Lion has been wild for months. Recently we’ve been in a sort of slump when it comes to playing. Between Lion’s allergies and both our aches, we haven’t really been living up to our female led marriage.
I’ve made a few suggestions about the cage but the other day I asked Lion if he thought the cage would jump start things again. He said he didn’t know but he didn’t have a say in the matter. Maybe not ultimately but I want his opinion. Yesterday I asked again. I got the same response. But he did add that he likes being wild.
I don’t run a dictatorship. We discuss things. At least I thought we did. Apparently we don’t when it comes to the cage. I know he’s looking for me to make a decision but I’d like some input. Absent that I will make a decision.
I’m aware that I am in charge and you’re probably yelling at the screen right now. “Lock him up! Lock him up!” We’ve already established that he doesn’t need to be caged to be faithful. (That was never an issue.) And he’s beyond the point of masturbating. So why cage him again? That’s what I want to know!
In the beginning the cage forced us (me) to put sex/intimacy/play in the forefront. Lion was helpless. Locked away in his ivory tower with no one to play with him. I vowed to unlock him at least every other day to tease him. Then it became every day. For years. And then he had surgery. The cage came off because life would have been impossible with it on. And it hasn’t really been back on for any length of time.
So now I’m wondering if the original intent of the cage is still valid. Would it force me to play with him or would it just be a giant pain in the ass? Well, pain in his balls. But pain in my ass. And I’m not getting any real input from Lion which makes me wonder if he’s willfully being silent in hopes that I’ll slap the damn cage back on just to spite him. Reverse-reverse-reverse psychology.
On the way out to my truck this morning I was thinking about locking him up again. But now I’m thinking about leaving him wild. Clearly I’m still undecided.