My last post generated some interesting, thoughtful comments. Thank you.
Much of the conversation revolved around just what our power exchange means. Julie talked about hers as well. I said that I’m not Mrs. Lion’s bitch and that I had the freedom to ask her to suck my cock; to which, Julie replied:
“Hee hee.. you’re her bitch now, mr. lion. The 7 stages of denial?”
This was stated jokingly, but it’s true that in so many ways I am her bitch. I wear a chastity device full time because she likes the feeling of possession she gets by locking up my cock. I am always naked at home unless she panties me. She spanks me when I break a rule. So, yes Julie, you are right. I admit it.
Save the chastity device, Julie’s power exchange is very similar to ours. We call them different things. She considers it BDSM scening. We call it domestic discipline. The reality is that she and Mrs. Lion spank their husbands when they decide they want to or a rule has been broken. David, her husband, and I obey our wives or face painful punishment. Neither of us is dominant with our wives. We both wear panties sometimes. More importantly, we both are professionally independent and function on our own save the times our wives choose to take charge.
In many ways, Julie is far stricter than Mrs. Lion. I believe that we are moving toward the level of intensity that Julie writes about. I’ll probably be both happy and sorry that is happening.
At this point in our power exchange, Mrs. Lion is just starting to experiment with her power. She doesn’t have too much fun with her control. I suspect she is still worried that she will hurt me in some way: physically or emotionally. She appears to have a problem starting the fun. In our case, domination isn’t necessarily a scene that, once started, has to play out to some conclusion.
In my mind, at least, pantying (new word?) me is a scene all by itself. If a spanking is desired, that can happen at any point in time. Similarly, putting a butt plug in can become a routine part of my evening. We’ve talked about stretching me so that she can peg me with various dildos. To do that, I need to get used to anal visitors. There are a lot of other things we’ve discussed but haven’t done.
I think this is because Mrs. Lion is more reactive than proactive. This is a general observation, not just about playing with me. Of course, the problem is that her role as my dominant partner requires her to initiate the action. She is also very concerned about interrupting me or if I’m in the mood for play. I appreciate that her reasoning is that this is all for me and if I’m not in the mood, why waste the time and energy? She doesn’t check in on my mood to punish me. I think play is the same thing.. She is in control. If she feels like plugging my ass, than why care how I feel about it?
The bottom line is that Mrs. Lion hasn’t found a way to have fun with all this. So, if it is all for my fun, I get a lot of control. Why start the merry-go-round if no one is on it?
I’m at a loss understanding how to help Mrs. Lion enjoy things more. There’s nothing wrong with her. It’s got to be me and what I’ve told her about what we do. She loves games. Her favorite free-time activity is playing them on her iPad. Isn’t what we do a game as well? Training me is a pretty tough puzzle. At least I think so. I realize that I can’t be the one to help her solve it.