Do maintenance spankings make any kind of sense? That question has been bothering me for some time. The proponents of this practice point out that if behavior is consistently good, the memory of the misery of punishment fades and misbehavior becomes more likely.
Under that theory, if I am good or bad, I will regularly be beaten. Unless I like to be spanked, I’m being punished unjustly. Of course, it’s not that simple. Many disciplined husbands actually like the dramatic demonstration of control a punishment spanking delivers. In the calm of a well behaved male’s life, dramatic demonstrations are missing. A maintenance spanking provides that sense of control.
This is a perfectly valid reason to beat a butt. It isn’t a deterrent to future misdeeds. It’s an opportunity feel the comfort of strong control. It seems ironic that punishment is such a popular way to express that control. On one hand, punishment educates and conditions the male to do what his disciplining partner wants. On the other, it is a painful security blanket that reassures him the control is still there.
I understand that. It’s been quite a while since I’ve been punished. I’m not worried that Mrs. Lion has decided not to be in charge anymore. She makes it very clear that she is in charge. I’m not tempted to get into trouble because it’s been a while since my last spanking. But, my memory of just how it feels when I will do anything to make her stop but can’t, has faded.
An active state of fear isn’t really required for me to work hard to be obedient. Of course, the memory of a recently burning butt is reinforcing. If you’re getting the feeling I’m ambivalent about maintenance spankings, you are right. There is, however, one very good reason to do them.
Mrs. Lion is still getting her spanking sea legs. I’m also still learning to have the self control to stay still for a very painful spanking. In short, we need practice. If we strip away the rationalizations about maintenance spankings, we are left with a real need to perfect punishment. We’ve both learned that it takes a lot of practice to be a disciplinary couple. Sadly, for my behind, the only way to practice is to do full-scale punishment spankings on a very regular basis. These beatings aren’t maintenance spankings, they’re batting practice.