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I have to give Lion credit for the title. Last night we were heading out to dinner and, just beyond the driveway, I realized he might have forgotten his training collar. I told him I thought he was in trouble. He couldn’t imagine why. I pulled out my phone and tried to connect to the collar. No success, but I guess that depends on what you consider success; I had successfully caught him without the training collar. He wanted to go back for it but I was driving and I wasn’t turning around. He said he guessed today would be Spanksgiving, and a perfect title was born!

Once Lion makes a mistake, he seems to make another quickly thereafter. It’s weird because he once held a job that other people could not, simply because he could recover from making a mistake and move on. However, he may have lost his touch in that regard. At dinner, I buttered my bread and put it back on the plate. When I happened to look at Lion, he was busy munching on his bread. I alerted him and he swore he saw me eating. I showed him the intact piece of bread. Poor Lion. More swats.

Lion insists he thought about wearing the training collar all day, and then forgot it anyway. I have no reason to doubt him, but the fact remains, he did not wear the collar. I don’t know what to say about his eating before me. It was dark in the restaurant. Maybe he couldn’t see. No excuses. A rule is a rule. And it just so happens he broke them the day before punishment day. What luck! Not such good luck for him.

Like many Americans, we’ll be doing a lot of cooking today. Some have been cooking since the wee hours of the morning. We like our dinner around 6 or 7 so we’ve got plenty of time to start. The real problem comes when we’re both trying to be in the kitchen at the same time. It’s not a big kitchen and we both tend to want to be in the same exact spot at the same exact time. Needless to say, it can get annoying. Lion will be doing most of the cooking, but he’s been deferring to my needs lately. I wonder if he’ll stop what he’s doing so I can do what I need to do. I’d rather he didn’t. I don’t think my dishes are all that time sensitive. His are. I can wait for him to be done with something before I start. So, just for the part of the day involving cooking, he can take the lead. I also know he tends to be a messy chef. As long as he cleans up after himself, and he usually does, there will be no punishment for spilling food on himself or anywhere else during cooking. Eating is another matter. The rule hasn’t changed there.

Later, after we’ve rolled ourselves into the bedroom to digest, Lion will get his punishment. I think I have the perfect paddle all picked out.

I’d like to join Lion in wishing everyone a happy Thanksgiving!!! Or Spanksgiving if you’re poor Lion.

[Lion — I can’t take credit for inventing “Spanksgiving”. The Stockroom, a great source of BDSM toys, created it.]

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In: Lion's Journal

Today is the American Thanksgiving. It’s a day when we reflect on all the good things we enjoy. I know that I am one of the luckiest critters in the world. I live with my best friend and love of my life, Mrs. Lion. She always teases that I’m talking about the dog. No, Mrs. Lion, I’m not.

I’m very thankful that Mrs. Lion embraces my weird ideas and seriously puts them into practice. At my request, she’s locked me into a chastity device. She’s taken charge of our relationship and disciplines me as required. None of those things would have occurred to her without my suggestions. I know how rare it is to find someone willing to indulge such strange needs. She’s done all this with good spirit and sincerity. Those strange things I suggested are now integral parts of our lives.

Best of all, she is willing to spend her life with me. That is what I am most thankful for. She is the center of my universe. I am the happiest lion in the world.

I am also very thankful for you and  your patience with us. Thanks to you, we are the most popular chastity blog in the world. Google ranks us as the first result on many related searches. In a few weeks we will have written over 2,000 posts. We get over 2 million page views a year. Since we are completely non commercial, all this volume does is make managing the site more expensive. Fortunately, we are hosted by a non-profit organization that doesn’t charge us for bandwidth. I’m really thankful for that.

Both Mrs. Lion and I hope you also have a long list of thanks to give. Have a great Thanksgiving!

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In: Mrs Lion Comments, Spanking

Let’s face it, Lion has been around the block a time or two. There’s very little I can do to him that hasn’t already been done, at least in terms of sex. However, I do like to change things up. I don’t ever want him to get bored with the same old thing. (Although I am the same old thing.) Sometimes I just vary the order in which we do things. Sometimes I do something I’ve never done before. I like to surprise him.

Last night when we first started snuggling, Lion’s mind was elsewhere. He had to send an email to growl at someone and then he was ready for action. I decided he should have a blow job, or at least part of one. In the past week he’s had two orgasms so another one was not on the table. And to change things up I decided that I wouldn’t let go of him after I edged him. He would remain in my mouth until I was done with him. Each time I edged him, I stopped all movement except for my tongue pressing on the underside of the head of his penis. Once I even just stopped moving where I was, with my tongue near the base, and let him squirm a bit. I didn’t give him much time in between so he was always right there. I wasn’t moving much. Mostly it was just my tongue moving. For the finale, I did move. And I ended up with a very hot, very frustrated Lion. As it should be.

