We’re slowly rejoining the world. I worked from home for most of the day and went back to bed for the rest. I’m not happy about how long it’s taking to get well. I’m still not eating much. I’ve lost about ten pounds over the last week or so. That’s the one thing I like about all this.
I’ve been thinking about enforced chastity and me. It isn’t doubt about whether or not we should stop or change our power exchange. It’s more about the role ejaculation plays in all this.
It seems like a no-brainer. if you lock up a cock, you must be doing it to limit it’s ability to get hard and ejaculate. I can’t argue with that. Most guys focus on the suppression of erection and ejaculation. Pretty much everything I’ve read on the subject is about that. Some believe that there is a purity in suppression of ejaculation. It is better to wait longer. In that light, I’m a horrible case. My orgasms are rarely more than a week apart.
Aside from the hardware, some guys report they are more submissive if made to wait for their next ejaculation. They claim to be more willful and dominant for days after getting release. I certainly hope that isn’t the case. I know I am different for a day or two after I come. I lose interest in another orgasm. It’s my extended refractory period. However, I’m not more or less controlling. I’m not willful. I’m just me not yet ready for another ejaculation.
After our years of enforced male chastity, I haven’t changed in any fundamental way. My cock is the same size. It takes about the same amount of time for me to come. That’s not surprising. But, it is true that after an intense edging session I am frustrated and a little grumpy. No surprise there.
What then, is the value of ejaculating? It’s a natural relaxant. It takes sexual tension out of me. My attention shifts from sex to other things. I’m not sexually obsessive. When I’m horny, sex is far from the most important thing on my mind. But it is there. After ejaculating, sex is off the table for a while.
That’s what got me thinking. I change after sex by not being particularly interested in it. I’m more focused on he rest of what’s happening. That’s a good thing, right? There’s lots of folklore about a satisfied male being the best company, etc. Ejaculation is seen as a social lubricant. Men who are sexually satisfied are better company.
Those of us who are made to wait are less lubricated, so to speak. Frustration is seen as a motivator for properly submissive behavior. When, in fact, the opposite may be the case. Being locked in a chastity device is not an automatic signal that the penis inside it wants sexual starvation. I disagree.
The device gives the keyholder complete control over sex for the caged male. If he gets regular, frequent ejaculations, he should be in a mellow, agreeable mental state. If he fails in his role, the device can be left on and he can be reminded of how frustration feels. I think I will work just as hard for my next orgasm whether it is three days or three weeks off. The only difference is how obsessed I will be about finally getting to ejaculate.
Fat, happy, satisfied and locked up is just as powerful as locked and frustrated.