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Even kinky people can get into a rut. Mrs. Lion and I seem to have found ourselves in one. I’ve been unable to get very aroused when Mrs. Lion tries to turn me on and edge me. I’m sure it’s that I’m in a slump. It’s also because we have fallen into a routine. Sure, it’s a fun routine that includes oral sex. I always like that; what male doesn’t? Right now, it isn’t enough.

In her post yesterday, Mrs. Lion wrote that she planned to shove the Njoy butt plug up my ass as a way to spice things up. That might work, but it is her standard second-stage technique when sexual stimulation alone doesn’t work. I understand that Mrs. Lion has to depend on her imagination to develop activities I might like. Over the years, I’ve made lots of suggestions. Most require considerable effort to implement. That is certainly a big part of the problem.

We get back to the elephant in the room. Mrs. Lion has no interest in sex. Doing things to or for me isn’t exciting. She does them as a service to me. I’m very grateful that she does. It’s natural to look for ways to dispense the service as efficiently as possible. If pegging me turned her on, then she would want to spend time with plugs and dildos. Similarly, if bondage were exciting, she would want to take the time to restrain me. They aren’t. The bottom line is that they take time and energy away from things she would much rather do.

To make matters worse, this is obvious to me. I’m lucky that she loves me enough to do all she does to give me a sex life. As I get older, it becomes more difficult to get me off. I understand that. She hasn’t found any way to enjoy topping me. She says that she enjoys getting me off. I don’t doubt it. If I can’t get to the edge, then that fun has been removed.

In the past, I asked her to check out other sites written by women tops. She looked at some but said she didn’t like reading the posts. She sometimes shops BDSM supply websites. She only does that when she has an idea she wants to implement. Maybe it’s time for me to give up on sex too. Or, maybe I should take sex into my own hands again. I won’t like that. I’ve never favored masturbation, but at least it will take the pressure off my lioness. It’s unfair to expect her to keep providing me with a one-way sex life.

[Mrs. Lion — Poor Lion. (Did I roll my eyes out loud?) I think he needs to get over the idea that I need to be turned on to “service” him correctly. I’ll drag out dildos and handcuffs if it will get his motor running. And keep your hands off yourself, my pet.]

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Lion didn’t get excited for me last night. He said he’d been horny in the afternoon. It was late, and I don’t think he’d snoozed. We decided to try earlier today. We have some errands to run, and then we’ll do just that. The waxing will wait until tomorrow.

I think I’ll shove the small NJoy butt plug in for a while before I play with Lion. That will give him some time to get used to it before I try to get him hard. If he can’t get hard with it in, I can always remove it and try again. I might even be tempted to move it in and out a few times. I don’t know if that will help him, but it will amuse me.

I’d really like to give Lion an orgasm. Obviously, I can’t if he’s not even getting to the edge. I’ve wondered if I should set a timer when I suck him. We tried that a few years ago. I’d give him a hand job and set a one-minute timer to see if he could come before the timer went off. Naturally, the more we did it, the closer he got until he came. I could do the opposite this time. If he doesn’t show any signs of getting to the edge in ten minutes, we stop. I don’t know if ten minutes is fair. I don’t know how long I normally suck him. I think we can find a suitable number if I decide to do it. Of course, I could do it the same way we did in the past. I could set it for five minutes, see how far he gets, and then keep repeating for five-minute intervals until he comes or breaks.

There has to be a way to get Lion going again.

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Yes, I’ve been writing about dogs quite a bit lately. Losing our wonderful golden retriever, Daisy, was a serious blow. Thanks to misinformation and veterinarians who should know better, the poor dog suffered unnecessarily. Worse, the local vet didn’t even interpret her behavior correctly and left her in terrible pain. I had faith that a vet recommended by Mrs. Lion’s coworkers could be trusted. Wrong! You can read the sad story here.

Since it’s obvious that the vast majority of vets get away with mediocre medical ability, it falls on our shoulders to do our own research. I was very curious about the widespread hip problems that afflict dogs. Our undereducated vets tell us that bad hips are caused by poor breeding. There is some truth to this, but it is far from the whole story.

Recent research (2020 study in Germany) proves a strong correlation between spaying and neutering and joint disease. It turns out that for most breeds, particularly larger dogs, spaying and neutering at any age will increase the odds that the dog will suffer from joint disease and cancer later in life. Our trusty vets and the ASPCA tell us to neuter our pets at six months. According to the study, this is too young for any breed.

Golden retrievers are particularly sensitive to the effects of having their reproductive organs removed. The study gave recommendations by breed. Goldens should never be spayed or neutered. Period. The AKC Canine Health Foundation knows this. Do our lazy, money-grubbing vets know? Nope. They would have to read journal articles to learn. Besides, they make good money ripping out doggy ovaries and gonads.

