Month: November 2017

We didn’t have sling time last night. Lion was just one day removed from an orgasm so he wasn’t really in the mood. We were both achy. We just watched TV. Actually, aside from not snuggling, it was a perfect night for me. Lion likes more excitement.

Depending on how we feel later we might just have sling night tonight. It’s not written in stone any more than punishment night is written in stone. I only decided Wednesday was sling night to keep it in the forefront of my mind. It “forces” me to think about it. I’m easily distracted and forget things all the time. I can even promise Lion something during the day and by the time I make it home I’ve forgotten all about it.

For a long time Lion couldn’t get into the sling. Well, he might have been able to get in but definitely couldn’t get out. We had to wait until his shoulder was better. Even now he has to think about how he’ll move to get out so he doesn’t put too much strain on it. I guess he’s decided it’s worth the trouble so he gets sling time.

Things are a little easier for me when he’s in the sling. I have pretty much unrestricted access to all Lion’s fun parts. There’s less strain on me unless I’m bending over to suck him. I can spank him, peg him, play with his cock and balls, pinch his boobies, and all sorts of things. He can’t do a thing about it because his hands and feet are restrained. Poor Lion. He loves it!

Garrison Keillor

Keillor doing the last broadcast of “The Prairie Home Companion” last year. (photo: MPR News)

Based on recent events, it seems that male sexual behavior is assumed to be inappropriate unless explicitly agreed to in advance. Even if the male behavior wasn’t sexual at all, it can later reinterpreted  by the woman as sexual in order to accuse the man of being abusive. Sound wrongheaded? Consider Garrison Keillor.

Yesterday afternoon, Minnesota Public Radio announced that they were severing all ties with Garrison Keillor, the former host of the  “Prairie Home Companion”. Keillor made this statement:

“I put my hand on a woman’s bare back. I meant to pat her back after she told me about her unhappiness and her shirt was open and my hand went up it about six inches. She recoiled. I apologized.

“I sent her an email of apology later and she replied that she had forgiven me and not to think about it. We were friends. We continued to be friendly right up until her lawyer called.”

MPR’s statement about this says, in part:

“Last month, MPR was notified of the allegations which relate to Mr. Keillor’s conduct while he was responsible for the production of A Prairie Home Companion (APHC). MPR President Jon McTaggart immediately informed the MPR Board Chair, and a special Board committee was appointed to provide oversight and ongoing counsel.

“In addition, MPR retained an outside law firm to conduct an independent investigation of the allegations. Based on what we currently know, there are no similar allegations involving other staff.”

One woman whose back was touched years ago is enough to destroy a radio icon. It didn’t matter that she understood and forgave him She hired a lawyer and that ended Keillor’s career. This case is a prime example of the “Salem witch trials” mentality so pervasive today.

There are the obvious “casting couch” cases where getting hired depends on sexual favors. It’s a perfect example of leveraging workplace power to get sex. In the past, examples  of highly placed men losing their positions almost exclusively refered to allegations of this sort of behavior.

I agree with the need for a safe workplace. It’s easy to understand that someone, man or woman, who has power over others, can use that power to obtain sexual favors. There doesn’t even have to be a verbal transaction. Rejecting a powerful person is risking serious personal consequences.

The thing is that almost all these accusations are made with no substantiation. Only the most stupid provide pictures or brag about (Donald Trump) their transgressions. In the current environment, a single accusation will cost a man his job and reputation.

This is a rock-and-a-hard-place situation. To require objective proof of harassment puts an impossible burden on the accuser. But to allow one voice reporting a decades-old  incident destroy a man’s life feels like a witch hunt to me.

What happens when several people, fueled by the current wave of publicity, report inappropriate behavior from forty years ago? The 1970’s were very different. We’ve been watching reruns of “The Match Game” from 1974 and 1977. References to “midgets”, jokes about ethnic groups, and obviously sexual teasing are common content. Clearly times were very different then.

