Deciding on a male chastity device isn’t easy. The motive for wearing one is usually based on a desire to transfer sexual control to another person, the keyholder. Once the device is locked on, all sorts of hot things can happen. It’s ironic, but some of us get turned on by not being allowed to get aroused.
That’s not the only inherent contradiction embodied in male chastity. Take the device. It’s supposed to be an escape-proof vault that prevents erection and orgasm. Its wearer is only able to pee. Otherwise, the penis is useless unless released by the keyholder.
That’s the fantasy. Of course, male chastity is a consensual sport that is almost always initiated by the man. Women don’t generally spend a lot of time thinking about penises. If they do, it’s about how one can provide them with pleasure, not how to lock them up.
The idea of penis bondage is a male concept. Some women like the idea once it’s introduced to them, but it is unlikely they will be obsessed about the mechanism to do it. Mrs. Lion is happy using a short length of lightweight rope for the purpose. Concern about the hardware is on me alone.
Guys with experience, or newbies who take the time to do some research, discover that practical devices for male chastity aren’t inescapable prisons. In fact, the general solution to caging a penis is a tube or cage connected to a ring around the penis and balls. The ring has to be small enough to prevent a ball from slipping out if is worn without the cage. Any smaller is asking for discomfort.
.Please note that I didn’t say tight enough to make escape impossible. A lot of guys, even men who should know better, keep trying tighter and tighter base rings. At some point, they resort to lube to reduce the pain caused by the friction of a tight ring. Even with a scrotum-choking ring, escape is absolutely possible since the penis can be worked out without removing the ring.
That’s the thing. Any device held on by a band around cock and balls can be escaped. Devices can make the process very painful, but escape is still a possibility. A lot of pain and expense can be spared by just accepting this fact. Remember, you agreed to wear it. What’s the point of trying to get out?
Ironically, many guys look for the roomiest cage possible. The want a constricting base ring attached to a cage their penises swim in. I think this choice is the result of a anatomical misunderstanding. Most guys think about their penises when they are hard, or remember things that happened when they were aroused. A hard penis needs its space. It hurts to try to compress it too much. So, the reasoning goes, if a hard cock can be hurt by fencing it in, a soft one has a similar vulnerability.
To a large degree that’s not true. A softis very compressible. You can easily press the head and make it less than an inch long. You would be less successful squeezing the head to make it have a smaller diameter. The conclusion: a penis cage can be very short but needs to be wide enough to avoid too much squeezing .
From my experience, the most comfortable and erection-proof cages are very short, but wide enough to only compress the diameter by a quarter of an inch or so. My flaccid penis is about 2-1/2 inches in length most of the time. It can be much shorter after a cold dip in the pool, and quite a bit longer for no good reason.
I’ve discovered that those measurements have no real importance in fitting a chastity device. In my case, I’m very much at home in a cage measuring 1-1/4 inches in length. Your experience may vary. I would suggest that all but the most enormous cocks will live happily in a cage under two inches long.
My point is that fitting a chastity device is counter intuitive for most guys. Most important is comfort; least important, security. The base ring should be large enough for comfort without having a ball slip out when it is worn without the cage. The cage itself should be only slightly narrower in diameter than its occupant, but should be a lot shorter. A good gauge of length is the size after a nice, cold swim. You get the idea.
Try the idea out with an inexpensive, Chinese cage. Dhgate.com has lots of them. You may be surprised by how good it feels to go wide on the ring and short on the cage.