There are obvious questions about keeping dogs intact (able to reproduce). They need to be controlled to avoid accidental pregnancies. It turns out that in Finland, where it is against the law to spay or neuter, the stray dog problem is almost nonexistent. The dog population there is well controlled. Here in the US, where ignorant advocates like Betty White rave about spaying and neutering, the stray dog population is out of control. It has nothing to do with population control. It’s all about irresponsible dog owners.

Mrs. Lion and I would prefer to prevent Willow from accidental pregnancy. Almost all kennels and doggy daycare facilities require spayed animals. Two solutions will avoid the horrible fate that Daisy suffered. The first is a hysterectomy. The uterus is removed, and the ovaries are left intact. This allows the dog’s hormones to remain in balance. There are no studies on this yet, but researchers believe there is evidence that this less radical sterilization solution will avoid the problems associated with spaying.

Males can get a vasectomy. I got one, and my hips are fine. Seriously, vasectomy is a safe way to sterilize a male. Some people neuter males to “calm” them. It’s true that when you cut a male’s balls off, his testosterone level goes down, and he is calmer. However, the risk to the poor dog’s bones isn’t worth it. Females can get a tubal ligation. This isn’t 100% reliable, but very good.

There are a limited number of vets who will do hysterectomies or vasectomies. Most vets claim they weren’t taught to do them in med school and therefore, refuse. A Google search will yield a list of vets in your area who will do it. It costs more (what else is new?) than spaying. It’s worth it. The study (link above) has a chart for different breeds that indicate the optimum age for spaying and neutering. Some breeds, like golden retrievers, should never be spayed or neutered.

It may seem odd that you get this information from a sex blogger. All I can say is that it’s important to be an educated medical consumer. This goes for your pets as well as yourself. Remember that vets are in business to make money. Time spent learning about new developments is a time when they aren’t making money. Unfortunately, veterinary malpractice isn’t a lucrative legal area for lawyers to pursue. Generally, the most you can win in a lawsuit is the cost of the animal. The amount of work needed to build a case makes it likely that any action will cost more to mount than could be won.

Yelp is one way to evaluate vets. Unfortunately, my research shows that negative reviews are almost exclusively about rude office staff and vets. Very few discuss malpractice. I believed that recommendations from people we know would be a good way to find a qualified vet. It isn’t always. We found a new vet for Willow. It’s a very large practice that isn’t accepting new patients. One of Mrs. Lion’s coworkers has two dogs who have chronic medical issues. She is very enthusiastic about how her dogs are helped. Yelp reviews are also overwhelmingly positive. The practice agreed to accept Willow as a patient.

One last suggestion: Get medical insurance for your pet. It isn’t cheap. Willow’s policy costs $167 a month. The rate is based on medical costs in our area, not breed or age. Daisy had Trupanion insurance. It paid 90% of all treatments. It didn’t cover exams or routine treatments. It did cover her expensive medications. Her anti-seizure drugs cost over $100 a month. Trupanion paid 90%. Her end-of-life hospital treatment cost $2,600. Our share was $450. There is no way we could have afforded these costs without insurance.

Would you please take the time to become an educated animal medical consumer? Learn all you can. You wouldn’t blindly trust a doc-in-a-box with critical medical care for you or a loved one. It’s no different for your pets. The vast majority of vets care about animals and try to offer good care. That doesn’t mean these well-meaning animal docs don’t make mistakes. Sadly, when they do, no one lets them know. It’s up to us to keep them honest and our pets healthy and happy.

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I am much more awake today than I was yesterday. I was so tired I forgot it was punishment day. Lion reminded me early in the day, but he didn’t get his just because spanking. I know he’s disappointed by that. Yeah, right. He said he thought I decided two spankings a week was too much. Ha! No, but thank you for playing our game.

We did not play last night either. That was a conscious decision. I didn’t forget to play. I was just too tired. Being on puppy duty has been running me ragged. This morning she was up at 3 and 5. Both times I let her out and put her back in her crate. She whined but I was able to get more sleep. I have been playing with her when she gets up around 5 so we can both go back to sleep when she gets tired out. Unfortunately, puppies tend to have limitless energy. Until they don’t. Full on or full off. There’s no in between.

I realized this morning that I promised to wax Lion this weekend. Ugh. The process doesn’t take long. It’s cleaning off the waxing table, melting the wax, and then waxing him that takes a long time. I guess I build up the whole procedure in my mind as something I don’t really want to be bothered with and then it turns out to be less of a chore than I anticipated. That’s one of my many bad habits I need to work on. Yay waxing.

We need to get back on track. We’ve been letting things invade our play time. When I say play, I mean just sex or BDSM with sex. Just because spankings are not play. They may get Lion turned on, but that’s not play. That falls under the punishment category even though Lion hasn’t broken a rule. They have the same force, or they should, as punishment spankings. They serve to remind Lion what happens when he does break a rule and to give me practice at improving my technique.

At some point we may not need just because spankings. If I can get my act together and punish him for interrupting or annoying me, I’m sure he’d be earning a punishment for every punishment day. That’s one technique he may not want me to improve.