I Don’t Really Want to Be Unfair

I finally remembered about Spankardy last night. Lion made a face at first but then said he wanted to play, but he had to use the bathroom. When he got back, it was obvious he wasn’t feeling up to it. More tummy troubles. This morning, the dog had to go for a bath. It’s been months and she doesn’t let me touch her feet to trim her nails so it was way past time for a pawdicure. Lion’s tummy was still off so I took her and decided to go shopping on the way home.

Did you ever have one of those days? We were early for the bath so I zipped into Lowes for some weed killer. Once I dropped the dog off, I headed for the store. They were out of our orange juice. They have an amazing sale on twelve-packs of soda but they didn’t have the flavor I like. The pharmacy wasn’t open yet. What the hell? I decided it wasn’t worth it. I can either try again when I pick up the dog or we’ll go out tomorrow.

Whether we delve into the Box O’Fun later depends on how Lion feels. We didn’t play last night because it was just a day after hia orgasm and because he wasn’t feeling well. Do you suppose his stomach reacts to having an orgasm? Wouldn’t that be bad luck? It’s the thing he loves most in the world and his body reacts to it. Bite my tongue!

I’m still struggling with the whole fairness issue. I understand his idea of throwing caution to the wind and swatting away to start out, but that doesn’t make it any easier. Somehow I think it’s different from my hesitancy to spank him in the beginning. I was really afraid I would hurt him. Once I realized how tough his hide was, I could spank him. It took a bit to get the punishment severity figured out too, but I did it. Being unfair is a lot more difficult. I don’t know if it’s because it’s a subjective rule or if it’s because it’s “against” me.

The other rules are binary. Did he spill food? Did he eat first? Did he put the coffee pot together? The answer is either yes or no. Of course, there is gray when he isn’t feeling well and I’m understanding of his transgressions. Annoying me is not black and white. Did he annoy me? Yes, but was it really that big of a deal? Do I feel better because I called him out on it? Does he really deserve to be spanked? Was it just the once or was he annoying me a lot that day? These are the things that go through my mind.

The one thing I do know is that it will be a lot easier for me to spank him for annoying me than it will be for Lion to drop the issue. Of course, if getting him to drop the issue results in punishment, who has won? [Lion — You won! That’s my point.]

3 Comments

  1. Have you considered a warning notice? My wife used to count for the kids… I don’t think she ever had to count past three. Perhaps when Lion annoys you, you can just say “one”, whichbis his one and only warning. If he continues to annoy you, then he earns a spanking. This way, something that might be a mild annoyance when you are not dealing with any other issues would just get the warning, but the warning could come much faster if you are already upset about something. Lion would get some kind of indicator of your mood without having to wonder if you are on edge that day or not.

    Just an idea… I am sure you will figure out something that works for both of you.

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      That could work. I’ve figured out that if I point out his interrupting it makes me feel better, but one time he kept doing it and he earned himself a spanking. I could fire a warning shot across the bow, so to speak, and then he’d know he’s getting close to a spanking.

      1. That might be a good start. I think the key is awareness on both of our parts.

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