Inescapable Chastity Security

If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you know that I am not particularly concerned with chastity device security. My reasoning is that I’m wearing the device because I asked Mrs. Lion to lock me up. Why would I want to defeat something I requested in the first place? I assume that this is true of every other guy as well. It’s a good thing.

Let’s assume that someone makes an inescapable device. This magical device keeps the penis safely tucked into a tube or a cage making it inaccessible to exploring fingers. The reason the penis has been locked away is to prevent unauthorized orgasm and ejaculation. Here’s the thing: As many men have discovered, contact with the penis is not absolutely necessary to achieve orgasm and ejaculation.

Men have always known that women are capable of reaching orgasm by stimulating areas of their bodies other than their vaginas and clitoris (clitorae?). I’ve had at least one partner who could achieve anal orgasm. Another actually came by being spanked. This isn’t strictly a female quality. After all, orgasms are triggered in the brain. Almost every male has experienced at least one wet dream when he’s ejaculated in his sleep without any physical stimulation.

The principal value of a chastity device is to make orgasm inconvenient. Many men describe masturbation as a habit. Some women think it’s a bad habit. Mrs. Lion belongs to this group. She is not interested in allowing me to masturbate. I think she is also the first woman I’ve known who has expressed a position on whether or not I should masturbate. I always assumed that as long as I didn’t sexually neglect my partner, masturbation was a bodily function of no special consequence.

I never found it enormously satisfying. Most of the time, it felt a little bit like scratching an itch. On rare occasions it was spectacular. I also never imagined there would be a time when I wouldn’t, at least occasionally, jerk off. It was something I learned to do when I was 11 years old and until Mrs. Lion locked me in a chastity device, I continued on a more or less regular basis.

I bring this up again now because in my mind, at least, the major benefit of wearing a chastity device is to make me pause and remember I’m not supposed to play with myself. I think a lot of men almost unconsciously reach down and masturbate when alone and bored.

Recently, Mrs. Lion has been writing about the fact that I get “stuck” before I reach the edge of orgasm. I do. I can’t explain why it happens. It’s happened to me in the past. During the days when I masturbated, there were plenty of times I gave up because I just couldn’t get myself past a certain point. This has also happened during partner sex. On those occasions, I just kept going until my partner was satisfied and then I stopped.

I don’t think this is a pathological issue. It may happen because I’m tired or not getting enough sleep or not eating the right food; who knows? I don’t find it distressing, just frustrating. I’m not aware if this happens with other men. I imagine it does; I’m not that unique.

While that’s a frustrating male issue, I never get alarmed or worried when it happens. The male problem that would immediately worry me is the inability to get hard. That has also happened to me, fortunately infrequently. I’ve also had times when I could get hard and then lose the erection in the middle of being stimulated. I have type II diabetes and even though it is well-controlled, it’s been known to interfere with getting and maintaining strong erections. Since they’ve become so inexpensive and have no adverse side effects, I’ve been taking boner pills on a regular basis just in case.

I started with generic Viagra. It was the first of this class of drugs to become available at a low price. It was never my favorite because its effect only lasts three or four hours. I’ve always liked Cialis. It has just come off patent and is now extremely inexpensive. This drug has a 36 hour effective span. You can also take a low dose (2.5 mg or 5 mg) every day and enjoy the effect continuously. It only costs about $16 a month to do this.

I haven’t had a problem getting hard when Mrs. Lion stimulates me without any pharmaceutical help. However, I find erections are much firmer, longer lasting, and feel better to me when I take boner pills. A lot of guys misunderstand how this class of drug works. It does not turn you on or make you hard just because you take it. All it does is facilitate the mechanical process of getting an erection. It has no effect at all on arousal. I’ve read people write about how it would be torture to take Viagra while locked in a chastity device. It wouldn’t affect you at all. It would just be a waste of money.

Many years ago, my first BDSM partner got very aroused when she used bondage she knew I couldn’t escape. We had heavy duty locking wrist and ankle restraints. She used serious padlocks to keep them closed. There was no way I could get myself free. Of course, she didn’t leave me alone when I was restrained. However, some time ago I read a Stephen King story about a couple who used similar restraints. I believe the woman restrained the man spread-eagle to the bed and then had a heart attack. It may have been the man restraining the woman; I can’t remember. The story was about how terrifying it was to be trapped this way.

Fortunately for me, at the time I never considered that possibility. I really should have. I think the same is true about any bondage equipment, even chastity device. It’s fortunate that even the most secure are ultimately escapable. Even the ones secured by piercings can be defeated. Many guys carry an emergency key. I did for a long time. I didn’t like it. It was too easy to use. Since all of the devices we own can be removed one way or another without a key, I felt reasonably safe no longer possessing my emergency key.

That doesn’t mean enforced male chastity is purely symbolic. It isn’t. Maybe all the hardware can be defeated. Maybe even the strong conditioning I’ve received not to masturbate could be overcome. But knowing how important it is to Mrs. Lion that she and only she can make me ejaculate turns out to be truly inescapable security.