It Takes Time

When I have time, I like to read about enforced chastity and female led relationships. I try to restrict my reading to sites that at least claim to be real-life experiences. I’ve learned that many, if not most of the so-called real experiences are rehashes of sexual fantasies. We also get comments and emails here that fit the same pattern.

The question I keep asking myself is, why do people bother claiming this stuff is real? Is there some special thrill about asserting the fantasy is real life? I can understand that by repeating these stories, the writer might (unlikely) get credibility and acceptance from other guys. It just seems so pointless to me.

Mrs. Lion continue to learn that building a lasting FLR takes years to establish. We are in our third year of enforced chastity/FLR and we are nowhere near feeling that we have made all the changes necessary to say we are comfortably settled in.

Maybe the reason all the trolls pretending to practice enforced chastity and FLR bother me so much is that their stories sound so hot and ours not so much. Our day-to-day reality is about integrating our new lifestyle. It takes thought and conversation to keep things working. Mrs. Lion has to consciously remind herself to enforce rules and her wishes. I have to remember to help her if things start to slip. It’s work; not a hot, jerk-off fantasy.

I’m not saying that it isn’t worth the effort. We both feel that we are doing the right thing. We find a lot of value completely outside the sexual heat these practices produce. Our relationship has improved as a result of our efforts. If you are just starting out, don’t expect instant success. It takes time.

3 comments on “It Takes Time
  1. Collaredmichael says:

    I also like reality based blogs! That is one reason why I like yours so much. Real life intrudes on this lifestyle so often that one needs to appreciate the moments when the chastity lifestyle is being fully practiced. We are much earlier in our practice of this lifestyle. We still make mistakes and I am slowly learning to follow the rules. I find that I’m a very slow learner but I just try to progress. Punishments sound hot in fantasy but in reality they lose some of their luster–yet I get something out of them that I never expected. Likewise denial makes my every waking moment hotter. Who knew I would go so long between orgasms and yet enjoy it? Certainly not me. And even more certainly not my wife. I think she is beginning to really like how things are changing. We may never go back to the way it was.

  2. mrbill says:

    Yes, it takes time. It’s been at least three years since I had several long talks with my wife and as a result started some FLR practices. Nearly all of them have been my doing things that I think I want to or should do. This includes orgasm control. My wife does not enforce any rules, but I know she recognizes the benefit of certain things I am doing like the orgasm control, housework, serving her, etc.
    I think that she is starting to feel comfortable with being more in control and dominant. She has mentioned a few times recently that she thought I was going to kneel before her. When I didn’t, because we have no rule or protocol to do so, she pointed to the ground and I immediately knelt.
    She is feeling more comfortable with having me do little things for her like getting a drink of water or cleaning up her dishes. Sometimes she leaves a mess for me to clean up, just because she knows I like to serve her.
    She has even found some little reasons to punish me with her belt, much to me delight.
    I have told her that I wish to serve her and am willing to do as much as she will let me. Someday I may get more than I wished for, but for now, I don’t ever want to go back to the way it was.

  3. John says:

    Any time I post fiction on our page, it’s labeled as such. I try to keep my fantasy side well labeled. I think it’s fair to the reader to know whether I’m waxing poetic or providing factual accounts. Ethics and all that.

    I know of one FLR blog that I just have to assume is BS, but it’s almost sort of plausible. But then they post something that is so far out there, it’s unbelievable. At the least, I am entertained. But I don’t look to it as anything factual.

What do you think?