New Year’s Eve Blahs

standing rib roast

This is the prime standing rib roast I cooked for New Year’s Eve. It was the high point of the evening.

Happy New Year! It’s the first day of a brand new year. How is it going so far? My New Year’s Eve wasn’t particularly exciting. Mrs. Lion is under the weather. As you might imagine, there was no sexual activity of any kind. I understand that. It still is a let down.

In prior years I had posted some resolutions relating to enforced chastity. At this point I realize that isn’t my place to do. The only resolution appropriate to my role is for me to be more obedient in the new year. I have an adequate incentive to follow through on this. Mrs. Lion’s paddle collection provides excellent motivation. At least, that’s what I’m supposed to say.

Until very recently, I didn’t think that corporal punishment was a particularly good incentive for me. I am turned on by the idea of being spanked. Spankings did hurt. But I really didn’t get too concerned about avoiding them. A few weeks ago, Mrs. Lion decided to give me “real” disciplinary spankings; the kind that leaves marks and can hurt for days. My view of punishment changed very quickly.

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I guess Mrs. Lion reached the point in averse stimulation that made me pay attention. Ever since that first, very painful spanking I truly try to do what I can to avoid getting another. I haven’t been too successful. I forgot to remind Mrs. Lion of punishment day and I failed to wear the training collar when we went out. She gave me a painful spanking for each infraction. I haven’t repeated either.

It’s difficult for me to sort out the fact from the fiction when reading accounts of domestic discipline. For a long time I didn’t believe that wives gave the painful, bruising spankings that they wrote about. I figured that was added drama for the sake of building readership. Like some of our readers who have commented on the subject, it just seemed too cruel. Why would any guy voluntarily accept such abuse?

Then it happened to me. I told Mrs. Lion about these domestic discipline spankings. I also reminded her that the entire purpose of spanking is to provide as much pain as possible. She was uncertain about doing this to me. But she did. The first was the spanking for interrupting her. That brought me many bruises. It was horrible. One disclaimer: I bruise easily lately because of a medicine I take. I don’t think I would have marked that much before starting the meds. In any case, I never experienced anything like it.

When she was done, I was angry. My anger wasn’t at her. It was at myself for earning this pain. After the burn died down, I realized that she did exactly the right thing to me. Since that spanking, I consciously try to avoid interrupting her. I’m sure I will slip and I will pay the price. The same is true about remembering my training collar and punishment day. I am working to avoid a repeat performance.

One other lesson from those spanking blogs is the concept of increased intensity for repeat offenses. We haven’t tried that  yet. The theory is that the first spanking wasn’t strong enough to correct the behavior. This isn’t entirely true. A repeat offense within a week or two probably does warrant more pain. One after a longer period of time probably indicates a reminder spanking is needed.

Another interesting lesson from the blogosphere is that disrespect or annoying behavior also earns strong spankings. So far, Mrs. Lion has only punished for breaking stated rules. This ad hoc type of offense completes the disciplinary lexicon. It is also the most difficult to administer. The other day Mrs. Lion punished me for my first ad hoc offense. A comment I made upset her. On punishment day she spanked me for it. Excellent work!

These new, disciplinary spankings are so unpleasant I work to avoid them. In the past, I wasn’t too upset if I earned a spanking because I do like to be spanked. The milder spankings were close enough to a “play” spanking to help satisfy that kink of mine. The new, longer, harder, bruising spankings are way more than I ever want. That’s why I work hard to avoid them. If I “need” a play spanking, I will ask for one. I have a feeling that for a while I won’t need to ask. I just seem to keep slipping up.

So, my hope for the new year is that Mrs. Lion continues to be sensitive to my effects on her and that she will discipline as close to the offenses as possible. I’m going to work hard to avoid those painful spankings.

Male half of a happy couple practicing enforced male chastity and FLR with discipline. Locked since 1/2014. FLR 3/2015. Lion's first mouth soaping was 7/17.

One comment on “New Year’s Eve Blahs
  1. Flash says:

    Hi there,

    Here are a few questions for you:

    1. Allowing for the fact that nine times out of ten it is the man who brings up and initiates an FLR, can the man ever truly give up control of the FLR and not have the desire to tinker with the mechanics of it? ie, giving unnecessary feedback and coming up with “improvements”. I am trying to just truly hand over control to my wife, and it isn’t as easy as I thought.

    2. For more effective spankings is it better to spank harder or spank longer? Is it better to vary where the swats fall during a spanking (ie cheeks, tops of the thighs) or is it better to aim for one place?

    3. How common do you think male chastity is? There are so many cages etc. for sale that one thinks there must be a lot of us!

    Many thanks and happy new year!

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