Lion has been wild for a few months now. Before his surgery, he was in pain and it just made sense to take that one hassle off his plate. After the surgery, he’s had a hard enough time maneuvering himself, the cage would have been too much. This weekend he started making noises like he’s ready for the cage to go back on.
This morning he said we should try to get back to normal and mentioned the cage again. I thought we’d been trying to get back to normal for at least a week. If he’s ready for the cage, we can put it back on. Then he asked me if I like the cage. I told him I think he looks good in it. He thinks I’m humoring him.
I haven’t really thought much about it, but I realize now that I miss the cage. Ordinarily I don’t really notice the cage. I’m wondering if I miss it because it hasn’t been on, but once it’s on I’ll go back to not noticing it. I don’t know if that makes any sense at all.
The only time I really think about the cage is when it has to come off or go on. Then it’s a pain in the neck. Just one more thing to think about. I know it serves a purpose other than keeping Lion from touching my. It’s a symbol of my power over him. But, for the most part, I don’t care if it’s on or not. Why then would I miss it?
Nothing has changed. Lion is no more likely to masturbate with or without the cage. True, he can get hard without it and he’s written that he played with himself in the middle of the night when he was hard, but he won’t go further than that. I don’t, consciously at least, feel any more or less powerful with or without it.
So does it matter if it’s on or off? I don’t know. I think maybe we’ll try it back on for a while to see how it goes. If Lion jumped the gun and needs it off again because it’s too difficult to deal with right now, that’s fine. Otherwise, we can discuss the pros and cons and go from there.