My weenie was sore last night. Actually the sore was weenie-adjacent. The ring was rubbing. There was no red mark or any indication of a sensitive area. I took Lion’s word for it.
Lion doesn’t normally play games so I usually trust him. There have been a few times over the years that I’ve wondered if he’s done something on purpose to see what kind of reaction he’ll get. It usually involves a punishment though. For example, did he spill something on his shirt on purpose so I’d punish him? Has he been interrupting me a lot today to see if I notice? I’ve concluded he is not willful like that.
I think one of the most important things in a marriage is trust. Ironically, a chastity device seems to indicate lack of trust. Why would I need to lock Lion up if I trust him? Actually I could have just told Lion I didn’t want him to masturbate any more and he would have stopped. So why all the fanfare?
That silly cage made me think about sex again. He was locked up and helpless and I was the only one who could help him. Poor Mr. Weenie was trapped. It was up to me to make sure he got out of solitary confinement from time to time. It may not have sparked interest in sex for me but it has brought us closer together. Even on nights we don’t play we’re still holding hands or snuggling. We still go through periods of not actually playing in the BDSM sense of the word but I edge him most nights.
The other thing a chastity device would seem to suggest is that I want Lion to have less sex. Lion’s had more orgasms per year than he did when he was masturbating. I love giving Lion orgasms. Chastity, for us, does not mean making Lion wait a long time between orgasms. His longest wait has been 28 days. That’s way too long for me. I prefer a week or less. Lion prefers four days. He does like a longer wait thrown in every now and then. The longer wait being about a week. Let’s not get too carried away. When he’s horny he’s horny.
Assuming the sore spot is better tonight Lion will be locked away again. I think he’s more comfortable in captivity.