Monday night we got back to business. Mrs. Lion edged me over and over. I was desperate to ejaculate. That wasn’t to be. The way she was edging me felt a lot like going for a ruined orgasm. She got me to the edge once, then paused. She went back to masturbating me pausing when I got really excited. Of course, that’s what edging is. The difference to me was that she waited 10 to 15 seconds and then started again. That;’s typically how a ruined orgasm is produced.
The idea is to masturbate the man until it looks like he is just ready to come, stop stimulating him and then wait. Since it can take 15 seconds between stopping stimulation and the ruined orgasm, the woman waits to see if he will ejaculate. If nothing happens, she masturbates him some more, stopping when he looks ready to come. She waits 15 seconds. No semen, start again. That’s how it felt on Monday night.
Mrs. Lion didn’t want a ruined orgasm. She just wanted me desperate to come. She was very successful. I’m getting hard now writing about it. Mrs. Lion hates giving me ruined orgasms. I think that’s because I get them by accident. She pushes just a bit to far edging me. So, my ruined orgasm feels like a failure to her. I, of course, am not too happy about it either.
So far, our experience with ruined orgasms has been completely accidental. I think that soured her on the idea of using them as part of her bag of tricks. Maybe she should consider adding ruined orgasm to her Box O’Fun. Delivering one intentionally may feel a lot different to her. Also, she could give me multiples, one after the other. She could also make the last one she wants to deliver a full orgasm.
The reason I thought of this is that a ruined orgasm certainly qualifies as a dominant activity. The Box O’Fun is full of things that hurt. Why aren’t ruined orgasms in the same category? So far, Mrs. Lion has kept sexual activities off limits for play or punishment.
Replacing a full orgasm with a ruined one can be a punishment or play option, especially when I am told in advance that is what will happen. An intentionally ruined orgasm that isn’t a surprise is very different from one that just happens. Announcing it and then doing it is a powerful expression of sexual control. I can’t prevent it.
A new chastity device
I ordered one of the new Holy Trainer V3 Nano chastity devices. It’s the first off-the-shelf chastity device with a cage short enough for me. It also has exactly the right tube diameter to fit me. Mrs. Lion agreed to lock it on instead of my Jail Bird or the 3D-printed one. I’ll publish a full review after I’ve worn it a while.
The Nano has a tube length of 1.36″. My Jailbird is 1.25″. This length is almost certainly right for any man. The only factor that would justify ordering the “Maxi” (tube length 2.5″ diameter 1.4″) is the need for the wider tube diameter. This device is almost the same price as the CB6000. It’s considerably more advanced in design. It’s inexpensive enough for first-time chastity players to buy it. It’s also inexpensive enough to buy if you have a longer tube/cage and want to experience the improved comfort and security of a short cage. I find that it doesn’t matter how long your flaccid penis measures. It will comfortably fit in a very short cage.
Those of us who have been doing this a while and who like to experiment, have discovered that we were wrong in measuring the length of our flaccid penises. It doesn’t matter what you measure. When you’re soft try compressing your penis. You can get it down to just a little bump. It’s designed to be very flexible and easy to compress.
It turns out that the only critical dimension when ordering a device is the diameter of the base ring. Otherwise, just get the shortest length you can. You’ll fit. Don’t believe me? Invest in a device like the Holy Trainer Nano. You’ll be pleasantly surprised.