Lion has has a lot of trouble sleeping lately. Part of the problem is allergies making him itchy. I didn’t change the bed till last night. I normally change it a few days sooner.

Over the weekend, Lion didn’t feel up to running errands because he was too tired. Even Monday night, when we went to Costco, he was not very steady on his feet. We delayed going to the grocery store until last night. And at his doctor appointment yesterday, we both snoozed a bit waiting over an hour for the doctor.

Since he’s had trouble sleeping, he was napping after dinner. I took care of the dishes and was in the shower before he woke up. I had every intention of continuing his punishment last night but it didn’t make any sense to whomp him when he was groggy from sleep.

Even last night, with clean sheets, he was up during the night watching TV. This woke me up, but I don’t really know how long I was awake. To make matters worse for me, we had a boring staff meeting this morning. Snooze. I did manage to stay awake, but Lion said he was struggling working at home.

We cancelled our vacation trip next week. I need to get more hours in work and Lion suggested not going. It took me a full day to drag out of him that he has a lot of work to do too and camping takes a lot out of him right now. Fair enough. We compromised by taking only Friday, July Fifth off. Now we have a long weekend and we still get a little more time at work.

Tonight, I’d like to resume the punishment but I’ll take my cues from Lion. It makes little sense to do it if one, or both, of us aren’t in the right mindset. It’ll keep. Besides, I’m sure Lion will add more infractions the longer we wait. That’s just the way it works.

He’s also been wild since his orgasm the other night. The first night was intentional. Last night was not. I simply forgot since we didn’t do punishment or play. Again, I’ll see how Lion feels. I don’t want to add to his sleeplessness by making him worry about the cage.

At the very least, we’ll snuggle tonight. It might be lazy, legs-draped-over-each-other snuggling but we’ll be touching.

[Lion — I’m fine locked or wild. I imagine I’ll be caged before the evening is over.]

Monday’s orgasm came after a nine day wait. The orgasm before that also came after nine days. Neither of us kept track at the time. Thanks to my trusty spreadsheet, I was able to note this coincidence. I wonder if this is a new cycle for me. It’s true that after eight days I got fairly close when Mrs. Lion edged me. But I didn’t feel the urgency usual during an edging session.

I suppose it doesn’t really matter how many days I wait between orgasms. Mrs. Lion doesn’t pay attention to the count. For the most part, I don’t either. It just seemed odd that the interval jumped from four or five days to nine.

It wasn’t that Mrs. Lion was trying to extend my waiting time. After four or five days she tried valiantly to get me close. I just couldn’t do it. That’s why I thought I was broken. I’m not sure this has any significance at all, but I always get worried when I can’t get aroused beyond a certain point. I know, it’s silly to obsess about ejaculation frequency. Even if I were capable of orgasm sooner, there was certainly no guarantee Mrs. Lion would provide one.

I’m pretty sure that guys who aren’t under orgasm control don’t pay attention to orgasm spacing. I suspect they don’t get edged very much either. For them, sex, once started, generally ends in ejaculation. That’s certainly not true for me.

I think that sex is a much more frequent topic of conversation in chastity circles than it is in the vanilla world. After all, vanilla guys can just jerk off if they feel horny.

I wonder if those of us under orgasm control are generally more interested in sex. I’m pretty sure that the way I think about sex is very different from the vanilla crowd. My specific case is even different from other chastity couples. Since Mrs. Lion isn’t interested in sex for herself, all thought and talk about sex with us refers exclusively to me.

Can it be that enforced male chastity breeds a new, hornier male? Is external arousal and orgasm control a way to enhance male sexuality? Wouldn’t that be perverse if it is? I don’t think I ever thought so much about my penis as I have since it’s been locked up. Out of sight, out of mind clearly doesn’t apply.

If that’s true of me, does Mrs. Lion for her part, think more about my penis since she’s been locking it up? I wonder if she thinks about it at all? She certainly knows what to do with it. That doesn’t mean it’s a topic of interest to her.

This is an area of great mystery to me. I’ve long wondered what my lioness thinks about when it comes to providing sexual activities for me. I also wonder how she really feels about locking me in a chastity device.

Maybe I don’t want to know.

If you read Lion’s post this morning, you saw his bloodied buns. I didn’t set out to make them bloody. He has this mixture of sensitive outer skin over an armored inner skin. This can create a bruised and bloody outside with little feeling underneath.

I’m not saying Lion didn’t feel it when I whomped him. As a mater of fact, he told me I was starting off hitting too hard. Oh? Really? Who said he was in charge of how hard I hit? Those were the options I came up with: harder swats, more swats, dessert, or a combination of any or all of those. I see harder swats on the list so I can’t be wrong if I started with hard swats. Well, I can’t be wrong anyway. I’m in charge.

