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Saturday, after we came home from our explorations, we had take-out pizza for dinner. Then Mrs. Lion asked if I wanted to play. I did. I was very horny. She did some CBT and then gave me another gentle orgasm. It was nice, but it wasn’t a full orgasm. She wanted me to have more than one, but like last time, one was all I could manage. Happily I produced some semen. Sadly, she shared it with me.

I’ve been wearing my training collar all day every day on this trip. Mrs. Lion hasn’t had to use it. I suspect that she forgets it’s there. Good. She has been making most of the decisions. We may not be practicing full domestic discipline, but we are on the way. I’m still owed a maintenance spanking. I’m patient.

Our allergies are bothering us. Mrs. Lion was tired yesterday. Despite that, she made a delicious pancake breakfast. I’m not sure what we will be doing today, but there is no pressure to do anything. I’ve been watching DVD;s from our collection. The “Three Stooges” is on now. I do miss our satellite, but this will do nicely for this trip.

I’m glad Mrs. Lion allowed me to be wild on our trip. RV toilets are problematic when wearing a chastity device. Of course, orgasm control is always in force. Every so often I think about the fact that self-induced orgasms stopped almost four years ago. Mrs. Lion is my only source of release.

We had an interesting chat yesterday. I wondered if Mrs. Lion’s lack of libido is due to my lack of initiating sex. I asked if I could provide orgasms to her without asking. My theory is that in the beginning, even if she isn’t feeling interested, I should still do it. With my right arm out of operation, I can use the Magic Wand. It works wonders for me. I expect a combination of fingers and the wand will do the trick.

This will have to wait until we get home. I can’t maneuver well enough in the trailer. I’ve never been good at initiating, but then Mrs. Lion had never been dominant. If the lioness can learn, so can the lion. Evolution is slow for us, but we work until we get there.

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In: Advice for a new keyholder, Advice to caged males, Lion's Journal
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The lion might not mind, but Mrs. Lion certainly would and that would be very unsafe.

As someone once said, “Free advice is worth every cent you pay for it.” Yup, completely true. What caused me to mention this is that I have been cruising the chastity and FLR web sites. I am astounded by the instructions on how we should conduct our lives.

I have to admit that I provide written instructions too. There are a bunch of pages you can find from the top menu. I suppose the aphorism applies to me too. Should anyone follow my suggestions? Possibly. How do you decide which online advice is useful?

The method I use is to analyze context. Does the advisor share his or her life? Does it pass the smell test? That test is easy. Does what you read smell fishy? From my reading, the vast majority of chastity and FLR advice comes from men who are writing their fantasies and pretending they are real. That doesn’t mean there aren’t blogs out there with pretty extreme content that aren’t true. One in particular comes to mind: “Monkey In A Cage” . This couple rarely offer advice, but extreme as they sound, I believe their content is accurate and any advice they offer is based on real-life experience.

Their approach is very different from ours. Of course they are both much younger than us and therefore have more energy and stronger libidos. How do I know? I’ve read many of their posts. Like us, mostly they write about their experiences. For my money, you can learn way more by reading how people experience your kink than you can by reading lists of what you “should” do.

The big problem is that people who are new to something tend to seek out prescriptive information that they can read and potentially follow. Because I despair when I read the advice in forums and blogs about enforced male chastity, I wrote my own pages that can help people get started. I think my advice is probably more useful. It’s based on our real-life experience. We’ve done everything we discuss. I’m sure there are many other completely valid ways to approach male chastity and domestic discipline, I know our suggestions work for us.

I don’t advocate our methods over others. Whatever works for you is clearly the best advice. What worries me are the fantasy-based instructions. I suspect people try to follow these and give up on a practice they could truly enjoy if they only had better advice. Please take the time to do your homework before you follow advice on the Web.

 

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Yesterday I had a kinder, gentler Lion. It helped, I think, that he read my post. He knew he’d be in trouble if he acted badly.

We started off the day searching for fresh fruit. Theoretically, there should be cherries and early peaches. Unfortunately the cherries are not very good this year. Apparently the weather didn’t cooperate. We bought some apricots and some peaches. They aren’t quite ripe so we don’t know how they taste yet.

