That’s Not How We Work

I never meant that Lion should have dinner ready for me every night when I get home. I do love it when he does, but it’s not an assignment or requirement. I also don’t think I said I don’t understand why he wouldn’t want to be home all day. I was only trying to say that I would love it. It gets old for me too eventually. Lion and I are very different. He likes to go to work and have contact with people. I can do without it. I have enough conversations with the dog and parrots to hold me for quite a while. Lion gets stir crazy, even when he’s home for a whole day on a weekend when I’m home too.

Lion mentioned wanting pho for lunch yesterday so I suggested it for dinner tonight. It kills two birds with one stone. Lion gets out of the house and neither of us has to cook. As he said in his post today, he’s all out of laundry. He wonders what he’ll occupy himself with. I could make a list for him, but that seems rude. There’s plenty to do, but I wouldn’t want him to tell me to do any of it if I was home. I do much better when it’s my idea. Like if we’ve talked about defrosting the freezer for weeks and then suddenly I get the bright idea to do it. Yes, we agreed it needed to be done, but I’m doing it on my terms. That way he’s pleasantly surprised when he gets home and I tell him it’s done. Check one item of the list. Plus, why should he get stuck doing all the things we’ve both been ignoring? That’s not fair.

I know this sort of flies in the face of FLR. Shouldn’t I be able to tell him to get things done? I should make a honey-do list for him. 2.0 should be standing there on the weekends, cracking her whip, making sure the chores get done. Nope. Not going to happen. There’s nothing stopping me from asking if Lion could do a certain project during the day, but I am not going to demand he do things. That’s not me. That’s not how we work.

Tonight, after our dinner outing, I’ll unlock Lion and we’ll see about playing. If he’s not in the mood, we can cuddle again like we did last night. I’m not sure how horny a bored Lion can be. I guess I’ll find out later.

2 comments on “That’s Not How We Work
  1. MrsL is much the same way. She always joins me in the kitchen when I am doing dishes. It takes us back to when we were first married. That was quality time as I had to be up and on base by 6 am and didn’t get home until dinner.

    We are new to this dynamic but her first rule is: If I want to do something around the house I will.

    There definitely isn’t one right way.

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