I didn’t actually say anal play would definitely help Lion’s semen production. At best, I said it couldn’t hurt. However, I did say we don’t always have to do something kinky. Apparently, we do. I know Lion likes the fanfare and buildup. I just didn’t know he needed it every time. No wonder he doesn’t respond well without it. There have been a few times over the years that he’s told me he doesn’t need BDSM to be happy. I’ve always known that wasn’t true. He can go for a little while, but then he needs it again. Maybe now he can’t even go for a little while.
Now on to the same old, same old problem. I don’t want sex and Lion feels guilty when I give him sex. He wants to go back to our “normal” sex lives again. He says it’s exciting to give me an orgasm. I find it somewhat annoying to have an orgasm I don’t want. Why is that? I don’t know. Does it feel good? Physically, yes. Emotionally, it’s like going through the motions. I assume it’s similar to how I can give Lion an orgasm if I try long enough even though he’s not at his horniest. Does it feel good to him? On some level, yes, but it’s not exactly satisfying.
Personally, I think Lion should just shut up about it and be happy I’m able/willing/etc. to give him orgasms. Yes, I understand some orgasms are better than others. See above. And I will do more to give him the buildup he needs. The issue with his worrying about my feeling achy or tired will just make me hide when I’m achy or tired. Days like yesterday, I couldn’t hide it. Even my aches had aches, but I had mowed the lawn, so it wasn’t unexpected, and it did go away when I took more Tylenol. Luckily, Lion was really tired so it was less of an issue that I was in no shape to give him attention. Unfortunately, today is a sunny day and I should go mow more of the lawn. More Tylenol, please.
Maybe I need to break out those restraints for tonight. I’ll tie that Lion down and see what evil things I can do to him to get his motor running. I hope he’s not tired again.
[Lion — I will dedicate a post to my view of this subject. Let me say that I didn’t write that I needed BDSM every time. I wrote that real edging does a lot more than just getting me very aroused. Conventional foreplay works very well for me most of the time. I can’t help feeling guilty about being selfish because Mrs. Lion doesn’t want sex from me. Maybe I should just shut up about it.]
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