lion prefers the status quo. This may be one of those moments where I want to push C2 and Mrs. Lion has a different idea. Her idea will win of course. Stay tuned for the next chapter.