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Lion has been horny the past few nights. I have no idea why since his leg still hurts from his fall on Sunday. But why ask why? Just edge him and have some fun.

I did edge him Monday night. He thought I was going for a ruined orgasm. I’ve only given him one ruined orgasm on purpose. The rest have been mistakes. I was not trying to give him a ruined orgasm. I was trying to turn him into a writhing puddle of horniness. I think it worked.

Yesterday his leg hurt enough to go to the doctor. They took x-rays and found out his leg isn’t broken. We didn’t think it was but it was good to know officially. He doesn’t have an infection. It’s “just” a deep tissue injury. I don’t think there’s much you can do for that. The doctor just keep saying she wasn’t going to prescribe narcotics. Fine. But if Tylenol isn’t helping then telling him to take Tylenol is useless. Dr. Mrs. Lion told him to take Tylenol with Aleve. It’s known as the poor man’s Percocet. It helped knock a lot of the pain down.

Once the pain was lessened Lion was able to endure more edging. This time I really wanted him to think I was going to give him a ruined orgasm on purpose. Of course I knew I would quickly salvage it. I think I accomplished it. He didn’t look too sure at the end if I was going to continue or not.

Today I’m thinking I screwed up. I’m not sure what I could have done with his leg being so sore, but somehow I should have given him an oral orgasm. I don’t want to get too far behind in the oral versus hand job statistics. I may wind up giving him an oral orgasm every day in December if I’m not careful.

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In: CBT, Chastity hardware, Lion's Journal, Ruined orgasm
holy trainer nano
This is the Holy Trainer Nano. It’s a new model that is the right length for almost every man.

Monday night we got back to business. Mrs. Lion edged me over and over. I was desperate to ejaculate. That wasn’t to be. The way she was edging me felt a lot like going for a ruined orgasm. She got me to the edge once, then paused. She went back to masturbating me pausing when I got really excited. Of course, that’s what edging is. The difference to me was that she waited 10 to 15 seconds and then started again. That;’s typically how a ruined orgasm is produced.

The idea is to masturbate the man until it looks like he is just ready to come, stop stimulating him and then wait. Since it can take 15 seconds between stopping stimulation and the ruined orgasm, the woman waits to see if he will ejaculate. If nothing happens, she masturbates him some more, stopping when he looks ready to come. She waits 15 seconds. No semen, start again. That’s how it felt on Monday night.

Mrs. Lion didn’t want a ruined orgasm. She just wanted me desperate to come. She was very successful. I’m getting hard now writing about it. Mrs. Lion hates giving me ruined orgasms. I think that’s because I get them by accident. She pushes just a bit to far edging me. So, my ruined orgasm feels like a failure to her. I, of course, am not too happy about it either.

So far, our experience with ruined orgasms has been completely accidental. I think that soured her on the idea of using them as part of her bag of tricks. Maybe she should consider adding ruined orgasm to her Box O’Fun. Delivering one intentionally may feel a lot different to her. Also, she could give me multiples, one after the other. She could also make the last one she wants to deliver a full orgasm.

The reason I thought of this is that a ruined orgasm certainly qualifies as a dominant activity. The Box O’Fun is full of things that hurt. Why aren’t ruined orgasms in the same category? So far, Mrs. Lion has kept sexual activities off limits for play or punishment.

Replacing a full orgasm with a ruined one can be a punishment or play option, especially when I am told in advance that is what will happen. An intentionally ruined orgasm that isn’t a surprise is very different from one that just happens. Announcing it and then doing it is a powerful expression of sexual control. I can’t prevent it.

A new chastity device
I ordered one of the new Holy Trainer V3 Nano chastity devices. It’s the first off-the-shelf chastity device with a cage short enough for me. It also has exactly the right tube diameter to fit me. Mrs. Lion agreed to lock it on instead of my Jail Bird or the 3D-printed one. I’ll publish a full review after I’ve worn it a while.

The Nano has a tube length of 1.36″. My Jailbird is 1.25″. This length is almost certainly right for any man. The only factor that would justify ordering the “Maxi” (tube length 2.5″ diameter 1.4″) is the need for the wider tube diameter. This device is almost the same price as the CB6000. It’s considerably more advanced in design. It’s inexpensive enough for first-time chastity players to buy it. It’s also inexpensive enough to buy if you have a longer tube/cage and want to experience the improved comfort and security of a short cage. I find that it doesn’t matter how long your flaccid penis measures. It will comfortably fit in a very short cage.

