One of our readers, Mr. Bill, commented that he and his wife are discovering that sex is more than orgasms. That was very good to learn. Since Mrs. Lion lost interest in orgasms for herself, I’ve felt guilty that my sexual needs had become just another chore for her. Sex was something I needed, and it was her job to provide it. I’m pretty sure that she never thought about it that way, but I couldn’t help believing that was how it was for her.
Whwn we finally tried fucking again, a light went on in my head. I realized that having an orgasm wasn’t top of mind for me. I loved being inside her. I know that she wanted me to come. That was her main reason for riding me. I sensed that she liked it too. It wasn’t about arousal for her. I think it was the loving connection we made. Neither of us is very physical. We aren’t touchy feely people. We like to kiss and hold hands, but we aren’t very demonstrative.
There is something incredibly intimate about vanilla sex. It’s the most personal thing people can do. That’s why stealing sex, rape, is such a serious crime. When two people in love fuck, there is a very deep connection. Sure, sex can also be recreational. Fucking can be fun with someone you don’t love. But when it is with your mate, it’s different. It isn’t just sex; it’s something more.
I’m realizing that the lifelong focus on orgasms I’ve had was a distraction from the more important, subtle value of sex. Even sex with a stranger helps fill a need for close contact. It’s hard for me to put into words. Women probably have an easier time with this concept. Female sexual arousal is linear. It slowly grows until orgasm is reached. That slow progression gives a lot of pleasure long before orgasm. Males get aroused quickly but plateau well below orgasm. When orgasm arrives, it is a quick peak of arousal followed by ejaculation and loss of excitement. The plateau we reach before orgasm is nice, but far from the intensity of those few dramatic seconds.
Since we hadn’t fucked in over six years, that first experience was a bit of a revelation for me. Yes, I wanted to orgasm inside my lioness. I’ll always want that. I was very happy not reaching the peak too. It felt so good to be connected with her. I hope she shared that feeling. I want more; a lot more.
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