Does that make sexual harassment charges from 1977 invalid? Of course not. But, is it right to act on accusations from those long-past days? It’s way too easy to say that it doesn’t matter when somebody did something if it is wrong. These accusers had 40 years to say something but they didn’t. Some say that until now these people were frightened of the blow back if they came forward and, there is no statute of limitations on reporting a perceived inappropriate action, no matter how trivial.

In the wake of the Bill Cosby abuse publicity, some women felt empowered to come forward with charges against other men. Respected public figures fall in the face of their accusations. The latest being Matt Lauer on NBC and Garrison Keillor. In Lauer’s case, one woman came forward. NBC management stated that they had suspicions of other cases as well. Was there proof?

Maybe this is justice. I’m not going to claim anyone is lying. But it feels a little bit like the Salem witch trials or the Joe McCarthy hearings of the fifties. Within the space of a few months, accusers have surfaced to point fingers at the famous and caused their careers to crash. Decades of silence have turned into a chorus of accusation. Mass hysteria.

It’s still difficult to admit abuse, but it is safe, almost fashionable now. I think that many of these cases show a pattern of abuse. It’s reasonable to accept that the sheer number of accusers offers credibility to their claims.  What about cases that have only one or two accusers for alleged abuses forty years ago?

Should there be a moral statute of limitation? When we look through the twenty-first century lens of morality, we see crimes that need to be punished. Wrong is wrong, after all. Twenty-first century moral outrage can be applied to times when the moral compass didn’t point true north. Or can it?

The range of unacceptable activities covers a lot of ground. Some were absolutely wrong in the 70’s. Any use of the ability to hire or fire based on sexual surrender was just as wrong then as now. Others, like a man exposing himself in a hotel room were certainly tacky, but not so shocking in the 70’s. Apparently touching a woman’s back is sufficient to cost a beloved figure his legacy (Keillor).

I’m bothered by the growing wave of almost knee-jerk outrage at any report of unwelcome touching or sexual activity. in most cases we aren’t seeing rape or even overt threats of job loss associated with the alleged activity. We are seeing accusations of inappropriate behavior by famous people; even if this behavior is the accidental touching of the bare back of a woman.

Our President is caught on tape talking about grabbing women by their pussies. That’s inappropriate. Wow, is it ever! Apparently, that is acceptable behavior. He wa elected after it was revealed.

But Harvey Weinstein showing women, famous women, his penis is something that should have caused laughter, even back then. Of course, if Weinstein implied his penis needed to be part of a decision to cast the woman, a much more serious line was crossed.

There isn’t a good answer to the question of what deserves drastic action in 2017 in the context of decades-old accusations. I understand that the behavior caused discomfort, perhaps distress to the women who are coming forward now. But is the summary execution of the accused offender the right way to respond?

Some of the accused attempted to suppress the stories by paying off women who complained. These women accepted the payments and signed non-disclosure agreements. Was it fair compensation? Has something changed  forty years later to make them go public? Initially, I considered the payoffs as clear evidence of guilt. But then, I started thinking about context.

The women involved could have been so angry that they refused to be paid off. But they weren’t. They took the money and signed on the dotted line. Or maybe they lied and were paid off by the alledged abuser to avoid the suffering caused by false public revelations.

The accusers’ rationalization for taking the money and now speaking up is that at the time they were too frightened or intimidated to do anything else. And, of course, the money is gone.  So why is it no longer intimidating or frightening to speak up? The reason, of course, is that many others are speaking up. The silence that was bought and paid for is now finished. The mania washes over us like a tsunami taking its toll in destroyed lives.

The men have no way to defend themselves. Denial is seen as further evidence of their evil natures. Silence is admitting guilt. The companies that employ these men are more interested in how the public perceives them than they are about guilt or innocence. The court of public opinion has never had any interest in facts or proof. Companies know this. The rule is to get as much distance as possiblefrom any hint of impropriety.

