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It occurred to me this morning that if Lion gets orgasms depending on how good he is, should he also only get edged when he’s good? It could actually be more of a punishment than a reward.

Lion has said it makes no sense for him to get an orgasm on the same night as a punishment. Can that be extended to edgin? Of course it can! Because I said so. If I say so. I’m just thinking out loud here. Well, writing out loud.

If it works the way Lion has proposed orgasms, then he would technically only get edged on nights he gets orgasms. I think it would be more effective if it was used as punishment. It wouldn’t be for something he already has rules for. It would have to be minor things.

Let’s take the example of our kitchen. It’s somewhat small. When two people are in it, it’s annoying. Not the you-just-interrupted-me annoying, but when I’m trying to do something in the kitchen and Lion is in there, he tends to be right where I need to be. He’ll move away from the stove but then I need to get to the fridge. Or he’ll decide he just has to, has to, right that second, open a package on the counter when I need to get to a cabinet. Annoying but not annoying. Could that lose him edging for the night? Possibly. He would have to get a warning first. He says he has no idea when he’s in my way.

I think it’s an interesting possibility. I don’t know how Lion will feel about it. I’m not even sure how I feel about it. I’m still grappling with the good boy orgasms. This is just an idea I had this morning. Not all ideas are worth pursuing. It’s true, Lion. I do like an experiment. I’m not sure if this is an experiment worth doing. More thought is required.

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In: Lion's Journal, Female led relationship with discipline, Sex

I got my first “good boy” orgasm on Thursday night. Mrs. Lion went right to work and didn’t stop until I came. It took quite a while. I wasn’t feeling it. I don’t think she did anything wrong. I just wasn’t in the mood. The orgasm felt very good of course.

As it turns out, this was the exact situation I wrote about in my post yesterday. Even though I had waited more than a week, I wasn’t really in the mood at the moment Mrs. Lion decided to get me off. It happens.

Friday, I wasn’t horny. That too is expected. Getting an orgasm reward isn’t that appealing. Again, no surprise there. I don’t think this is a problem. When we first started our FLRD (Female Led Relationship with Discipline), I wasn’t particularly concerned about being spanked. The punishments weren’t very severe. It didn’t matter.

The spankings were severe enough to make an impression. More importantly, I was punished each and every time I broke a rule. Almost without me noticing,  I was conditioned not to do the prohibited behavior. So, if I’m not particularly interested in getting off, it might not matter either.

That’s the thing about conditioning; my conscious cooperation isn’t needed. If, in fact, Mrs. Lion reaches my lizard brain directly, it will move me the direction Mrs. Lion wants.

This may seem way out. But it’s backed by solid behavioral.science. It might be considered a form of sexual brain washing. Of course, it isn’t. But it is conditioning. I’m pretty sure it will work if we keep it up. Well, I have to keep it up. Mrs. Lion just has to do it.

Submission is active obedience. In its pathological form, it’s destructive obedience. That’s the sort of stuff that BDSM horror stories are about. Constructive submission improves both dominant and submissive. It makes the submissive a better, more-complete person, and the dominant into a loving, loved leader.

We have work to do. As Mrs. Lion pointed out. That will take some serious thought. Perhaps we should start the way we did with punishment: Mrs. Lion selects chores I don’t like doing and make successfully completing them as orgasm-worthy. Failing to complete successfully would earn a punishment; the carrot and the stick.