I doubt he thought he was going to come. Afterwards, he said it had only been two days since his last orgasm, and two days before that. He didn’t expect to come, but boy was he hopeful! He liked my new technique of not letting him out of my mouth. I’ll have to repeat it in the future.

I checked out Lion’s butt when I got home. No bruises, but there are little red dots where the tenderizer paddle drew blood. In yesterday’s email exchange, Lion told me how to leave bruises. I already knew, but I told him I choose not to. I don’t know why it surprised me when he asked if I would. I’ve only ever left a bruise a few times and then it was during play spankings. I think it was when Lion was teaching me how to leave a bruise and then once after that to make sure I could still do it. Now he wants them during punishment. I’m still struggling with the whole punishment thing, especially the harder swats. It didn’t really bother me to make him bleed the other night, and I think if I had left a bruise it would have been all right, but intentionally leaving a bruise during punishment will be difficult. I still try to maneuver the swats so they don’t hit the same spots over and over again. I’ve been trying to make it easier for Lion to take them. To get a bruise I have to concentrate swats in one area. I know I can do it. I just have to talk myself into it.

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In: Lion's Journal, Spanking

Everything that Mrs. Lion and I do is consensual. I asked to be locked into a chastity device. I agreed to make it permanent. I asked Mrs. Lion to take charge in a female led relationship (FLR). I asked her to discipline me. Period.

That doesn’t mean I am perpetually happy with my situation. I’m not. The spankings I receive are real. I truly hate them and on one level absolutely want them to stop. Then why do I encourage her to be even stricter and punish harder and longer?

The answer isn’t simple. In one sense, the punishments are supporting a greater good that I endorse. I want Mrs. Lion to express her likes and dislikes. I want to support these expressions. It’s pretty obvious that I have a strong personality and I am quite capable of rolling over requests that I don’t like. Mrs. Lion traditionally responds by internalizing her wishes. I don’t want that.

FLR and domestic discipline help me overcome this weakness. That much is obvious. Here’s where things get complicated. I find spanking arousing. To be more accurate, thinking about being spanked is hot for me. Play spankings, where I control the buildup and intensity are very exciting. On the other hand, punishment spankings are pure hell.

I’m sure you see where this is going. When I think about being spanked, I’m turned on. When I am punished, I hate it and want it to stop. The next day, I’m turned on thinking about the punishment. Does that mean the punishment is actually something I want?

I’ve been wrestling with this thought for a while now. The fact that I am turned on by the idea of being spanked isn’t really an expression of wanting my butt beaten. It’s arousal caused by the powerful message of control that a spanking sends me. I want to feel that control. When I do, I feel centered and safe. Would another form of punishment also make me feel this way? I think so.

Spanking, however, seems to be directly wired to my feeling of being controlled. The more intense the pain, the more I feel I have surrendered. This feeling doesn’t come to me while I am being beaten. During the spanking, I just want it to stop. Mrs. Lion understands that my reaction to the sensation is not what I want deep down inside my soul.

It’s hard for her to internalize this. It’s hard for me to understand this mechanism. But there it is. This opens up a new question: If a severe spanking ultimately makes me feel good inside, is it effective as a deterrent for bad behavior? In other words, does a punishment have to be pure hell with no redeeming qualities?

I used to think that a punishment isn’t useful unless it has only negative feelings for me. I don’t think so anymore. Now that we have been at domestic discipline for a while, I can unequivocally say that I have never misbehaved to prompt Mrs. Lion to punish me. The reason is that for me, spanking is like a laxative; I hate taking it, but it makes me feel better later. In other words, I don’t want to need a punishment, but when I get one it has a positive effect on me.

What this suggests is that I need “maintenance” spankings when I am not in need of correction. It’s weird, but I have to admit it’s true. Mrs. Lion’s maintenance spankings are not nearly as intense as the punishment variety. But, they are strong enough to clearly demonstrate who’s in charge. For me a spanking has the beneficial effect only when it goes past the point I really want it to stop. Mrs. Lion has figured that out for herself. I’m confirming it now.

When you read about punishments I receive, please consider that I agreed to receive them. Mrs. Lion’s efforts on my behalf are both welcome and appreciated, even if I don’t think so at the time.