Month: October 2016

Lion has been doing his best not to get in trouble. He’s even been asking for permission to do things and asking me if he did a good job on chores. It seems strange so far. We never really discussed his having to ask permission. We don’t have any rewards in place for good behavior.

Several months ago I made up “Good Lion” and “Bad Lion” coupons. He’s never used any of the rewards I gave him. He says it feels like cheating. I’m not sure how I’m supposed to react when he does a good job, other than to tell him he’s a good boy. I’ve always tried to remember to thank him for doing something for me or at least tell him it looks nice. If I were to suddenly tell him he earned fewer punishment swats because he folded laundry, would he think that was cheating like the coupons? Besides, I don’t have a set number of swats for any given offense.

I’m also unsure of how the new punishment technique will work. Since I never have an exact number in mind, going slower doesn’t seem like it would make any difference. Sometimes I just swat until I think he can’t take any more swats. I’ve proved my point, move on. If I’m stopping every few swats to let him get used to the feeling, we could be up to 20 swats when we might have only gotten to 10 the old way.

I guess we’ll give it a shot and see how it goes. I just want Lion to get what he wants.

spanked butt

The result of a recent spanking. The technique in this post may darken the shade considerably.

Spanking is finding a place in our lives. I don’t mean the sort of spankings that come in a BDSM scene, but the punishment kind that hurts from beginning to end. It isn’t an easy process.

Adopting a domestic discipline relationship involves changes that the disciplining wife must make. Mrs. Lion and I agreed to do this about a year ago. The first, and perhaps most difficult adjustment is becoming comfortable with authority. Making rules is the easy part. The bigger challenge is consistently observing my behavior. When an infraction is observed, it must always result in punishment.

Mrs. Lion is beginning to enjoy finding infractions. She is clearly working on consistently observing me. I have an obligation to assist her and work to ask her permission before taking action. I think that by asking consistently, I am helping her develop her disciplinary framework. I’m also learning that I get a deep sense of security and emotional warmth when she lets me know she is in charge and she is watching me. I believe a disciplined husband should expect no privacy.

The area that is challenging us both is punishment. Mrs. Lion has decided that spanking is her punishment of choice. This is consistent with what others say they do. I haven’t been particularly good about being spanked. I’ve felt guilty that my squirming and complaining have prevented Mrs. Lion from administering what she feels I deserve. I’ve tried to hold still and keep quiet, but I just can’t.

That’s why when I reread Aunt Kay’s “Tips and Methods” I was very impressed. She gives instructions on how to perform a disciplinary spanking that seems to take into account the sort of problems I have when being spanked. You can read the full article by clicking here. Here’s the method she suggests (breaks are inserted for clarity):

Once he is across your knee, give him a few moments to get used to the fact that he is about to be spanked.

Begin by giving a couple of hard smacks, then stop. The initial sting will be quite a shock to his system. If you were to keep on, he would struggle so much out of reflex action it would be difficult, if not impossible, to hold him in place. This pause after the first few whacks will give him a chance to mentally gear himself for the ordeal to come.

Give him a few more hard smacks and pause again. He will have started to squirm, but the smacks will have been given before any serious movement takes place.

His body will be very tense as he awaits the next round of spanks. Wait for him to relax, and tell him to do so. Then resume the spanking.

These instructions make a lot of sense to me. They take into account the problems we have been having with spankings. The pauses and the signals my body make, helps pace the spanking so that it can continue until it achieves its result. What is that result? Aunt Kay provides that as well.

A dose of corporal punishment should have a dual effect. It should be extremely painful while it is being applied, and the area it was applied to should remain very tender for a period of time afterwards.

There is no question that welts will be raised and bottoms bruised, but chastisement should never leave permanent marks.

What particularly impressed me is that the spanking described is designed to assure that it can be completed. It would allow me to process the experience and allow me to recover and prepare for the next set of swats. I think that the point is the spanking should be painful, but not such a shock that I can’t keep myself relatively still. Pauses won’t make it hurt less. I’m sure of that.

Aunt Kay believes that spankings should be over the knee, or at least over the lap. I’m not sure why this position is important. We have never attempted it. I lie on my stomach on the bed. Mrs. Lion is standing beside me. She uses a variety of implements.

Mrs. Lion varies the number and intensity of the swats based on the seriousness of the offense. That makes sense up to a point. It seems to me that anything that earns a spanking should earn one sufficiently severe to, as Aunt Kay says, “…be extremely painful while it is being applied, and the area it was applied to should remain very tender for a period of time afterwards.”

I think that both giving and receiving domestic discipline spankings as described above, will be very difficult for us. Mrs. Lion’s spankings have grown more severe over time. I think that my squirming and growling have slowed her progress. Maybe Aunt Kay’s methods will help me submit.

