It’s interesting that Lion is advocating for more foreplay for men. The stereotype is that men hate foreplay for women. They want to get in and get out. Let’s have an orgasm and we’re done. I know that’s a stereotype. But sometimes it is the reality.

I always felt that Lion went right for the gold with me. We talked about more kissing and touching, but it always seemed like his go-to move was clitoral stimulation and why-aren’t-you-there-yet? If women stereotypically need more of a buildup, why do men stereotypically rush?

Perhaps the old adage slow and steady wins the race really is true – for both genders. I know sometimes I do rush Lion. Not necessarily on purpose. I just think he’s hard so he must be ready and why-aren’t-you-there-yet? Other times I realize that he needs some sort of play to get his motor running. A spanking, clothespins, or similar concepts seem to do the trick. I’d say, for the most part, I try to start slow. If I realize I’m going too fast I back off. And I tend to use a variety of grips and speeds to spice it up a little more.

Last night I gave Lion some oral attention. He was already hard by the time I started so that was in my favor, although I do love when he starts off soft and gets hard in my mouth. I decided to use my tongue to get him more excited. Sometimes I just suck, but I wanted to concentrate on the tip more. His favorite spot is just below the head. I don’t know, maybe it’s most guys favorite spot too. He also likes when I run my tongue along the underside in one slow, firm motion. This may tire out my tongue, but it saves my neck. Bouncing up and down on him is what makes my neck sore and tired.

I’m hoping answers from the doctors today will help put his mind at ease. I’d like to think he was focused on how good I was making him feel last night, but I know other thoughts invade easily. He hit that bump in the road that derails things lately. We’ll learn how to avoid that bump eventually. Or maybe the bump will go away. Whatever the case may be, we’ll keep travelling along that road, bump or no bump.

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