This morning I woke up coughing. My nose was stuffy. I told Lion I might be getting a cold. He said, “Great. That means I’ll get one too.” This statement always bothers me. It turns how I’m feeling into being all about him. When my stomach is bothering me, he’ll say he’s sorry and ask if there’s something he can do for me. With a cold, he always says I’ll give it to him.
I’m not disputing the fact that we take care of each other. He makes food and brings me medicine when he’s able to and I do the same for him. Generally, he does get colds first and then I get them so when I’m really bad he’s still unable to move much yet. But we do our best. I tend not to worry about him getting me sick because if it’s going to happen it’ll happen. It’s not a big deal. I have, in the past few years, turned the tables on him when he gets sick first but he just tells me that it’s more dangerous for him to get sick because he’s older.
Before either of us gets sick, I’m instituting a new rule: he can think about my giving him a cold but he better not say it. This is now a punishable offense. Yup. That’s how much this statement bothers me. I know he’s worried about his own health but that’s not the time to show it.
Heading into cold and flu season, I bet this will open up a lot of potential punishments. Just what we were looking for!
I was reading this and i was just thinking: Why make a mountain out of a molehill? It’s an honest statement and don’t pretend that you would not say it the other way around or maybe think it. So what’s the problem? He just announces a fact nothing more nothing less, that’s how men work. Women tend to add always some stuff to it and interpreting things as if a man would do it out of evil thinking or what not.
He just stated a fact nothing more nothing less 100% without even thinking about it. Did you ever tell him, that it offends you? If not, you don’t have the right to make it punishable from now on.
Of course you will give it to him since you are in a relationship. Sicknesses go from one to another as you state yourself…
Yes, I have told him. Every year. Every time he says it. But he says he didn’t know it bothers me. Ok. He’s a man. So I guess it’s ok when he spills food, eats before I do, and interrupts me. That’s what men do.
I think it’s a good rule. My Queen has all sorts of rules about things I cannot say. If something I say bothers her, it goes on the rules. I’m speaking differently now.
I’m happy Mrs. Lion is adding rules when she discovers things I do that bother her. I’m constantly surprised by what she chooses to train me to stop. I would never realize that I was annoying her. Now I know and will be taught to change what I say. Or else.