We Are Changing How We Approach Things
It appears that Mrs. Lion and I are settling into a new pattern. It’s not a radical change. I still get locked in a chastity device and I still must follow rules set by Mrs. Lion; but there is a new, more playful tone to things.
You would think that after all these years we would’ve figured out all the nuances involved in our power exchange. As things mature, some of the original reasons we do them are no longer relevant. For example, the chastity device originally served to assure that I kept my paws off my penis. Locking it in a chastity device made sure that masturbation wasn’t an easy option for me. After nearly 6 years, I don’t even think about jerking off. I still like getting erections but I don’t have any real desire to ejaculate on my own. The chastity device has become more of a sexy symbol of my sexual surrender to my lioness than a useful training tool.
Mrs. Lion is pretty sure that my interest in sex is somehow coupled to me wearing a chastity device. She’s probably right. That cage provides a form of sexual structure that I like a lot. It also satisfies my love of bondage. It’s still exciting to be locked up in that chastity device. Mrs. Lion believes I am much more easily aroused when teased if I’ve been wearing my cage.
She, on the other hand, finds taking the cage off and putting it back on to be a minor inconvenience. While she hasn’t said in so many words, I think she likes me a lot better when I’m wild. We both agree that male chastity doesn’t require hardware to be effective. I may have access to the penis, but I’m sufficiently trained to make her comfortable that I won’t access it sexually. At this point, we haven’t figured out exactly how a chastity device fits in.
Our Female Lead Relationship with Discipline (FLRD) presents a different dilemma. Mrs. Lion prefers spanking as her go-to punishment. As you probably know, the idea of being spanked turns me on. That doesn’t create a problem in terms of discipline because actually being spanked is painful and does not turn me on.
The dilemma is created by the fact that like the chastity device, close proximity to a spanking makes me much more sexually responsive. Even though I truly hate severe spankings when they’re being administered, I’m very aroused anticipating them and reminiscing about them after they are done. If I go for some time without earning a beating, I don’t seem to be nearly as horny as I am if one has been in my recent past.
This isn’t unusual. A lot of guys who like spanking are affected in a similar way. The problem occurs when I don’t do anything to earn one. We’ve partially corrected this by making punishments span multiple days. Now, if I break a rule, I earn a minimum of three spankings administered on three consecutive days. I can earn more than that if Mrs. Lion feels the offense is serious enough.
Neither of us has “faked” offenses. I never purposely break a rule. Mrs. Lion has too strong a sense of justice to invent misdeeds for me. We have talked about “play” spankings to fill in when discipline isn’t required. I don’t think that works; at least it hasn’t so far. The biggest turn on for me is that the spankings are severe enough to make me wish they would stop. Mrs. Lion very recently has begun moving into that territory. I certainly hate it when it’s happening, but its sexual effect on me is unmistakable afterward.
We may need to institute maintenance spankings — full-on disciplinary spankings administered to remind me what happens if I’m not careful — when actual disciplinary spankings haven’t been earned. Mrs. Lion can simply declare that I need reminding and tell me to get into position for a strong reminder. I’m sure this will work. Also, since actual punishments are multi-day affairs and maintenance spankings are one-off, I’ll have no trouble with confusing them.
I don’t want us to give up FLRD. After all, giving it up is one option that will put spankings into a context that lets Mrs. Lion administer them to keep me horny. The reason I don’t is that it’s serving a very positive need in our relationship. Mrs. Lion is learning to assert herself and assure that I respect her wishes at all times. It’s not that I’m a lout, it’s simply that sometimes I do things that annoy her. We leverage my desire for control and punishment to modify my behavior and make me a better husband.
I am absolutely certain that we can work our way around these issues. For one thing, we both agree that we want to continue enforced male chastity and FLRD. We also recognize that there is a strong sexual component to both. The last six years have taught us that even though I sexually like chastity and punishment, they are still effective in terms of training me.
I have to admit that I’m surprised this is true, but unquestionably it is. I’m sure Mrs. Lion will take advantage of each spanking opportunity, whether for maintenance or punishment, to continue improving her technique in making each spanking more difficult for me to take. Lest you think that is cruel and wrong; it’s not. It’s exactly what I want. Similarly, I’m sure she will develop ways to maximize the sexual effect of locking me in a chastity device. That is easier, since its purpose is purely sexual.
I can’t wait to see what she has to say about this post.