After we had the fruit we went off on an adventure. Actually, we went to have lunch at a fun, farm-themed restaurant. Then we searched for a store to buy a few things. We’ve been to this area quite a few times so we’ve explored a lot. I’m sure there are still many things to find and we’re always amazed at the scenery or crops or buildings.

We got back around 4. On went the TV and DVD. After a few episodes, Lion asked what was on the agenda. I told him at the end of the show we were going to play and then I thought we’d have dinner. He was all for it.

In a store, we saw a yardstick and I joked that I should buy it for Lion whomping. It didn’t seem very hefty. It probably would have broken quickly. Lion suggested a paint stirrer. We already have one. I used it on his balls yesterday. As I was getting him hard, I whomped him with it some more and informed him I’d be trying for a gentle orgasm again.

Lion calls an intentionally ruined orgasm a gentle orgasm if it is done slowly. It’s just past the edge but not far enough to cause the contraction of a normal orgasm. Lion says ruined orgasms hurt. They are all of the fanfare without the fun.

I’m sure Lion was looking forward to a long play session. I was too. The last time we tried a gentle orgasm, Lion wasn’t able to have more than one. I was hoping we’d be able to do more this time. Unfortunately he could only manage one again. I don’t know if it’s because of his age, as Lion thinks, or because he’s not used to the idea yet. I told him we’d try again.

Lion wants to know if we can try for regular orgasms sometimes too. Of course we can. I was just trying out the new technique to get it right first. His next orgasm might be a regular one. He just never knows what I’m going to do to him.

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We drove to the state park on Friday. My shoulder proved to be a painful problem. The drive was fine, but my trusty trailer recliner turned out to be impossibly uncomfortable. I spent the evening in a straight-back dining chair. Getting to sleep was as difficult as it is at home. So, in that respect camping is no worse than being home. Fortunately, it is pretty comfortable to drive in Mrs. Lion’s truck.

About 10PM Mrs. Lion asked if I wanted to do “anything”. I responded by asking what she had in mind. Her response was vague. I declined. Al la carte play with me calling the shots doesn’t appeal to me. It’s hard to feel submissive when I decide my fate.

It was clear that Mrs Lion was tired and uncomfortable herself. I think her offer was an attempt to follow through on her promise to play if we go away. I am grateful that she was willing to do this to please me.

The problem for me is that, like a spanking, play is something that is announced and then performed; not something that I get to choose to receive. I don’t mean to be overly picky. After all, Mrs. Lion knows my shoulder is a problem for me and she doesn’t want to do anything if I am in pain. Fair enough. Perhaps a simple, “Is your shoulder hurting now?” would do.

Trying to maintain our power exchange with my recovery is an ongoing challenge. Working out how to play is just one more thing to work out. Part of the solution is to assure I take some Tylenol an hour before she wishes to begin. She doesn’t have to tell me why I have to take it. Play requires planning nowadays.

I also suggested we play earlier in the day. I seem to be in less pain then. Mrs. Lion has always put off play and sexual contact for the latest possible movement at night. I don’t know why. Part of me wonders if it is because she doesn’t really want to do it and puts it off as long as possible. I hope that isn’t the case. It would be very sad if it is.

Situations like this underline a problem we both want to solve: Mrs. Lion prefers not to initiate things. I suppose the same is true of me as well. In her role, initiation in terms of sexual and BDSM activity belongs to her. Sexual pleasure for her is something I have to initiate. Perhaps her loss of libido is due to my lack of initiation. Maybe her solution is to just turn off.

Right now, initiation on my part will take some very serious creativity. But with he help of the magic wand and some creative positioning of Mrs. Lion, I could begin. If she wants to cooperate, I can also please her orally if she sits in a chair and I kneel in front of her. At least it is worth a try.

We have four more days to go I’m writing this on Saturday morning. We have no phone or Internet and we will have to drive miles in order to upload our posts. Don’t worry, we will keep you up to date.