I’ve been thinking about a new rule for Lion. It may even break into two rules depending on how it works out. There are actually two issues. Both involve TV.

In general, Lion watches what Lion wants to watch. I let him. In the past I’ve gone to play games on my computer while he watches shows he likes to watch that I don’t like to watch. He doesn’t like when I leave him alone like that so I’ve been staying with him and just not really paying attention to the show.

The problem is that there are shows I like to watch that Lion doesn’t like to watch. So I don’t watch them. There are some things on our DVR that I wanted to watch so I recorded them, but I don’t get a chance to watch them. The few times I’ve watched something I like that he doesn’t, he leaves the room. I don’t mind. If he doesn’t like the show he shouldn’t sit through it. But it does seem like a double standard that he can leave and he doesn’t like when I leave.

I don’t want this to be a bigger deal than it is. It’s obviously not killing me that I can’t watch those few shows. It’s just an annoying thing. Having said that, Lion has announced that he doesn’t want to watch the Super Bowl because he hates both teams. Me too! But what if I want to watch? P.S. I’m watching whether he does or not. [Lion  – Actually, I do want to watch the Super Bowl. I just don’t like either team.]

That was the minor issue. The other issue is when he tells people on TV that they’re idiots. He knows they can’t hear him so that’s not the problem. It usually happens when he doesn’t like a show as much as I do. Or when he’s making fun of local newscasters. No, we aren’t in New York City anymore and the talent here is not as good. But also, the NYC newscasters screw up from time to time too.

We both make fun of commercials but when Lion makes comments in the middle of a show it’s distracting. And, more importantly, it’s just not good Lion behavior. A rude Lion should be punished. Right? Right.

So the two changes to Lion’s rules are thus: I should get to watch shows I want to watch with minimal push back from him. And he should be punished for rude remarks he makes at the TV. (He has a similar rule that is not often enforced. He should get punished for rude remarks he makes to fast food workers and anyone else he encounters in public.)

This should keep both of us busy for a while.

The main “object” in male chastity is the penis, not the chastity device. I think that reality often escapes us with our excitement about wearing chastity hardware. Sure, we spend a lot of time discussing how our keyholders think about our cocks, but I rarely see anything about how the guy feels about it.

I like my penis. It always had a special place in my heart. I like how it looks and how it feels when it gets attention. I can’t think of a time when I felt any negative feelings about it. I thought that all other guys feel the same way. Now I’m not so sure.

The erect penis is an obvious symbol of sexual power. Societies, from ancient times to the present, make liberal use of this symbol. I have to admit that I never equated my cock with power; just with pleasure. My view, once again, colors my perception of male chastity.

If, for example, a guy thinks of his cock as a way to wield power over a woman, and he wants to surrender to her, it stands to reason that a chastity device will enslave his symbol of power to his keyholder’s wishes. In this case, the locked cock instills a strong feeling of submission. This is a powerful incentive for him to want to be locked as part of his submission.

Another possible case is if the man doesn’t like his penis. Maybe he wronged his partner by cheating, or feels guilty about expressing his sexuality. Whatever the case, the chastity device essentially removes his penis. He likes that it is effectively gone. If his partner wants to use it for her pleasure, he can rationalize that it is a toy she likes. He, on the other hand, remains safely divorced from it.

I’m sure there are lots of other possibilities when it comes to the connection between a guy and his cock. My point is that it is helpful to know why you want to be locked up. In my case, it was giving Mrs. Lion my favorite toy. My chastity turns sex into a gift from her. I can’t enjoy it without her. I like giving her this fleshy gift.

What is your relationship with your cock? How does enforced chastity reflect that relationship?

Meanwhile on the home front, last night, Mrs. Lion was feeling a bit better but still stuffy. I was tired. Neither of us has been getting enough sleep. I begged off the butt plug. Hopefully, she will repeat her offer later this week. We’re both tired of being under the weather. It doesn’t help that our weather is consistently rainy. It’s true, the temperature is between 40 and 50 deg. F day and night. That’s nice; but the lack of sun is getting to me.

I spoke too soon. Perhaps I did not escape my cold unscathed. It’s hanging on. I want to go back to sleep. Lion was still all stuffy this morning too. We just want to be under the blankets together. Of course we always want that.

I’m thinking just because I may not feel well enough to do anything, it doesn’t mean we can’t do anything. It depends if Lion feels up to things too. But I think perhaps he can handle a butt plug tonight. Because he’s been sick I will give him the option of postponing the festivities. We can start out with the small Njoy tonight or whenever he feels up to it. Then we can move up to the larger Njoy. He’s been able to handle fairly large dildos in the past so the larger Njoy probably isn’t much of a stretch. Pun intended.

I usually forget that I can shove a butt plug into Lion even on nights I don’t feel up to doing anything else. It still shows him who’s in charge with minimal effort. I wouldn’t do it if I just didn’t feel like playing. That feels like a cop out. I don’t want him to feel that I’m bored with playing but here’s a consolation prize.

On the other hand, I don’t see anything wrong with putting the butt plug in and still playing with him. I know it makes things more difficult for him when he’s plugged. All the clenching he does in anticipation of coming is complicated by the plug. An orgasm doesn’t feel quite as nice. It’s a good thing he likes a little pain with his pleasure.

Let’s face it, the big reason couples drift away from sex is that the routine becomes boring. Orgasms alone aren’t enough to keep the heat turned on.It’s just human nature. We like surprises and adventure. No matter how exotic the activity, after a while it becomes routine and starts to lose its excitement. How can a spanking be routine? After a while, it can. In a FLR with discipline that might be a good thing. A spanking isn’t supposed to be fun or exciting. It is a punishment. But in a BDSM sense, it should be exciting on some level.

The same is true for enforced chastity. I suspect that most of the guys who try it end up bored and just want the device off. The concept is exciting. The reality may turn out to be tedious and boring. For me, at least, Mrs. Lion’s teasing ever night or two combined with my own inner movie about bondage keeps enforced chastity fresh for me. I think that if she just locked me up and sexually ignored me until she wanted me to ejaculate, I would have wanted to quit years ago. Mrs. Lion makes it a sexy game I enjoy endlessly.

At least that’s what I thought. In fact, even our very sexy edging can become routine. Yes, it is still a lot of fun, but the zing is fading out. This could be a failing of mine. I wonder about that. Do I always need things to be new and different? Do I want play to escalate the physical challenges I face? Sadly, I think the answer is yes.

I enjoy the challenge of longer and harder pegging. I like being trained to accept larger dildos. I like being blindfolded and not knowing what’s next. Sexual play is something I need to keep the fires burning bright.

Maybe this is my problem. I don’t know. Most recently, I noticed that edging and even orgasms weren’t as intense as they were in the past. I couldn’t understand this. Then, I broke a rule and got punished. After that, for a while at least, the edging was hotter and coming felt more exciting.

I suspect this is nothing new. I need that BDSM kink in order to stay in sexual form. As I think back over my past, it’s clear that either novelty or sensation play have been major turn-on’s for me. It’s how I’m wired.