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In: Sex, Games, Lion's Journal
shock collar under lion's balls
This is one of the shock collars we use. You can see that the electrodes don’t necessarily make good contact to the loose skin of my scrotum.
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Mrs. Lion brought up an interesting subject the other night. She wrote about it in our post yesterday. After we got home from our evening at the casino, apropos of nothing she announced that on days that I’m not horny it shouldn’t count against how long I wait between orgasms. I protested saying that it didn’t make sense to me. I didn’t go on but I was thinking that since I don’t know how long I’m supposed to wait anyway, whether she counter doesn’t count today is irrelevant since I have no idea what she uses for system.

I started thinking about it as I drifted off to sleep. It occurred to me that there is a way to know if I am horny or not; simply try to edge me. If I can be edged there’s a good chance that you’re dealing with a horny lion. If not, you’re not. We then thought a little bit more about this and decided that maybe there could be a threshold for when I would be eligible to have an orgasm. My thought was that I had to be edged a certain number of days and after that Mrs. Lion could give me an orgasm at anytime she wanted. I know she likes to surprise me so I figured the edge count would simply set my eligibility without giving away when I actually would get a chance to ejaculate.

This has a sort of game feel to it and I like that. Speaking of games, I reminded Mrs. Lion that we have an NFL game we haven’t tried yet this season. She replied that our team, the New York Giants, when doing so depressingly bad that the game didn’t seem to make sense to her. I said that I missed it. She has made a reminder of the rules. The game is played with a paddle or two. Every time either side scores, I get swatted twice the number of points made by either team. The touchdown gets me 14 swats. Mrs. Lion tended to hit harder, a lot harder, when the team playing against the Giants scored. I was also swatted two times for every turnover the opposition made against the Giants. Given the current crappy season, perhaps it should be for or maybe even eight times for each time our quarterback is sacked where the ball is fumbled and turned over.

In terms of watching the game, playing our NFL game poses no problem. There are lots of commercials after each touchdown and we almost always record the game and watch it later. We can pause it and start it again after my swats. Some games have proven extremely painful for me. I suppose a variation on this game that would be closer to how Mrs. Lion feels about our team would be that I get swats for every time the opposition scores. Maybe it should be more per point. That way, points scored by our team would be rewarded by an absence of painful paddle strikes. Just a thought. Another possibility would be to replace the spanking with clothespins applied to my balls and penis. They would remain in place until the game was over. Perhaps one clothespin for each point scored in the game.

Another game we used to play was Zapardy. During this game I would where the shock collar around my balls and I would answer questions during the Jeopardy program. If I got the answer wrong, Mrs. Lion would send a shock into my balls. She always liked that game. I don’t think the shock collar has turned up yet. It may still be in a box of our stuff that hasn’t been unpacked. When it is, I’ll be sure to remind her about the game.

We’ve never worked out any games around sex. It seems to me that would be a very good possibility. I’m not sure how it would work, but maybe someone will have a creative idea. Meanwhile, when the Giants play tonight perhaps we will too.

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In: Edging, Mrs Lion Comments, Orgasm

We’ve gone around and around with wait times. How long is optimum? Should Lion know when his next orgasm is? Should there be a scheduled orgasm? I thought we were on the same page with random orgasms when I decide to give him one. Apparently not.

In my post yesterday, I tried to explain my point that not all wait times are created equal because if Lion isn’t horny for most of the days, they shouldn’t really “count”. This morning, Lion suggested that his wait time be tied to edging. A certain number of edging days would equal an orgasm. I agreed that it was an interesting idea but not really the point I was trying to make. I’m not sure edging equals horniness necessarily so how does that help? He said it would help him. Does that mean he needs to know when he’ll get an orgasm?

I like the element of surprise. I think he shouldn’t know when he’s getting one. I think every time should be “this is it!” If this one isn’t the one then it seems to take away some of the excitement. If you know Tuesday is not the night, then it just becomes a “meh” edging session. I’m not saying an edging session without an orgasm isn’t exciting. There’s just something missing if you know an orgasm isn’t possible.

Say you love turkey dinner. You wait all year for Thanksgiving. But what if you came home some random night and you walked in to turkey dinner? Yes! No one told you there would be turkey dinner tonight. I like to surprise Lion like that. A few weeks ago, he had no idea he’d have a bidet in his very own bathroom. He had no idea there’d be a box on the porch with Mallomars in it. He has no idea when his next orgasm will be.

I like it that way.

[Lion — I love surprises. I brought up edging because Mrs. Lion suggested that days I am not horny shouldn’t count in my wait. Since I have no idea how long I have to wait, the idea of arbitrarily making it longer because I wasn’t horny seemed unfair. How does Mrs. Lion know whether or not I am horny? She only knows if I tell her. See the problem? My suggestion was that we use the ability to be edged as a way of determining if I am horny. I suggested that perhaps I would have to be edged a minimum number of days before I am even eligible to get to come. I have no assurance I will get an orgasm then. All I know is that I won’t get one until I am edged x-number of days.]

