Month: June 2016

I was wrong. I said I was feisty. I said 2.0 would be out. I was wrong about many things yesterday and Lion pointed a lot of them out. I didn’t defend myself. It’s somewhat exhausting to be on the defensive for much of the day. 2.0 was nowhere to be found.

Today will be different. Lion has already made a mess on his shirt at lunch. He reported that today is punishment day. I told him it was going to be punishment day whether or not it was official. He thinks it’s just for his shirt. Nope. It’s for yesterday too.

2.0 might have taken yesterday off but she’s here now. Lion’s butt is hers later. I wonder if he’ll be able to sit the rest of the trip. She’ll also be making good use of the shock collar in the coming days.

We were tired last night so we didn’t attempt to play. The truth is, I was still wrong late into the night. I won’t say I went to bed angry, but I was less than happy. And I just needed sleep for a clearer head.

With a clearer head (2.0), things are looking up. For me. Not so much for Lion’s butt. I won’t enjoy spanking him. I don’t normally. But it’s my vacation too. I shouldn’t have to put up with being told I’m wrong. Even if I was wrong, there are better ways to tell me.

Tonight I’ll show Lion how wrong he was. And it will be sanctioned by our female led relationship agreement.

We’ve arrived safely at our campsite. The trailer is set up, satellite working well. Our LTE internet is so slow as to be useless. We’ve run into this before.We go somewhere the cell service is better and upload our posts. The Columbia river gorge is beautiful. Our site has a short path to a beach on the river. Our dog loves it here.

When we travel, all rules are in place. I have to be very careful because, when we travel I can forget my manners when I’m focused on driving. I think I did well this time. Old lions can learn new tricks; at least manners. Mrs. Lion promised we would play on this trip. Arrival day is rarely one where we have the energy to do too much. I am writing this late on our arrival day. We are heading out to get some food and needed supplies, then back to the camper for a shower and needed rest.

Mrs.Lion unlocked me before we left. I will be wild until we get home a week from now. More tomorrow when we both are rested.

By the time you read this we hope to be at or near our destination along the mighty Columbia river. It will be nice to get away. Lion loves the heat. The dog loves wading in the river. I love the scenery.

As promised, Lion is wild. We’re not taking a vacation from enforced chastity. The rules still apply. It’s just easier for Lion to use the toilet in the RV without his cage on. The bonus for me is that I get to fondle him whenever I feel like it. There’s nothing like fondling a wild weenie. Plus I don’t have to remember to bring the key.

Lion will be edged nightly while we’re gone. I assume he’ll feel better as we put some distance between us and home. He likes to travel and this is one of our favorite areas. If he’s lucky, he’ll get an orgasm somewhere along the line. In fact, barring any bad behavior on his part, he’s almost guaranteed an orgasm.

I’ve never tied Lion’s behavior to his ability to have an orgasm. I like giving him orgasms so he’d have to do something pretty terrible to make me refuse him for long. He just better watch his step. I’m feeling feisty. I guess 2.0 likes vacations too.

Yesterday, I wrote (link) about a view of enforced chastity that doesn’t center on  the male abstaining from orgasm. It was about the keyholder using the male’s penis as a toy for her own pleasure. His orgasms become a problem because when she uses him as an insertion toy, he can ejaculate uninvited. Ejaculation and male orgasm become inconveniences for her. Under different circumstances, his orgasm can be withheld by limiting stimulation (edging). But when the penis is needed to satisfy his keyholder, another strategy is needed.

Clearly, the classic making-him-wait-for-an-orgasm strategy will deny her the pleasure she desires. She could find a different penis for her pleasure. This eliminates the reliance on the caged male staying “dry.” Not every couple is prepared to add another male to the mix. In that case, the caged male’s cock is the only available toy.

In that case, the penis needs to be available for action when she wishes and can’t be allowed to squirt without her permission. I think that calls for scheduled ejaculation. That means the caged male will be made to ejaculate each time he is in danger of making a mess inside his keyholder. The intervals between ejaculation will probably be considerably shorter than they would under typical orgasm control. This suggests that the male needs to be trained to look at ejaculation differently.

Before I go on, please note that ruined orgasms are not going to work in this scenario. While the ruined orgasm gets rid of the semen, it doesn’t reduce the need to orgasm. Our goal is to keep the need to come at an easily controllable level. To do that, we need to let him go through the full ejaculation cycle. That’s where the training comes in.

The male needs to be taught to treat ejaculation as another routine bodily function. Ejaculation may come with pleasurable sensation, but he has to learn this sensation is not something he is to crave. Impossible? Maybe, but worth trying if the goal is to convert his penis into a reliable dildo.

When Mrs. Lion first locked me up, she decided that my surrender doesn’t necessarily mean I have to wait a long time to come. Why not make me come every day? So, she jerked me off every day. It didn’t take too long for me to ask her to give me some more time between ejaculations. The too-frequent stimulation stopped feeling all that good. I don’t know if the same thing will happen with other men, but I suspect it will. It may take more than one session a day, but over time I bet he will just hope to get it over with and ejaculate as soon as he can.

At that point, ejaculation and the sensations that go with it, are not so much fun. This can be enhanced by offering no stimulation other than rapid massage of the penis. Essentially, just have him stand in front of you, drop his pants, you unlock him and then you (or him if you prefer) should just get down to business until he ejaculates completely.  Then stop, make him stand  until he gets soft, lock him up and have him pull up his pants. Then he can clean up any mess on the floor or other surfaces. That’s it. With the drama and ancillary stimulation he needs to have fun removed, he can learn to ejaculate with little fuss or pleasure.

The timing between these ejaculation sessions is based on a balance between him not being able to get it up for his keyholder and his inability to prevent ejaculation while inside her. Orgasms can still be used as a reward. Once he has learned that ejaculating is just a routine activity with no particular pleasure, you can give him “specials” where you tease and edge him, provide him with the kind of stimulation he used to love. Then, bring him to an intense orgasm.

I admit that this is just an idea I have. It isn’t anything I want or need for myself. However, it seems to me that this is just another flavor of orgasm control. The goal is to separate orgasm and ejaculation. If you can do that, then he can ejaculate frequently enough to make his penis a useful dildo for you without risk of an orgasm. Then, when you, the keyholder, decide to reward him with an orgasm you can do it.

What do you think? Is this something worth trying?