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In: Edging, Female led relationship with discipline, Health and safety

I took a page out of Lion’s book and did some research into why Lion isn’t ejaculating when he has an orgasm. For younger men, the major cause is too many orgasms within a short time period. For older men, it’s usually because of prostate or other urinary surgery. Other than that, it’s generally caused by side effects of drugs. Bingo! While I don’t really know what the side effects for the narcotic are, I’m fairly sure that either it, or the anesthesia has thrown Lion for a loop in the ejaculation department.

If you remember, Lion did have surgery for kidney stones several months ago. After that, he ejaculated fine. His semen production was somewhat low, but he did have some. The issue has only occurred after his shoulder surgery. He was given an antibiotic that we know alters his sense of taste. That lasted for quite a long time. I don’t know what anesthesia he was given, but it stands to reason that he may have had side effects from all the sources that contribute to his lack of ejaculation.

While I love Lion’s cum, I’m just happy that orgasms still feel good to him. I’m not worried about my loss of a crème-filled Lion. Sure, it’s a tasty snack, but my goal is a happy Lion. If he said his orgasms were no longer satisfying, then we’d have a bigger problem. So far I’m running under the theory that the semen will return when it’s ready. Lion is moving toward eliminating the narcotic and once that happens, I think things will get back to normal.

On the other hand, I wonder if it’s possible that Lion is subconsciously doing it to himself. Maybe he’s worrying that things won’t return to normal in the sense of female led relationship, domestic discipline and male chastity. He could be worrying about his recovery and whether he’ll get full use of his arm back. He could still be worrying that I’ll leave him because he’s needed so much help lately. Worrying about things has many side effects all by itself.

From my point of view, I’m wondering if he’ll ejaculate if I start playing with him again. Does he need some pain to go with that pleasure? I wondered if I just teased him enough, would that get the juices flowing? Maybe my concept of giving him an orgasm every few days to ease back into things is all wrong. Maybe he just needs to be played with and edged and made to wait for the semen production line to start up again.

Even though I don’t really think it’s a big deal, I’m willing to try anything to help Lion. The last thing I want to do is put more pressure on him. We can try different things, but I figure it will just randomly happen when it happens.

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In: Female led relationship with discipline, Rules, Sex, Spanking

Thursday night Mrs. Lion snuggled and played with her weenie. I responded and she edged me once. It’s the closest we’ve come to normality since my surgery a month ago. It felt very good to me. It won’t be long before we are back to our full routine. Mrs. Lion will dust off her paddles and BDSM toys and the fun will resume. She’s told me that she is hesitant to punish me until my shoulder pain is controlled. Right now there is very little pain. She is concerned that the physical therapy (PT) will make things hurt so much that she won’t want to add to my trouble. My prior experience with PT for this shoulder, suggests that there will be pain but it will disappear within a day.

Her plan is to ease me back into male chastity and punishment for my transgressions. That’s a good idea. It may be a while before the chastity device goes on again. I need sufficient use of both arms to reliably sit to pee and adjust things during the day. I’m pretty sure that isn’t the case for domestic discipline. That will resume soon, I’m sure. I wonder if Mrs. Lion will consider non-spanking punishments when we resume. There isn’t any real reason to change. Spanking is very effective with me. But she might consider add-on’s just for the hell of it (literally).

She might not. Punishment in our house is not a BDSM activity. It has a purpose: to correct behavioral mistakes on my part. That’s it. I could see her making some punishments fit the crime like mouth soaping for interrupting. But it’s completely up to her. Spanking is sufficiently humiliating and painful to be the all-purpose correction method. I’ll stop suggesting alternates. She is perfectly capable of finding instructions on any activity she chooses.

I wonder how difficult it will be for her to get back to her routine. It took a very long time to get where we were before the surgery. As lioness 2.0, she was committed to increasing her strict enforcement of rules. Will she continue meeting that commitment? I wonder how I will react to 2.0 working toward 2.5? Of course, my reaction has nothing to do with how she proceeds. I’m just curious.

In my mind, lioness 2.o is a change in Mrs. Lion’s behavior regarding strictness, punishment, and orgasm control. 1.5 is very sensitive to my reactions and will generally allow me to cause her to be less strict and a lot less painful in her punishments. 2.0 is not interested in my objections to her spanking. She hits hard as long as she wishes. She also is much more observant of my behavior and very willing to punish for the slightest deviation from a rule. This is the point I hope she can return to in the very near future.

I think that Lioness 2.5 is more than just a meaner 2.0. In my eyes, 2.5 will demand more obedience and will punish more severely than 2.0. This next evolution of my lioness will be comfortably in control and have considerably higher expectations of me. Sexually, she will decide what I get based purely on her own thinking. My feedback may be accepted but will have little weight.

Of course, this is all my idea. Only Mrs. Lion knows what her next step will be. I’m hoping she will share her thinking on this in the near future. I think that a part of the process of getting back to normal is to think about where we left off and where we are going. I am going to discuss this with Mrs. Lion and see how she is feeling. After all, I don’t get a vote in any of this.