My concern isn’t so much that innocent men are being persecuted as it is that one voice is sufficient to destroy a man. There is no attempt to see if that voice is telling the truth or has some other agenda for making accusations. Couldn’t a woman who didn’t get a part or a job come forward claiming that she refused to give sexual favors and for that reason didn’t get the job? Are men inherently guilty and any accusing female voice to be believed without question?

That’s the dilemma. How do we know what happened? Do we accept accusations if a number of women make them? Do we have any test to determine whether it is just to end a man’s career based on descriptions of alleged long-past inappropriate sexual activity? I’m troubled by these questions. I’m very concerned about how easy it is to destroy a pubic figure.

An even bigger question is what activity is sufficient to earn the punishment of public humiliation and loss of a career? Our outrage and willingness to execute anyone labeled sexually abusive feels a lot like Salem to me. It’s mass hysteria.

Last night Lion asked if he should take a boner pill. I said if he thought he’d need it I guess he should take one. This was before his punishment swats and mouth soaping. I only made him hold the soap for a minute and a half. It was probably too short. Afterwards he said I had previously decided not to use soap anymore. Well, yes. I remember saying that. Now. But I didn’t before I soaped his mouth.

I don’t know why I decided to soap him again. I think it was because he broke the bar of soap and when I saw it in the shower it looked like the perfect size for his mouth. I didn’t do it to punish him for breaking the soap. It just unleashed a course of events.

For a while afterwards Lion complained of having a horrible taste in his mouth. Yup. I bet. But it was a clean taste. Small consolation.

Lion did take a boner pill. I still decided to use the Magic Wand on him. It isn’t just for when he has trouble getting an erection. I was merciless with it. As soon as he got to the edge I stopped and started right in again. After at least five times I let him go over the edge. And then I fed him his cum. When he made a face I told him it was to cure the horrible taste in his mouth.

I didn’t plan to give him an orgasm. I didn’t plan to feed him his cum. They were just spur of the moment decisions. Why not? And trying to interact the horrible taste of the soap with the horrible (he thinks) taste of cum is funny. To me. Lion didn’t seem too amused by it. Oh well.

atomic heat rub

I got Mrs Lion the roll-on version. I tested a patch on my balls. Ouch!!!!

Here we are in the middle of the week after Thanksgiving. I’m suffering lioness withdrawal. I loved having four whole days and nights with my sweetie. We’ll have two days together this weekend. We don’t have any plans so we can just relax together. Who knows? We may even get to play. Meanwhile, tonight is “sling night” so I can look forward to being suspended in the sling for some targeted lioness attention.

We’re really out of practice. So many health issues hit all that the same time that we have to work hard to get back where we were eight months ago. I’m sure we will get back. We are both committed to do it. Exactly what we do is something I get some voice in deciding.

I know that the fantasy is I am a hapless victim of whatever nefarious tortures that Mrs. Lion chooses to inflict. The reality is that almost every activity is suggested by me. That’s not a problem for me. Of course, as time has passed, I have less and less to say about our fun. Mrs. Lion may get initial inspiration for me, but she doesn’t accept input on what she might do at any given time.

I like that. It’s the name of the game, after all. Of course, like some other dominant women, Mrs. Lion may take my suggestion and then push it well past the point I want her to stop. That serves me right, she is happy to say. I may get to say what I might want, but I never get to say how much. For example, I like being spanked. But I don’t like how much Mrs. Lion spanks me. She likes to tell me that she’s giving me what I want.

She’s right. She is. But I didn’t imagine I would get as much as I do. “Oh, well,” she likes to say, letting her voice trail off. Indeed. Sometimes, when I see she is about to do something I really hate, I beg her not to do it. She might refrain. Or, she might just go ahead anyway with a little smile on her face.

When she starts to apply menthol or capsaicin rubs to my balls, my eyes get wide and I grit my teeth. I know that it takes several minutes before I feel the burn, but I remember how much I hate it. She might remind me that I bought it for her to use on me.

I did.

Stupid lion.

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