I know that a lot of people worry about being “discovered” as practitioners of the dark arts of enforced chastity and female led relationships. I wonder if we aren’t expending too much energy on this concern. No one I know talks about their sex life. Some people do discuss personal sexual experiences with good friends, however I am sure there are limits.
How many people tell friends they had anal sex last night? For that matter, how many report tying or being tied to the bed? If they do talk about it, I’m sure the context is mutual vulnerability where the revelations are two way. In my experience, this kind of conversation is started at gatherings of like-minded people. A BDSM play party is certainly a safe place to discuss bondage, discipline, even enforced chastity; not so much at lunch with coworkers in the company cafeteria.
Let’s face it, there is very little chance we know people who use chastity devices or practice domestic discipline. While both may have gained popularity thanks to the Internet, the number of people who do this are in the thousands at most. Even if enforced chastity and domestic discipline were widely accepted, discussing personal experiences would still not be part of polite discourse.
Mrs. Lion presented the hypothetical situation that one of her coworkers recognized herself from a post here. Chances are good, that coworker could deduce Mrs. Lion’s real name. That sort of discovery is one of the *big* fears bloggers and other writers on the Net express. I suppose it’s similar to a coworker finding nude photos on the Web. “OMG, it’s you!”
So what? They stopped burning people at the stake some time ago. Maybe some people with Puritan values would be outraged, but most would at worst, laugh. The penalty for discovery is embarrassment.
“You mean you let your wife spank you?” <snicker>
“You actually spank your husband?”<gasp>
“You wear a lock on your cock? Really? Can I see?”
It isn’t all that different from, “You let him put it in your ass?”
The vulnerability comes from revealing something that others keep secret: sexual practices. I’ve always figured that if someone identifies me as an author in this blog, he will keep quiet about it. After all, the only way he could have discovered me is to be a reader. Doesn’t that strongly imply he has interest in the stuff I do? Actually, I would welcome being asked if I’m the guy who… It would start a very interesting conversation and perhaps be the beginning of a real-life community.