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In: Punishment, Rules

I’m annoyed with Lion right now. He doesn’t know it. I haven’t told him. I was trying to figure out how to ease into the first issue without it seeming like I’m attacking Lion. He goes on the defensive quickly. And now there’s another issue that has my panties in a bunch. Right now he’s writing his post so I don’t want to interrupt him, but we’ll discuss things when we’re both done writing.

The thing is, I see myself falling into old habits. I’ve been annoyed at the mountain of tasks I have to do. I knew I’d be doing the majority of the tasks while Lion recuperates, but it just seems like there’s always something that needs to be done. For example, I don’t remember us running the dishwasher so often before his surgery. I’m always emptying it. And when did we become the largest garbage generator in town. The bag is always full and I need to take it out. I’m not blaming Lion for not being able to do anything. He’s pitching in where he can. [Lion – Before the surgery, I took out the garbage almost all the time. Mrs. Lion didn’t realize that. We have always run the dishwasher daily. I think it is that poor Mrs. Lion is doing everything now, she is feeling the pressure.]

If I wasn’t annoyed by this mountain of tasks, I don’t think I would be so annoyed by the other two things, which are largely due to lack of communication. It’s a snowball effect and I understand how easy it is for things to fester inside me. I haven’t said anything about the long list of tasks because it’s not Lion’s fault. I have to get off my ass and do things rather than sit around falling asleep with him. It annoys me even more when Lion points out something that needs to be done. “Wow! That’s a lot of recycle to go out.” “If I was driving my car, I’d get it washed. I hate a dirty car.” And when I said I need to move around rather than sit with him so I stay awake he said, “You could always clean.” Apparently 2.0 is off on vacation somewhere. Any one of those statements should have warranted a notch on the bedpost for future punishment. But they didn’t. Instead, I hold it in and let it simmer.

Well, today it’s boiling over. Either 2.0 is spending Memorial Day weekend with us or 1.0 finally woke up. If he can drive his car and plan to go back to the office full time, then he can handle some punishment. He wondered when punishment would resume. Right here. Right now. It’s on.

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In: Female led relationship with discipline, Male Chastity
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It’s been a while since I looked like this. And yes, it’s me. I think the vacation is almost over and I will be red again. No fun for me, but a big win for us.

Maybe my penis is the best indicator of returning to normal. Mrs. Lion gave me a hand job on Tuesday and I was having sexy thoughts and erections on Thursday. Before that, I was worried that I was broken for good. Clearly I’m not

Mrs. Lion thinks the opiods I was taking caused my sexual hibernation. I’m not so sure I agree. I’m still taking them at a lower dose as I am tapering off. It just may be the healing process is sufficiently complete to let my body get back to its normal condition. My appetite has returned and food tastes much better. So far, my orgasms have been completely dry. No semen ejaculates when I come. However, a decent amount drips out over several minutes after I am soft again. Yuck.

I suspect the paddle cease fire will end shortly. Domestic discipline will return in our home. The paddles will be dusted off and my bottom will be used to help me learn to obey Mrs. Lion’s rules. In a way I’m glad this will start again. I don’t miss the punishments, but I do miss the way they provide a balance in my life. It’s very similar to the way enforced chastity brings us closer.

I’ve always thought that male chastity and domestic discipline are displays of male submission. Well, on the surface at least, they are. But in my case there is more too it than that. If I strip away the BDSM-like trappings, there is a core set of benefits that adds great value to our relationship.

It seems to me that the primary benefit is the explicit assignment of roles. One partner is clearly in charge. There is on passive aggressive attempts at control in our house. By agreement, Mrs. Lion is in charge. Period. The way we structured things, she has absolute control over my sexual pleasure. Being male, sex is an important, top-of-mind part of my life. Locking my penis in a chastity device not only prevents me from sexual activity, it also reminds me 24/7 of my role. It’s a great, practical symbol of my surrender. After almost 3 1/2 years, even when out of the device, I don’t do anything sexual.

So the chastity device continuously reminds me that my lioness is in charge. I think the paddles and the agreement to use them to enforce my obedience, is the female-in-charge equivalent of my cage. She has to observe me and correct me when I don’t follow a rule or fail to obey her. Just as I know that I can’t have any sexual pleasure without her, she recognizes her responsibility to punish me when needed.

Some Female Led Relationships (FLR) don’t include physical punishment. The dominant women in those relationships need no reminder of their status. They are naturally dominant and were in charge long before they ever heard of FLR.  In our case, I am naturally dominant and can easily just take over. Mrs. Lion is a very accepting woman who, without help, could forget she is in charge.

So, we have enforced chastity and domestic discipline to provide concrete reinforcement of our agreed roles. We jointly decided that we want this lifestyle. We’ve also learned that we both need structure with specific responsibilities to reinforce our roles. We suspended all of this during my early recovery. It’s time, I think, to return.

There’s very good news in all of this. Mrs. Lion told me that she is putting rules back in place. It’s clear that she wants to return to domestic discipline as much as I do. It isn’t that either of us like spanking. I don’t miss that. I do miss the enforced requirement that I follow any rules I am given and I obey my lioness. During my recovery it was easy to just overlook any slips. I don’t like that. In a very real sense, her painful enforcement is a message of caring and love. I’m looking forward to our return to normal.