The main “object” in male chastity is the penis, not the chastity device. I think that reality often escapes us with our excitement about wearing chastity hardware. Sure, we spend a lot of time discussing how our keyholders think about our cocks, but I rarely see anything about how the guy feels about it.
I like my penis. It always had a special place in my heart. I like how it looks and how it feels when it gets attention. I can’t think of a time when I felt any negative feelings about it. I thought that all other guys feel the same way. Now I’m not so sure.
The erect penis is an obvious symbol of sexual power. Societies, from ancient times to the present, make liberal use of this symbol. I have to admit that I never equated my cock with power; just with pleasure. My view, once again, colors my perception of male chastity.
If, for example, a guy thinks of his cock as a way to wield power over a woman, and he wants to surrender to her, it stands to reason that a chastity device will enslave his symbol of power to his keyholder’s wishes. In this case, the locked cock instills a strong feeling of submission. This is a powerful incentive for him to want to be locked as part of his submission.
Another possible case is if the man doesn’t like his penis. Maybe he wronged his partner by cheating, or feels guilty about expressing his sexuality. Whatever the case, the chastity device essentially removes his penis. He likes that it is effectively gone. If his partner wants to use it for her pleasure, he can rationalize that it is a toy she likes. He, on the other hand, remains safely divorced from it.
I’m sure there are lots of other possibilities when it comes to the connection between a guy and his cock. My point is that it is helpful to know why you want to be locked up. In my case, it was giving Mrs. Lion my favorite toy. My chastity turns sex into a gift from her. I can’t enjoy it without her. I like giving her this fleshy gift.
What is your relationship with your cock? How does enforced chastity reflect that relationship?
Meanwhile on the home front, last night, Mrs. Lion was feeling a bit better but still stuffy. I was tired. Neither of us has been getting enough sleep. I begged off the butt plug. Hopefully, she will repeat her offer later this week. We’re both tired of being under the weather. It doesn’t help that our weather is consistently rainy. It’s true, the temperature is between 40 and 50 deg. F day and night. That’s nice; but the lack of sun is getting to me.