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I didn’t feel well last night. Whatever illness is going around might have had me last night. So far I haven’t gotten it as bad as people I work with. They’ve been dropping like flies.

At any rate, we didn’t play last night. We did snuggle for a bit before Lion had to scratch an itch. We’re just a mess. The good news is that I feel a little better than I did yesterday. I’m looking forward to playing with Lion tonight.

I reminded Lion this morning that he was to wear purple panties today. I left before he got dressed so I can only assume he’s got a frilly butt. If not he’ll have a sore butt when I get done whomping it. Even though we haven’t been feeling well the rules still apply.

In his post today, Lion talks about being wild and how the Jail Bird is gathering dust on his nightstand. My position has been that I’ll use the cage as punishment if need be. However, I’m wondering, if Lion wants to, can he “vacation” from time to time in the cage? In other words, can I have him wear it as I have him wearing panties today just because I want him to? Of course I can. But how will he view that? How does he view wearing panties for that matter? Does he see them as some sort of punishment? They aren’t meant to be.

If anything, panties are meant to show him who’s boss. I suppose the cage’s purpose was to show him who’s boss. So we should be able to use the cage just as we use the panties. Done. Any time I want to remind him that I am in charge I can make him wear the cage.

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In: Lion's Journal, Male Chastity

I’m always on the lookout for new things to read. Lately, I’ve noticed that blogs I enjoy are posting less and less often. Take a look at the “Blogs we read” listing on the right (if you are on a browser). You’ll see that almost all entries are very old. Almost all of these blogs used to have at least a post every week. I’m not saying that other blogs aren’t posting more frequently; just that my tried-and-true favorites seem to be petering out.

Maybe after a while, you say everything you have to say on the subject of male submission. I’ve felt that way at times, but try to soldier through. One of the main reason I want to post daily is to be able to go back and see the way we have changed over time. Both of us have made significant progress in our power exchange. Some of the changes are the result of long term experience.

The most obvious is the role a chastity device plays for us. My biggest discovery was that the device is my fetish and not a serious need for controlling my sexual release. I didn’t seriously think that I would masturbate if my penis was allowed to remain uncaged. However, I really like bondage and being locked in a chastity device is full-time bondage. I don’t think that Mrs. Lion ever considered the device any more than my kink.

So, the very premise of our blog shifted. I was all about devices, measuring, grill marks from suppressed hardons, and the joy of release. There were times I was allowed to be wild. They were when I went on a business trip or on our vacations in our camper. Otherwise, I remained comfortably caged. In April, I underwent rotator cuff surgery. I lost the use of my right arm for over four months. Sitting to pee was a painful chore. Getting up from the toilet was difficult.

Now that it has been six months since surgery, I have most of my range of motion back. I still can’t lift more than a couple of pounds with my right arm. I could return to my cage. But I haven’t. Mrs. Lion has made it clear that I only have to go back if I want to be locked up again, or I break a rule and get “sentenced” to several days in the cage without release.

So, with the exception of the punishment scenario, being locked into the Jail Bird is something that is completely up to me. If I let her know, Mrs. Lion will lock me up again and take control. She’ll do it because I want it, not because it has any particular value to her.

A lot of guys who wear devices are in the same boat as I. Perhaps being locked into a device is purely a male bondage fetish. I certainly discovered it and wanted to pursue it; not Mrs. Lion. I still can’t decide if I want to return to captivity. The Jail Bird sits on my nightstand gathering dust.

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I have a dilemma. It seems every time I think about making Lion wear panties or diapers he mentions something about it either in a post or in a conversation. Then I feel I can’t make him wear them because he’ll think I’m only doing it because he suggested it. He already thinks I see him as a chore. While it’s true that sometimes I think of the day after an orgasm as a day off, it isn’t always the case. I do ask if he’s at all horny. I’m not going to force him to play if he’s not horny.

And let’s assume he’s not horny for an extended period of time because he’s not feeling well from allergies or whatever. Am I supposed to insist we play? Depending on the circumstances I still hold him to his rules. But if he’s scratching the skin off his legs, telling him to wear panties would go over like a lead balloon. I know you’re miserable, Lion. Here’s one more reason to be miserable. Nope. I won’t do it.

What I do in these cases is stand by. I let him know I’m available for snuggling if he can handle my being close to him. Otherwise we can hold hands. Unless I’m not feeling well myself he can have any part of my attention he wants.

Right now I’m thinking he’ll be wearing panties to work tomorrow. Today is physical therapy and off limits for pantie wearing. Tomorrow is fair game. I think something in a nice purple thong. Of course if he’s not feeling well all bets are off. So much of what we do is contingent on life intervening.

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In: Lion's Journal

Saturday night was oral orgasm night. It was very nice. My wait was 12 days. There is a declining trend in orgasms for me. My wait has been increasing. That’s fine with me. There is no real method behind Mrs. Lion’s decisions when I get to ejaculate. We’ve been practicing enforced male chastity long enough for me to essentially forget the days when I decided when I would come. At this point I really don’t care. Orgasms are gifts from my lioness. I’m very happy when I get one.

Every so often Mrs. Lion makes a reference in her posts to riding me and letting me have a vaginal orgasm. So far in 2017 I haven’t had one. Most recently she said that she didn’t want me to “waste” my semen in her vagina. She loves the taste. I can’t argue with that. I would love to serve her more.

Yesterday, I was very tired. I think the allergy medicine and decongestants I’m taking are making me very sleepy. Ironically, at bedtime I have a lot of trouble getting to sleep. My energy is very low. At times like this it’s very difficult to come up with anything to write.  Then, why am I writing? Because it’s what I do.

As that famous fortune cookies says, “The secret of patience is finding something to do in the mean time.” Sexually, that means edging and BDSM play fill the gaps between ejaculations. The gaps aren’t exactly evenly spaced. The biggest gap is between the latest ejaculation and the first edging session. Depending on what else is going on, that gap can be anywhere from one to three days.

I haven’t figured out what to do during this gap. Of course, I have a busy life and I’m not bored or depressed. But when it comes to the blog, I find myself struggling for things to say. I’ve considered saying nothing; just skipping posts until my sexual temperature rises again. But that isn’t what I want to do. There are other things to discuss.

For example, I wonder if my reduced interest in sex causes Mrs. Lion to lose interest in the non-sexual aspects of our power exchange. Am I in no danger of wearing panties when I’m not in heat? Are these first days after ejaculation a sort of vacation for Mrs. Lion? I  hope not, but I suspect it is. Our sexual relationship is strictly one-way. So when I’m not all that horny, Mrs. Lion can relax and do things of more interest to her. One day I hope to change that.