Those of us who have been doing this a while and who like to experiment, have discovered that we were wrong in measuring the length of our flaccid penises. It doesn’t matter what you measure. When you’re soft try compressing your penis. You can get it down to just a little bump. It’s designed to be very flexible and easy to compress.

It turns out that the only critical dimension when ordering a device is the diameter of the base ring. Otherwise, just get the shortest length you can. You’ll fit. Don’t believe me? Invest in a device like the Holy Trainer Nano. You’ll be pleasantly surprised.

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numbered seal

Lion has requested, if/when we go back to using the cage, that he be locked in the plastic cage. He wants to make sure it’s comfortable enough for long term wear. Fair enough. If he has to wear it while travelling it needs to be comfortable. But does he have to wear it while travelling?

I was thinking about this last night. I think I’d be more likely to make him wear the plastic cage while travelling because he doesn’t need a key to extricate himself in an emergency. It’s locked on with a security tag. He’d just need to cut the tag off. I feel better knowing he can get out if necessary especially when he’s away from home.

Lion also mentioned something about a new cage. He wants to test that one out too. I assume it would be on a weekend so we can get him out quickly if there’s a problem. You never know with new cages. There could be pinching or chafing. I’m sure he’ll have more information for you once he’s received and tested it.

As I said, this is all assuming we’ll go back to using the cage. As of yesterday I’m not promising anything. No plans. If things get back to normal then maybe I’ll start planning again. Once bitten, twice shy.

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I must be feeling better. I’ve been thinking about ruined orgasms. No, Mrs. Lion, I don’t want one this time! But I digress. A ruined orgasm is a singularly male sexual event. It involves the emission of some semen and intense, often-painful sensations for the male. With practice, it’s fairly easy to provide this service to the male of your choice. However, it’s very easy to go past a ruined orgasm into a full one.

There is a lot of confusion about ruined orgasms. Many people think that an orgasm is ruined if the male ejaculates without further stimulation from his partner. To be clear, that stimulation is masturbating him. However, many so-called ruined orgasm are actually complete orgasms without the continuing stimulation from his partner.

Let me explain. It’s very easy to masturbate a man until he just starts to come and then stop touching him. He will ejaculate with full force and empty out his supply of semen. This isn’t a ruined orgasm. It’s just a fairly mean trick to play on him. He will feel frustrated and sexually satisfied.

A ruined orgasm takes place at an earlier part of the male ejaculatory process. He is stimulated until just before he climaxes. He will sound like he is beginning to come. However, it can take 10 seconds until there is any result. His penis will move as he tries to complete his orgasm. Semen will ooze out of his penis. There won’t be any squirting. He didn’t get to the point when his body makes him ejaculate.

The semen you see comes from a little storage area his erection creates at the base of his penis. The stimulation takes him just past his point of no return. Edging takes him just before that point. Both are very frustrating.

Once he is stimulated enough to cross that boundary, the rest is automatic. Since he didn’t get to the point of no return for ejaculation, but passed his ability to control events, he empties that storage area. That’s what oozes out. Because his body started his liftoff sequence, it executed the first step; pushing out the semen in his reservoir. The next step in the sequence are the muscle spasms that force the semen out with some force and refill his reservoir with more semen. That’s why it comes out in spurts.

Since the lack of stimulation aborts liftoff, he experiences some muscle contractions, but the reservoir doesn’t refill and he feels a strong sense of frustration as the semen slowly leaks out.

The longer the wait between stopping masturbating him and the emission of semen, the “better” the ruined orgasm. I don’t think I can accurately describe the feeling. My ruined orgasms are usually accidents. Mrs. Lion is edging me and goes just too far. She already intended to stop stimulating me. She sees me react and watches me. I try hard to come, but of course I can’t. Semen oozes out. If she doesn’t stimulate me further, I drip for some time after I get soft. That’s a true ruined orgasm. I hate them!

There is an advantage in giving a ruined orgasm. The male still has a supply of semen. So long as he has available semen, he will be able to get aroused and ejaculate. Some women wait a minute or so after a ruined orgasm and masturbate him again. They can frequently give him three or more ruined orgasms before he runs out of juice.

Mrs. Lion hasn’t tried that. But she knows that the next night I will be very interested in ejaculating. Normally, it takes a day or two before I am ready again.

If, instead of a ruined orgasm, the male just gets a frustrating full orgasm, he will have emptied his semen supply and will not be available for sex until he has gone through his refractory period. Ruining orgasms is frustrating to the male, but making that happen is a skill that many women enjoy developing. It does take practice and requires reading signals the male sends. It’s a female sexual hobby that is anything but focused on male pleasure.