“Suck my cock!” What would happen if i said that to Mrs. Lion? Thoughts about this vary. Julie posed this as an example of something she would punish her husband for saying, but if a man she submitted to said it, she would simply obey. This came up in the context of respect for the submissive partner.
When I submitted to Mrs. Lion, did I lose my “he man” rights to demand sexual obedience from Mrs. Lion? That’s an odd question in the twenty-first century. The only time I would ever demand something like that would be in the context of a scene where I am dominant. I would never do it in any other situation. As a vanilla husband, much less a submissive one, I have no right to make such a demand.
In the context of 24/7 roles like ours, sexual demands are either something to be laughed at or punished. There is so much about dominance and submission that appear one way, but actually are nearly opposite in fact. This example is a very vivid illustration of that fact. It’s obviously disrespectful or silly for me to seriously demand a blowjob. Mrs. Lion is actually happy to give me one. She loves sucking my cock.
However, as my disciplining wife, she would have to be offended by such a macho request. Such disrespect! I would require immediate punishment. I don’t think that would offend her at all if you take out her role. She might consider it an odd way for me to tell her I want it, but she would most likely say, “What a good idea!”
Even if no one wants to admit it, FLR, domestic discipline, and male chastity are all joint decisions by the people involved. These are consensual practices. I want Mrs. Lion to be in charge, lock up my cock, and punish me as she wishes. I may hate some of the things she does or makes me do, but I know that this is all by mutual agreement.
So, when it comes to matters of keeping or losing respect, I always refer back to roles. I don’t think there is no coming back if one or both of us decide to return to a full partnership. If my lioness actually lost respect for me due to something we are doing, she would have to question whether or not she wants to be my wife, much less continue our power exchange.
So, when Julie pointed out that if her husband told her to suck his cock that she would punish him, I suggest that is because someone in her role would never put up with that from her submissive. If I told her to suck my cock, I’m sure she would be massively offended and potentially sock me in the nose. But if John, a man she submits to, gives her that order, she is on her knees instantly.
As someone who has been in the dominant role for almost 25 years, I’ve made that demand of women submitting to me many times. Their response was to immediately get to work. I never asked an acquaintance or friend for such service. It would be plain stupid.
So, if a woman agrees to dominate her husband, the power exchange would make it foolish, even dangerous, to make any such demands. I don’t think that shows she has lost respect for him. It just means it’s wrong for someone with her role to accept such behavior from her submissive partner. Let the debate begin!