What I decided, after I did hit a little less hard, was that perhaps I should start out with a series of harder swats to let him know I mean business. The swats after that are bound to feel hard whether they are or not. And I bet if you asked Lion, he wouldn’t think the later swats were any different from those first ones.

The other thing I did was to increase the amount of swats. Instead of rounds of ten, I did rounds of fifteen. Forgetting punishment day for the second Saturday in a row deserved a ramped up punishment.

When I was done, Lion asked if there would be dessert. Because I’d written it in my post, he thought there should be some. See above. I made a list of ideas. I never said they would all happen. I just happened to choose harder swats and more of them. Relax, Lion. You’ve got more punishment coming tonight. Who knows what I’ll do? Not me. Not yet.

A while after his beating, I unlocked him and attempted to edge him. If you remember, he said he was broken the other night. One night of not being able to reach the edge after two nights of getting to the edge and he thought he was broken. Not true. I got him there at least three times. And then I let him go over the edge. Again, he pessimistically said he didn’t produce any semen. Maybe he didn’t see it because I’d already eaten it. So I squeezed him like a tube of toothpaste and got some more. Yum!

my spanked butt
Mrs. Lion spanked me last night. She decided to make a strong impression as you can see. She drew blood. Ouch!
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This is one of those times when Mrs. Lion says she’s going to put one of the principles of our disciplinary relationship into practice. For the second time in a row, I forgot that Saturday was punishment day. She admits that she set the new day is a challenge for me; a challenge I failed for the second time.

We have both written about the need to improve reinforcement if a punishment fails to get the desired result. Almost all of the time, I’ve managed to learn my lesson after the first punishment. That’s not to say that over time I don’t slip back.

When we first began discussing and writing about using discipline, the basic principle was that I’m promptly and strictly punished for infractions. It’s expected that over time I might break the rule again and need a refresher. However, if I break that rule again too soon, it indicates that I didn’t receive a harsh enough penalty to make a strong impression. The theory is that repeated offenses are greeted with more severe punishments.

In her post on Sunday, Mrs. Lion brought this up again. She made it clear that this time she would be working to make a much stronger impression on me. This will be the first time she has implemented increasing punishments for repeat offenses. She speculated that she would probably add days of spanking to the three I would normally get for breaking a rule. She also said that she would be adding punishment desserts like mouth soaping on some of the days.

I was a little surprised to read that. I thought she had forgotten about the idea of accelerating sensations for repeat offenses. Silly me. My lioness doesn’t forget anything.

Within the last month or so, we’ve gone from a single disciplinary spanking for an offense to a series of spankings over several days. This change was necessitated because my hide seems to have toughened and I don’t feel the results of the strong spanking more than an hour or two after it’s completed. Mrs. Lion wants a much more lasting effect. She’s decided that minor offenses earn me a spanking a day for three days. More severe offenses and repeat offenses (apparently), extend the number of consecutive days I get spanked for the offense. They also increase the intensity of punishments and add punishment desserts.

I realize that some people may think this is unnecessarily cruel. It’s not. Mrs. Lion and I both agree that we need these changes to maintain her effectiveness as my disciplining wife. I am completely comfortable, if not happy, with this new regime. After all, the fact that I want to be spanked complicates Mrs. Lion’s disciplinary picture.

We’ve discussed changing my primary punishment into something other than spanking. Mrs. Lion likes using spanking and I agree that the changes we have made transforms the experience from an erotic BDSM exercise into real punishment. When she adds things like mouth soaping and corner time, the disciplinary interpretation of the spanking becomes even stronger.

Of course, all of this, even the parts I truly hate, are completely consensual. We’ve agreed that our disciplinary relationship serves us well. It emphasizes our roles and helps me focus on being much more aware of my lioness’ feelings. There is a website, “The Disciplinary Couples Club,” that offers weekly discussions on topics of interest to couples practicing domestic discipline. This particular website is focused on female dominant relationships.

It’s usually a good read and provides diverse viewpoints provided by both disciplined men and their disciplining wives. By reading this over time, I’ve learned that Mrs. Lion and I are not that different from others doing this stuff. The desire to be disciplined seems to originate from the men, who have an erotic interest in being spanked, and picked up by their wives.

It’s clear from what I read that, like Mrs. Lion and I, the spankings and other punishmentsr  are not erotic and are taken seriously by both partners. As I’ve written before, what starts out as a sexual desire, is easily converted to a tool that helps with behavioral modification. I’ve yet to find a man who didn’t want to be spanked and who is now being disciplined by his wife.

Obviously, we have no one to blame but ourselves. I certainly got myself into this pickle. There are times I’m very sorry that I did. Almost all of the time I’m grateful to Mrs. Lion for being my disciplining wife and I wish she continued to treat me strictly.