Have you ever wondered why women virtually never introduce enforced male chastity into their relationships? I think I have an idea about what’s going on. Consider how males and females differ in the way they think about the issues enforced chastity is supposed to address.
Let’s start at the most fundamental element: the penis. I think it is very safe to assume that men and women think very differently about a guy’s favorite toy. Men think about their penises quite a bit. I do. A day doesn’t go by that I don’t picture it having some fun. I doubt Mrs. Lion considers it except when it is near her. Well, that’s not true. I know she has fond thoughts about it from time to time.
It’s also pretty safe to say that if a woman is having a sexual problem with her husband, such as lack of attention, her consideration is not focused on his cock. She feels his neglect. If she learns he is jerking off and expending all his sexual energy watching porn, she won’t blame his naughty penis. She will feel that he is neglecting her; that he is losing interest. So, if she wants to cure the problem, she isn’t thinking about locking up his weenie. That doesn’t address what she knows is the real problem.
If she isn’t having a sexual problem with her partner, but just likes the idea of being in control, her thoughts won’t turn to putting his penis in a cage. They will be about training him to be sexually obedient. She may like the idea of tying him up, spanking him, and making him do sexual tricks for her, but it will probably never occur to her that she should lock up his cock.
Let’s say that he suggests the idea of tease and deny and orgasm control. If she likes the idea of a sexual power exchange with her in charge, she will probably want to try it. Again, she won’t even consider the need for a device to lock him up. She’s focusing on how she can keep him frustrated and horny. She may also secretly hope he sneaks a wank so she can spank him. But lock him up? Why? It’s extra trouble.
As far as I can see, the main difference between the sexes in this area is that the male will focus on his penis. He will see orgasm control as a sexy way for his partner to play with it. She, on the other hand, will see it as a way to arouse and control him, not just his cock.
If I’m right, then it’s pretty obvious why we guys initiate enforced chastity. It also explains why our partners may not see the immediate advantage of permanent cock bondage. Maybe the first step isn’t to buy a chastity device. Perhaps the first thing to do is try to ask her to practice orgasm control with you.