 

 

 

Lion has been wild for a few days. He has a doctor’s appointment on Monday and we didn’t want any evidence of the cage showing. He tends to get a reddish mark from the base ring that may not hurt, but it is visible. He will be locked up on Monday night. In the meantime, I have a very horny boy who only has his own willpower (and the fear of my paddle) to keep his hands to himself.

After he told me I should be careful edging him because he was very horny, I set about to torture him orally. In the past it hasn’t gone very well. I’ve recently learned how to control my lips, tongue, and, more importantly, myself. I can edge him orally with no trouble now. Except, Lion says, that I don’t go quite far enough for his liking. He was so frustrated he was dripping pre-cum. For the next few hours he’d randomly tell me how horny he was. Then we went to sleep.

Almost immediately, Lion was asking if I was asleep yet. Did I want to watch TV? It was late but I wasn’t really tired. We’d slept late and it threw off the whole day. So he turned the TV back on. He also shifted around and told me there was plenty of room to snuggle. And, he hoped, other activities. At first I just snuggled. I let my hand wander down to his happy zone but didn’t go all the way. He said he was horny. Really? I had no idea. I asked if he thought he should be allowed to come. Of course he did. I said it would ruin my plan of making him wait. Oh well. I let him think he had a chance at coming while I edged him again.

It was after midnight so I asked if this counted as Sunday’s edging. It probably doesn’t, but I wanted to hear what he thought. At that point he didn’t care. He was off in never, never land with visions of orgasms dancing in his head. Each time I edged him he was positive I would keep going. I even debated with myself whether I should. I had almost decided I would give him an orgasm, when I realized he didn’t seem as horny then as he had earlier in the night. Even though he was bucking more the second time, it didn’t seem as urgent. He was annoyed once when I gave him an orgasm when he wasn’t horny enough. By rights I should make him wait at least until he’s horny enough.

Who’s to say how long it will be until he’s horny enough? Oh, I know. It’s me!

locking a man in chastity

The Angelfire pre-2001 chastity article inspired me to want enforced chastity.

I took a trip down memory lane and went back to reread some of the material that turned me on in the very beginning.  The very first enforced chastity information I found was a post on Angelfire.com that provided a “guide” to male chastity. The Wayback Machine has an archived copy of the page. You can find it here. Reading it provided me with many intense fantasies and masturbation sessions. Unlike a lot of hot chastity writing on the Net, this guide is surprisingly accurate. It was written before 2001 when this cache was saved.

What interested me most at the time was the instruction to provide weekly release and to postpone the session if the male’s behavior wasn’t satisfactory. That was what gave me the idea to ask Mrs. Lion for scheduled orgasm dates. The idea is still hot to me, but it doesn’t work well for Mrs. Lion. Her style is more ad hoc about when I get to come. She also prefers domestic discipline to delaying release as a way to punish me.

My interest in domestic discipline goes back to the early 90’s. I had joined several news groups on the Internet. They were the ancestor of the modern forums. I won’t go into detail, but I contributed to some on a regular basis. A woman on one forum discussed her use of spanking as a way to help her husband become more  responsible. She was practicing domestic discipline to help him overcome his very irresponsible lifestyle. She wrote a self-published book about this. I bought it and read it with great interest.

I was turned on by the control she wielded over her husband. Many fantasies featured me in his position. At the same time I was a practicing top and very active in the leather community. At the time, I put it off as Yin/Yang; balancing my dominant life with submissive fantasies. The seeds of domestic discipline were sown and started to germinate.

The seedlings appeared early in 2015 when I came across an article that was allegedly written in the 90’s and then revived from the original web site. After some research, I learned that the website with the article that claimed to have revived it from the original “Disciplinary Wives Club”, actually stole the material from the author. However, the founder, “Aunt Kay,” has returned along with her original writing. She has tried to get the WordPress.com blog that has her original site name to take down her materials. She claims they ignore her.

Anyway, the article “Tips and Methods”  is now on Aunt Kay’s site, “The Disciplinary Wives Club.” Reading it really turned me on. Like the chastity post on Angelfire, this article seemed very reasonable to me. It offered advice on how to administer domestic discipline. If Mrs. Lion reads it, I could be in trouble. It’s detailed spanking instructions appear very sound and, if a bit extreme, completely achievable. Embarrassingly, reading it still turns me on.

When Mrs. Lion read it, she didn’t seem inspired. I wonder if my next spanking will use some of Aunt Kay’s techniques. I’ll find out soon enough. As of this morning, I have two offenses on Mrs. Lion’s naughty list. [Mrs. Lion – I’m happy with my own technique so far.]

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