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In: Lion's Journal, Female led relationship with discipline, Punishment
angry lioness
This is how I want Mrs. Lion to react when I upset her: Growl, snarl, and go for her paddle.

Well, we didn’t end up playing with the new prickly jockstrap last night. We decided to go to the casino and have a little fun and take advantage of a free dinner we were offered. The local casino has a really nice buffet that normally costs about $35 per person. Getting coupons for free dinners is an irresistible treat for the two of us. We normally win a couple of bucks or lose a few when we go there. It’s possible we’ll even lose the cost of the dinners. But we both like to play the slots.

Friday night I got spanked for spilling barbecue sauce when we went out to dinner on Thursday. Mrs. Lion took it a bit easier. A “bit easier” now is more severe than she was before this newest incarnation of lioness 3.0. It hurts to sit down. It’s especially bad when there are no cushions on the seat. I thought I was doing well until we went to our car dealer to get the oil changed in our compact SUV. The seats there had minimal padding and I felt it.

This is very new to me. I’ve been spanked in the past as part of BDSM play. Some of it, quite severe. I’ve been caned, strapped, flogged, and of course paddled. Occasionally, I would feel a little sore next day. That was very rare. Now, I’m quite uncomfortable and have been all week. I’m not feeling sorry for myself. Actually, I think it’s this residual pain that provides the most benefit from a punishment.

Yes, it’s really awful when Mrs. Lion paddles me now. It’s supposed to be. Occasionally, readers comment on why I would consider this something good. It’s good because it benefits both of us. Mrs. Lion has a positive outlet for dealing with things I do that upset her. I can’t say that what we’re doing is right for everyone. Let’s face it, domestic discipline isn’t a particularly popular practice.

The important thing to consider is that in our case it’s not something being imposed on me. It’s something I elected. From what I’ve been able to learn, pretty much every male who is in a DD relationship, requested it. I suppose there are as many reasons for this is there are people practicing it. In rare cases, there is a seriously dangerous problem like excessive drinking. The drinker, a man in our example, knows he’s in trouble. For whatever reason, he doesn’t choose the more conventional treatment opportunities. Most likely, his wife is tired of his drinking and has let him know that she is at the end of her rope. He, has read about domestic discipline and imagines that physical punishment might be the way to cure him.

I’m aware of several people who have done this. No, they didn’t magically become sober. But they did add personal accountability when they slipped. Their marriage is improved. Mrs. Lion and I have always had a very good marriage. But I think that one of the reasons it’s so good is that she “gives in” a great deal of the time. So, instead of alcohol, my problem may be that I’m too overbearing.

This bothers me a lot. It’s true that I do like it when Mrs. Lion is in control. But that’s not the most important reason I wanted to be in a relationship like this with her. I want her to feel her own power. I want her to know that I will love her no matter what and I truly care about how she feels about things.

That’s why lioness 3.0 is so important to me. She stands up for herself and uses her paddle as an equalizer. That wasn’t going to happen even if she spanks me if the punishment was too mild. I am both happy and sad to report that “mild” is not a word I could possibly apply to Mrs. Lion’s spankings. This is how I wanted to be. It’s not abuse because I want it. I’m very sure that we have made the right decision to pursue this.

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In: Edging, Mrs Lion Comments
confinrment jockstrap with points
This is the leather confinement jockstrap I just got. I’m going to be sorry I bought it.

I’m thinking tonight might be the night to really test out the prickly jock. Lion got some locks but are they really necessary? I mean, I’ll be right next to Lion the whole time. In the future he might be tempted to take it off before he’s allowed to, but he won’t do it right away.

The past few nights I’ve tried to edge him, he hasn’t been able to get there. I know he’s got a lot on his mind. I was going to tie his balls up tonight to get him more excited. Then I remember the new jock strap. I hope that will do the trick.

Now, here’s where we have a tiny disagreement. Lion counts his wait as being from the last orgasm. I say if he’s not horny or able to get that excited, then it technically shouldn’t count as a day of waiting. I know. I know. That’s hard to wrap your mind around. How do you know when to count the day? It’s not really an exact science. My point is more that each day waiting is not necessarily the same. There are times that Lion is obviously horny from day two onward. Then there are times like this wait. I don’t think he’s really been horny. I may be wrong. I’m sure if I were able to get him to the edge it would increase his horniness exponentially. And then he’d be even hornier the next day.

I don’t know how long Lion has been waiting, but when he tells me, “It’s been X days” it won’t mean as much as when he’s been very horny and very frustrated. All waits are not created equal. Maybe it’s a little like waiting for your paycheck. Sometimes you really need that paycheck. It’s a lean week. Other times you make it with more money left over. Lion is making it just fine to the next paycheck.