We Need A New Name For It
Enforced Male Chastity’s popularity doesn’t seem to be growing. Maybe it’s the name. Chastity” after all, conjures images of virginal young women. Over time, it acquired a decidedly female connotation. The actual definition is to refrain from extramarital sex, or have no sex at all. It’s clearly the wrong word for what we practice. Male chastity got it’s name from people who wanted to build chastity belts for guys. They thought it was a cool, new form of BDSM play. As far as I can tell, it began after World War 2.
There is no historical record of medieval female chastity belts. Actually, the first documented, widespread use was in Victorian times. It was believed that male masturbation led to insanity. Devices, most of them very cruel and painful, were invented to prevent young men from masturbating. There are thousands of U.S. patents for these devices.
Fast forward to the 1990’s. A small group of men built and wore chastity belts of all designs. Once they locked themselves in, their job was to escape. More and more complex devices were created to prevent escape.. In the late 90’s an inexpensive ball-capture device was offered for sale: the CB2000. It wasn’t very secure, but it was inexpensive and did the job if you didn’t try hard to escape. It was designed as a sex toy for a couple (or a single guy). It prevented erection and ejaculation, mostly.
The thing is that none of these devices going back all the way to Victorian days wereln’t really for chastity. They were and remain as devices to control a male’s ability to experience sexual arousal and orgasm. The term “male chastity” and later, “enforced male chastity” gained popularity among people who practice it. The problem that I see is the name itself doesn’t clearly communicate exactly what practitioners do. In fact, I think it may be offputting to people when they first hear it.
What if we called it “male sexual control”. It’s not very catchy, but it is self-explanatory. You buy a male sexual control device. That’s really what we wear. The reason this makes a lot of sense to me is that it’s really what we do. Mrs. Lion isn’t preventing me from having sex with other women so much as preventing e from having sex; period.
BDSM is now mainstream. Fifty Shades of Grey turned bondage, safe words, and all sorts of BDSM fun into topics discussed and maybe tried by millions. Our vanilla friends might be surprised to learn that Mrs. Lion spanks me, but chances are they won’t run away in horror. BDSM information is disseminated by mainstream magazines.
For a while, interest in enforced male chastity seemed to be growing alongside other BDSM practices. At least many of us who do it thought so. Blogs like ours appeared regularly. Even amazon.com offered male chastity devices (via 3rd party sellers. Our readership grew steadily as well. Yes, male chastity looked like it would also join the kinky mainstream. But it didn’t.
From what I see, growth of this kink is essentially flat. Enough new people come in to offset those who drop out. Five years ago you could count the serious, custom chastity cage makers on one hand. That number hasn’t changed. Asian off-the-shelf cage makers are plentiful. But I can’t see any way to track North American consumption. My experience with Chinese retailing is that a large number of one-person “shops” offer the same merchandise. Volume is not indexed by number of sellers.
Chastity forums and discussion groups seem less active to me than they were five years ago. Topics are less newbie focused than they were in the past. Our readership is growing more slowly than in earlier years. By these informal measures, enforced male chastity is remaining a small corner of the kink world.
On the other hand, interest in female domination is strong. Of course, it’s always been a top interest of many men. Thanks, I think, to the Internet, more and more women are appearing in blogs and conversations who either practice or want to practice female domination. Conversations about this topic are everywhere. As you probably know, Mrs. Lion dominates me. We practice our own version of a female led relationship.
If our kink had a better name, I think it would be much more popular. Maybe it’s time we give changing our name a try. How does Male Sexual Control Journal sound to you? I like it!