Yesterday, Mrs. Lion wrote that she was no longer going to soap my mouth. She predicted that I wouldn’t mind her dropping it. I don’t. I hope that the reason isn’t that when she tried it a few weeks ago, I held it in my mouth long enough for it to burn me a little. Soap is alkaline. That’s what helps it to clean. The alkalinity over 15 or 20 minutes was enough to make my mouth burn for a day.
I wasn’t very troubled by this. It was a valuable lesson and a problem that is very easy to avoid. This sort of thing is bound to come up as we explore new techniques.
It’s not that other things she does to me don’t have lasting effects. Spanking can produce bruises that last for several days. CBT has bruised my penis on occasion. We’ve been doing these things a long time and Mrs. Lion frequently sees marks like this as symbols of her success. I agree.
Neither of us received much, if any, traditional corporal punishments as children. The entire concept of physical punishment is very new to us both. We have done lots of BDSM play over the years. But that was me bottoming because I like/need to bottom sometimes.
Now that we have adopted domestic discipline, corporal punishment is required. We have slowly learned that spanking me is not necessarily as memorable as it should be. Even very severe spankings are less impactful than I expected.
Adding punishment “desserts”: activities after the spanking that not only add additional painful stimulation, but also offer some humiliation and time to consider the consequences of my offense. Corner time is associated with punishing a naughty child. Other than the fact it is humiliating for a grown man to be placed in the corner, it also emphasizes the authority of his partner.
Mouthsoaping is also a traditional punishment for a naughty child. Typically, the naughty child’s mouth is thoroughly soaped with a washcloth or the adult’s hand. He then has to hold the bar in his mouth while receiving a lecture on the error of his ways. After the lecture, he can remove the bar and rinse his mouth. The taste of soap lingers long after the rinse.
You can see why this seemed an appealing concept to me. Actually experiencing it was no fun. I didn’t get lectured, but had to hold the soap in my mouth while sitting in the corner. It’s messy with soap and saliva running from my mouth.
I wanted to try it, and I did. The fact that Mrs. Lion has decided not to do this any longer is certainly her prerogative. I’m not going to argue. I hated sitting there with the soap in my mouth.
The concept that punishment should be spanking plus something else is very effective for me. Based on my reading, this is true of many other disciplinary couples. Perhaps doing something after the spanking serves to underline the significance of breaking a rule. The idea of a sore bottom and something that is truly unpleasant and lasts much longer after the spanking sends me, at least, a clearer message.
In that respect, mouthsoaping may be less of a desert than an appetizer. Soaping me after the spanking actually distracted me from the pain in my bottom and focused my attention on the yucky taste in my mouth. If I were soaped first, the pain of the spanking would overwhelm the bad taste in my mouth, at least while I was being beaten.
I think that one of the key concepts I’m discovering is that there are three things that effective punishment needs: First, it has to be very unpleasant/painful. Spanking covers that nicely. Second, it has to last long enough to make me really sorry I did something wrong. The corner time or other “dessert” fulfills that. Third, there should be lasting aftereffects. A sore bottom that hurts for days is an excellent reminder to behave.
Mrs. Lion is very inventive. She certainly can come up with all sorts of things I will hate. Soaping my mouth was something I suggested. It was effective in one sense, but didn’t really work for her. I’m sure she can manage punishing me without my creative input.